Announcement

Collapse
No announcement yet.

The Psychological Nuisance

Collapse
X
 
  • Filter
  • Time
  • Show
Clear All
new posts

  • The Psychological Nuisance

    I'll keep this as short as possible, quick background:

    When I first had sex (much younger) I had a mild ED problem which I realized was psychological. This was easily conquerable as I just bought some generic Viagra and voila it's cured. I used this through a few girlfriends until I eased myself off of it once I got used to my last girlfriend. We then had amazing sex with no drugs or anything needed. Most of the time I could last as long as I wanted no sweat. Amazing sex.

    Now here I am with a new girl and while I don't necessarily need Viagra, for some reason I seem to get extremely nervous and ejaculate quickly. Needless to say, my mind has turned this into a bigger problem than it really is, and I cannot seem to get away from it. This girl loves me and cares for me, and I've told her for some reason I have been nervous lately before we have sex and she is understanding.

    I know that this is 100% purely psychological because when we first had sex the first however many dozens of times I was completely fine and could last as long as I wanted. I also notice my palms get sweaty right before actual intercourse, and before even making it to the bedroom I find my mind wondering what will happen.

    I'm sure there have been posts before me on this, I've scoured the boards looking for the best I can find but curious what other advice is out there. When doing a general internet search there's little besides drugs for psychological issues, and that is certainly not what I'm looking for here.

    I'm basically just looking for great relaxation techniques that are purely psychological, or things that anyone here implements into your own life to relax your mind. I'm going to try to start meditation throughout the day but curious what anyone else has to say.


    Long story short: I have pre-e caused by nervousness, looking for help purely in the psychological department.
    jjzero
    Junior Member
    Last edited by jjzero; 05-03-2012, 09:29 AM. Reason: spelling, grammar

  • #2
    Long answer short: Relax. Dont worry about sex, learn to have fun. Your stamina will greatly increase then. It may take time.
    The best sound in the whole world is my wife.... having an orgasm!!!!

    Comment


    • #3
      This is a confidence thing , I would encourage you to think on all your great studly successes.
      In his posts jamesmunroe suggests that a lot of actual sex helps this issue.

      Comment


      • #4
        Originally posted by adiavroxos View Post
        Long answer short: Relax. Dont worry about sex, learn to have fun. Your stamina will greatly increase then. It may take time.
        A simple answer for a simple problem. I find (with many struggles in life) that the answer really is THAT easy, though hard to execute.

        I guess what I'm looking for is techniques anyone uses to speed this up. Breathing and relaxation is obviously at the top of the list - I'm thinking what else could be exercised throughout the day. Such as, every time a thought pops up in my head worrying about failure, what I should replace those thoughts with.

        Just thinking out loud here with what could work. Appreciate the responses.

        Comment


        • #5
          Originally posted by adiavroxos View Post
          Long answer short: Relax. Dont worry about sex, learn to have fun. Your stamina will greatly increase then. It may take time.
          Usually, if not always, your mind holds the answers to all of your problems...

          So if reading this quote is the answer, what are the questions that brring your mind to this conclusion. Look into yourself...

          Relax: What does it mean to relax during sex? What does it mean to relax? How do I physically relax? What is stopping me from relaxing?

          Dont worry: What is worrying? What is causing this worrying? Why do I worry about this girl and not the others?

          Have fun: How can I have fun with sex regardless of the outcome? What is stopping me from having fun?


          This may sound silly to ask yourself these questions, but surprisingly you may not know all of the answers, and when you do know the answers you will have an easier time figuring this out. You obviously don't need drugs, so figure this out in your head. These questions are a start but you hold all of the answers in yourself.
          Arousal Techniques-Techniques to overcome Pre-E.

          Comment

          Working...
          X