New here - My story and how can I make my solution permanent. HELP

[TruuCamp Member Find all posts View Profile Close TruuCamp]

First of all I will like to thank all the posters on this forum , been here before to look at some threads but decided to register now and start my own journey.
To begin with , I`m fairly young , 20 years of age. Lost my virginity around 18 years old but I never got any actions after that -_- lasted about 6-7mins first time. I watched porn during those times a lot and masturbated a lot , I must admit , there were days where I ejaculated 3-5 times.
Fast forward , turned 19 and decided to get a girlfriend ; around this time I cut down on the porn and ejaculation. Found a nice and sweet woman for my self , and first time during intercourse with her it was around the same time 6-8mins. Thankfully , I learned a few tricks from my older friends that gets her to cum easily. I just tease her before sex and also go down on her so when i enter its easy for her to cum. However I still noticed my time wasn't as much as I like it.

Then there was one day that I drank and smoked marijuana and we had sex I lasted about 40 minutes , after that day I decided this is something I can draw from within without help from drugs. So I began searching around this forum and other places for answers ; one thing is solved for sure and that is my control when getting a blow job. I can last for as long as I want , sometimes she complains about the length and i cut it short when I`m ready. ( Dont get it wrong i`m not forcing her into anything , there are days when i just go down on her for a long period of time )
Last month I gained this confidence that i will like back , I don't know how I did it but every time we had sex I lasted 20-30 mins long - I FELT LIKE A MAN ! Add the minutes of foreplay and tongue actions it goes on to 1hr+ of pleasure and we both loved it. - I REMEMBER doing edging for minimum 20mins to porn and ejaculating at the end on my free time. I also was breathing and doing meditation from a file I downloaded from youtube at night times. I noticed I stopped doing the edging at night time and near the month of Feb. and today my time went back down again. I keep lasting long then having times I last short again.

THINGS I NOTICE DURING THE ACT.
- I get hard during foreplay , even when she is not stimulating me.
- I keep thinking about cumming early , I try to focus on something else but its like my whole attention is glued to my penis.
- I noticed when I lasted long in Febuary, I DIDNT THINK ABOUT THE ABOVE .
- When I insert I DONT feel the urge to cum right away AS IN THAT INSTANT.
- When I stroke for a while I feel the pressure building on my penis.
- I also noticed I cum within a minute when I put her in doggy.
- I last longer in missionary and sometimes when she is on top , sometimes I just cum as fast as doggy.
- I think its more my will power , because I get the urge to cum in my mind and thats end game right there - I cant do much about it.

Any ideas how I can begin a regime that will help me cure this issue; I have sex with her a lot so I can provide up to date feedbacks.
I read something about constant porn and masturbation as the reason for PE and what is needed is edging to rewire the brain and I`m starting to believe it because when I did the minimum 20mins -30mins of edging that's when I was able to last long -.-

Anyways help me out guys and I will be bringing you updates as to what I am trying and how it worked out in bed.

Thank You

[AbraMan Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close AbraMan]

During an edging session, are you supposed to actually come at the end? After say 2/3 Edges? I've confused myself with that one.

Back to what you said though, i last around 6-12 minutes alot of the time during actuall sex, alot of it is her on top because she loves that aha. But i blow pretty quickly when in doggy too. I've been doing a reverse kegel only routine and I think it has helped a bit, but I need to time to start edging more frequently - say like once a day rather than once a week.

I noticed after doing it like 5 days in a row though, I was lasting significantly longer during those sessions before having the urge to come. Then going on to perform better in sex. I was able to really control and enjoy blowjobs too, literally loved being able to watch and indulge it all as it happened without any worry - but it's more sex that gets me. Also smoking weed and drinking help me last much much longer too, but I want to be able to last like that more frequently when not tipsy etc.

I think actually having more sex, like more than once a day will help alot. You will last longer and longer each time, and over time you will then be able to last longer the first time and so on - James Monroe will tell you that .

[TruuCamp Member Find all posts View Profile Close TruuCamp]

I understand .
I think my issue is mind driven though , I was able to overcome the issue and last 20mins but i dont know what happened , i returned back to point zero -.-

Still waiting or more suggestions guys

[JoshLuvins Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close JoshLuvins]

i can relate to this and also am interested in somebody educateds response :P typically if were in missionary ill go a few minutes but any other position forget it, a minute would be like landing on the moon by bicycle transportation. Although there was a random time or two where i was just able to go to town on her and i barely even finished in time for her getting to sore to keep going, i would like to know why that is.

