Hypnosis (again)

**collegeconfusion101** · 02-29-2012

Sorry if im beating a dead horse here, i know hypnosis has been addressed many times. But everything has been about self hypnosis. What i have not read anything about is actually undergoing hypnosis by a professional. Now i know what you're all going to say, "just do the exercises." But i dont know, at this point im so much in my head that i have trouble concentrating on the techniques i've learned.

To put it simply, my confidence is shot. I'm not the type of guy that has a lot of sexual encounters w/ women but they do happen for me every few months or so, and even though i plan to continue with the exercises regardless, i'm scared to embarrass myself again. I feel like any sort of confidence boost, even if it may be a placebo effect, could help me out drastically.

I've watched people get hypnotized and i believe in it, much more than i believe in self hypnosis. There is supposed to be a very good hypnotherapist here in Sacramento who lists PE as a condition she can help with.

If anyone has an experience or has something to add aside from telling me to just stick with the exercises, i would be very interested in hearing from you. Thanks.

**CaptainJohnson** · 02-29-2012

Hypnosis won't make your dick bigger. It just doesn't work like that.

The reason skepticism does not aid growth is because it keeps people from diligently doing the necessary exercise. Also, a positive attitude will help you invest energy and effort into the actual exercise. Hypnosis could be utilized to aid in your self-esteem over your penis, maybe even serve as a placebo to make you 'think' it is bigger, but it will not make it grow.

**BTBrian** · 02-29-2012

Originally Posted by CaptainJohnson

Hypnosis won't make your dick bigger. It just doesn't work like that.

The reason skepticism does not aid growth is because it keeps people from diligently doing the necessary exercise. Also, a positive attitude will help you invest energy and effort into the actual exercise. Hypnosis could be utilized to aid in your self-esteem over your penis, maybe even serve as a placebo to make you 'think' it is bigger, but it will not make it grow.

He's talking about pre-e not pe

**CaptainJohnson** · 02-29-2012

Originally Posted by BTBrian

He's talking about pre-e not pe

Lol wow that keeps happening to me. Crap. In that case, Yes!

It absolutely can help! Even cure it! BUT!!!! CAUTION!!! only 1 in 10 people are extremely susceptible to induction (hypnosis) and 1 in 10 are extremely resistant to it. Everyone else falls on the scale somewhere in the middle.

If you have the cash, it can't hurt to try, but just remember that it doesn't always resolve everything.

Edging, for example, won't help your mental state, and often pre-e can have much more to do with your state of mind than with physical aspects. This means that induction can actually be even better than edging... but! the exercises are ultimately healthy for you and help you improve your physical prowess as well... so you are right to keep doing them.

**adiavroxos** · 02-29-2012

I know it can be very hard for a guy with PE to be worried about performance, I also suffer from it and sometimes cant last long enough to give my gf an orgasm. Let me tell you something. You are in control of your anxiety and mood, you can cure your stress, but it takes a while. Stop thinking about it and enjoy how YOU feel during a sex session. If you think you wont last enough, then YOU WONT for sure. A strong negative thought can make you ejaculate within seconds. Its fear. Just relax. Dont have waaaay too many expectations please. Few people can give their women an orgasm during every sex session, excluding oral or fingering of course. So plz stop beating yourself that hard. Lasting 30' is not normal. Lasting from 2' to 15' is. Sometimes becoming so aroused that you think you will burst IS normal. You are human, not a dildo. You are programmed to penetrate, move for a few minutes and finish the job.

If I were you, I'd try to find a gf that is not entirely interested in sex. Having more sex will cure your problem and make you a MUCH better lover. Nobody was born a porn star, and only VERY VERY few will become as good as they are. I was like you 4 months ago but I found the courage to snap out it. Try to enjoy sex and you will be amazed. Enjoy every moment and stop thinking about your PE during foreplay, penetration or initial thrusting. Just see your girl and how she feels. If you think you are closing the PONR, then slow down, stop or even get out of her and stop. Do something else, like oral to keep her stimulated. If you like it and enjoy it, she WILL enjoy it too. She wont care about your PE if she has a good time anyways. If she asks why you stopped, be honest with her. Tell her you want to enjoy more of her. This will remove a lot of the stress from your system.
Hypnosis, drugs, surgery are not the way to go I think as they are not 100% safe and 100% guaranteed to work, or at least as good as are supposed to be.
I hope this helps.

**thedude5** · 03-04-2012

I was just about to post something in the same genre. I've had Pre-E my whole life (I'm 33) and have tried a lot of things from Cialis to Priligy to herbs and supplements. I've recently started the kegel/reverse kegel on Pegasus's recommendation. But I tried a little experiment this morning. The fiance had to go to work so I laid in bed and got comfortable. Then I got myself hard and concentrated on relaxing my body. I tried to concentrate on relaxing every muscle in my body individually...except obviously for the ones keeping me hard, i.e wrist, forearm, etc! But other than that relaxed. I concentrated on my breathing...feeling my muscles go from tense to relaxed. Then I pictured myself lying on a deserted beautiful beach looking out across the ocean. My "happy place" if you will. I kept stroking while thinking of my happy place. listening to the waves...the peacefullness. I could have done that all morning.

Then as I test I thought of something else. I thought of my fiance (who happens to be ridiculously hot...I way outkicked my coverage here) whispering dirty things to me and all of a sudden things changed. That familiar feeling rushed to my penis...the impending doom of sex being over in an instant. I stopped...relaxed then resumed stroking while thinking about my happy place. And I was back to going just fine. Relaxed again...could have gone all morning like that once again. Then I thought of my lady bent over a chair in six inch heels begging for more. And instantly I felt the involuntary kegels go into full effect and if I hadn't stopped I would have blown right then and there. I didn't...I stopped and didn't let myself finish. Maybe as a punishment to my penis for lacking control. And because I've read it can help as a training mechanism.

So clearly my problem is mental...that much I can see. But the thing I wonder is if something like hypnosis or self-hypnosis could work for me. Or if it's behavioral and an overall mindset thing I would have to train over time. I'm smart enough to realize it's deeply embedded in me that sexiness = I wanna ejaculate. But if anyone has any suggestions for those of us leaning towards the mental side I'd love to hear it. I've done the whole "just try to relax and enjoy it" thing. It's not that simple...for me anyway. There's a deeper association I need to retrain and it sounded like collegeconfusion, who started this thread, is in the same boat. Any ideas are very welcome. Thanks in advance.