Edging Vs. Sex

[XXX1973 Member Find all posts View Profile Close XXX1973]

I can usually go for a while when I'm edging, but when I'm having sex I can't last anywhere near the amount when edging. I do use a lot of lube when edging. Is this psychological? Or a lot more stimulation when having sex? Any suggestions?

[Padawan787 Moderator ReservePEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close Padawan787]

level of arousal during sex

Higher levels of physical exertion during sex

[JamesMonroe Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close JamesMonroe]

There is a big difference between your hand and a living breathing woman that smells good naked infront of you doing naughty things to you. That's why I tell guys not to worry so much while edging, the real test and practice is with the real thing. The best thing to do is find a nice sweet understanding and helpful constant sex woman, which is close to impossible. Truth hurts, but this site will help you in many ways and will start to fix u and prepare you for those encounters.
NEVER masturbate to porn, even though you THINK it will be the best training. It will give you bad EQ and prem ejac.

[JamesMonroe Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close JamesMonroe]

There is a big difference between your hand and a living breathing woman that smells good naked infront of you doing naughty things to you. That's why I tell guys not to worry so much while edging, the real test and practice is with the real thing. The best thing to do is find a nice sweet understanding and helpful constant sex woman, which is close to impossible. Truth hurts, but this site will help you in many ways and will start to fix u and prepare you for those encounters.
NEVER masturbate to porn, even though you THINK it will be the best training. It will give you bad EQ and prem ejac.

You're doing great with using lots of lube while edging btw. Never masturbate dry. Vaginas are wet, warm and sometimes tight.

[Going411x7 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Going411x7]

Don't forget about the kegeling. The kegel will help you maintain an erection during sex for as long as you want.

[zunamary Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close zunamary]

Don't forget about the kegeling. The kegel will help you maintain an erection during sex for as long as you want.

But the kegel puts more pressure on the prostate, which leads to reach the PONR easily :S

[XXX1973 Member Find all posts View Profile Close XXX1973]

I'm so confused about kegeling during edging and having sex. There seems to be a lot of conflicting stories. I notice if I try to hold a kegal it makes me want to finish faster. Hold a reverse kegal seems to help keep the arousal level down. Although, when I was having sex, I forgot all of it! LOL

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I can't stress enough how handy a pocket vagina thing is. Some of these feel BETTER than sex. Master it and the real thing will be a breeze. The only thing you'll have to concentrate on will be the mental arousal because the physical will be done and dusted. You need to take the 'feel of your hand away. You can still feel it in your hand. Making that object inanimate or something you don't have control of is key. As said, the sounds, smell of perfume, feel of soft skin and legs wrapped around etc. All that sends the mind and heart racing.
It's good to be human.

[CUSP82 Administrator Admin of the Month Dec 2014PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close CUSP82]

Edging vs sex? I'll take the sex!

[NP97 Retired ModeratorPEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close NP97]

I'm so confused about kegeling during edging and having sex. There seems to be a lot of conflicting stories. I notice if I try to hold a kegal it makes me want to finish faster. Hold a reverse kegal seems to help keep the arousal level down. Although, when I was having sex, I forgot all of it! LOL

Pretty much right.
But if you can develop the muscles well enough (practice kegels) you can learn to hold your ejaculation back completely and have an orgasm. Requires timing and a LOT of practice... but still... feels awesome and you can keep on banging.
Plus having that muscle nice and strong allows your erections to be that way as well.

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So reverse kegals are best for PE?

[adiavroxos Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close adiavroxos]

I find that trying to do light reverse kegels during sex makes me last longer and have more control (the ability to know when to stop and avoid ejaculation by accident). However, when arousal gets close to the PONR, I think a sudden and hard kegel will help to lower arousal a bit so you can gain contol again.
Opinions tend to differ. Practising is definitely the key here. Practice makes perfect.
Lastly, its really easy to get carried away when having sex and forget all about kegels etc etc. But its really important to have all these in mind. Just dont show it too much. I dont think your girl will like you mumbling about your arousal level or kegel/thrust counting during sex.