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Chesk out the arousal threads on this master link.

https://www.pegym.com/forums/prematu...treatment.html

[Drummer19 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Drummer19]

Yeah do what JamesMonroe says! haha. If you can have sex ALL of the time like him them do it. If you can't don't use porn and edge with reverse kegals. 6-8min isn't bad at all! Just practice sex more and you'll get used to it.

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Thanks for all the input guys.
Started last night with a 30mins edging session - Ending with ejaculation
Tonight I will edge for another minimum 20mins - Without ejaculation.

I will update again tomorrow

[Drummer19 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Drummer19]

I have been trying the edge and keep my erection at a 7 (hard enough to feel good, but isn't stiff enough to stick straight out!). I think that maintaining the 7 erection instead of balancing near the PONR may help. Not positive yet on results from this. Time will tell..

[steveshorny1 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close steveshorny1]

I agree. trying to keep the erection at a 7 has been a pretty good thing for me when edjing. My longest session has been 25 mins, but by that point i'm starting to reach the PONR as soon as i put my hand back on it. I have to give up at that point.

[JamesMonroe Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close JamesMonroe]

First of all I will like to thank all the posters on this forum , been here before to look at some threads but decided to register now and start my own journey.
To begin with , I`m fairly young , 20 years of age. Lost my virginity around 18 years old but I never got any actions after that -_- lasted about 6-7mins first time. I watched porn during those times a lot and masturbated a lot , I must admit , there were days where I ejaculated 3-5 times.
Fast forward , turned 19 and decided to get a girlfriend ; around this time I cut down on the porn and ejaculation. Found a nice and sweet woman for my self , and first time during intercourse with her it was around the same time 6-8mins. Thankfully , I learned a few tricks from my older friends that gets her to cum easily. I just tease her before sex and also go down on her so when i enter its easy for her to cum. However I still noticed my time wasn't as much as I like it.

Then there was one day that I drank and smoked marijuana and we had sex I lasted about 40 minutes , after that day I decided this is something I can draw from within without help from drugs. So I began searching around this forum and other places for answers ; one thing is solved for sure and that is my control when getting a blow job. I can last for as long as I want , sometimes she complains about the length and i cut it short when I`m ready. ( Dont get it wrong i`m not forcing her into anything , there are days when i just go down on her for a long period of time )
Last month I gained this confidence that i will like back , I don't know how I did it but every time we had sex I lasted 20-30 mins long - I FELT LIKE A MAN ! Add the minutes of foreplay and tongue actions it goes on to 1hr+ of pleasure and we both loved it. - I REMEMBER doing edging for minimum 20mins to porn and ejaculating at the end on my free time. I also was breathing and doing meditation from a file I downloaded from youtube at night times. I noticed I stopped doing the edging at night time and near the month of Feb. and today my time went back down again. I keep lasting long then having times I last short again.

THINGS I NOTICE DURING THE ACT.
- I get hard during foreplay , even when she is not stimulating me.
- I keep thinking about cumming early , I try to focus on something else but its like my whole attention is glued to my penis.
- I noticed when I lasted long in Febuary, I DIDNT THINK ABOUT THE ABOVE .
- When I insert I DONT feel the urge to cum right away AS IN THAT INSTANT.
- When I stroke for a while I feel the pressure building on my penis.
- I also noticed I cum within a minute when I put her in doggy.
- I last longer in missionary and sometimes when she is on top , sometimes I just cum as fast as doggy.
- I think its more my will power , because I get the urge to cum in my mind and thats end game right there - I cant do much about it.

Any ideas how I can begin a regime that will help me cure this issue; I have sex with her a lot so I can provide up to date feedbacks.
I read something about constant porn and masturbation as the reason for PE and what is needed is edging to rewire the brain and I`m starting to believe it because when I did the minimum 20mins -30mins of edging that's when I was able to last long -.-

Anyways help me out guys and I will be bringing you updates as to what I am trying and how it worked out in bed.

Thank You

Please be aware that you might get different results and that you may not be able to perform many of these things because of many factors. THIS IS ONLY MY EXPERIENCE. Thank you for reading and good luck.

Here is my updated secrets to success suggestion paragraph:

I suggest edging WITH lube WITHOUT watching porn and switching to light ballooning at PONR to continue stimulation so that you dont get used to the start and stop method than women hate during sex. A fleshlight is great too. Only ejaculate every 3-7 days. Spasms, ejaculation and sensitivity can be controlled with regular and reverse kegels if they are also practiced ALONE outside of sex as a separate exercise first. Some people have to do way more reverse kegels than regular kegels to cure themselves. I suggest stopping regular kegels for a while. I personally hold a light REVERSE kegel the whole time during sex to stay relaxed and in control. I do a strong/hard rev kegel at the PONR to stop ejaculation/spasms. You have to stop thrusting and even sometimes exit vagina when doing the strong reverse kegel to stop ejaculation. Doing strong/hard rev and reg kegels while thrusting can cause ejaculation. Spasms and sensitivity can go away completely and you can last a long time during masturbation and sex and thrust deep and hard non-stop like a porn star if you have sex or masturbate 3 times in a row with only a 3-6 minute break between rounds, but you have to not drink alcohol, have a willing sex partner and have a high sex drive/good erections. NEVER masturbate to porn. I got prem ejac by masturbating to porn without lube, while doing regular kegels the whole time, for a whole year without a gf. As soon as I started having sex again I ejaculated in 1 minute.
I can now last from atleast 30 min to sometimes over 1 hour. Another good tip is watching porn without touching yourself, having slow controlled sex and having sex in the most arousing positions to get used to them. That will make all other positions feel like a piece of cake. More sex and less porn = less prem ejac. Always try to have sex as often as possible and 2-3 times per encounter. Less sperm in the system=last longer. The more you last longer, the more it trains your body and mind to continue to last long.
So....Train your body and mind the right way!!!
Once you start progressing and healing yourself, your anxiety level will start to go away and you will be way on your way to a happier new you.
Good luck.

[TruuCamp Member Find all posts View Profile Close TruuCamp]

UPDATE

Had sex twice today , lasting 20+ on each one. Had to force myself to cum the second round -

What did I do on the 2 days ?

Day 1 ) Started last night with a 30mins edging session - Ending with ejaculation
Day 2 ) Planned to egde but I changed it to jelg and ballooning when I got too hard for about 40mins - Without ejaculation.
During this ballooning time I kept resisting the feeling ,telling my brain " Get used to this feeling , adapt to it"
Furthermore , rather than having that fear of " Oh no , what if I cum" I dont wanna cum" I changed it to the arousal technique i learned in thelink provided by Pegasus - I kept talking to my mind about my level - " Oh it feels good but its too high lets tone it down a bit" I like this level i will keep going at this pace" And lastly the MOST important thing , i focused on breathing - deep controlled breath.

I also watched a video that night that showed how the penis looks inside the vigina - I took strong look at the angles of the head that was stimulated and i figured maybe i'm too sensitive - So the next morning before my girlfriend came over - I took a hot shower and while in the shower I took a cloth and sanded my penis head LOOL I know it sounds painful but its not just rubbed the towel over and other to desensitise it a little bit.

ACTION TIME
First round , just said to myself " Forget about performance , i will just have fun"
Foreplay for about 20 mins - Went down, fingered , played with her whole body - she cummed already ;0
Missionary stick it in and slow thrust , keeping the same mindset i had during jelg and ballooning and the arousal technique mantras.
Picked up speed and went on like a porn star loool , 10MINS in she cums again - I almost lost it when I felt her shaking so I pulled out .
Waited for about 10 secs went back at it and she cummed again , bout this time i was hot as hell , and ready to blow so i took out and let it out on her ass
I went to the kitchen and cooked up some food we ate and later on we were laying down - another boner came so she hopped on it and gave me a bj. At this time I was feeling really CONFIDENT BECAUSE of my performance first round and i also knew it took longer to ejaculate after doing ut before.
Once again 69 both of use , put her in missiona ry , for aboout 8mins , switched to doggy for 5mins she cummed , then layed on my back she went on top and had her fun till she cummed again - hopped off looking tired (ANOTHER CONFIDENCE BOOST , I WORE HER OUT) I put her back in missionary for about 8mins again and i took out and cummed.

TIPS
I wear a condom all the time
Also make it fun
There were times where i was thrusting but both of us were laughing about a joke i made at the same time !
randomly stopped and told her to squeeze her pelvis floor , this results in a grip of the penis , nothing too arousing but she looked and flt like she accomplished something spectacular - for me this was time to focus on my arousal decrease mantras

Tonight i do another Jelg / Ballooning session with no cummin because i had sex twice today.

Have a goood day everyone , i will keep you updated !

[wilson214 Member Find all posts View Profile Close wilson214]

Camp, I feel I may be in a similar situation as you. Do you think a lot of your "problem" was possibly more mental than anything?

[TruuCamp Member Find all posts View Profile Close TruuCamp]

Yes , most times i could be doing fine then when the single thought of ejaculation comes to my mind - I COMPLETELY LOSE IT .