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My Obsession with curing PE
*NOTE*
I know this post is long. I think it covers what most people go through and I hope that my thread can turn into something that can serve people as a general guide so that not only I progress, but so others can learn from it and continue on their way to a better sex life.
Big thanks to people like JonPop, Pegasus, KingPole, ByggD Minuteman, and so many others who provide so much information that got me started on this.
*END NOTE*
Hello everyone. First post, but long time stalker.
First off, you guys are all awesome with so many tips and how to's on anything and everything penis related. This site and its member are great.
I have become desperate for a solution to my issue, as it seems to be getting worse. It's causing me problems in my brand new marriage, which is basically worth everything to me right now.
Quick setup: I've been masturbating since I was 11, to porn unfortunately. I had a girlfriend for 2 years at 16 years of age until 18. We did only oral and grinding, never any penetration. I NEVER had an issue with Premature Ejaculation (PE) or Erection Quality (EQ) with her( I'm not sure though, since I wasn't actually having intercourse).
I continued to masturbate to porn.
From 20 years old to 23 years old, I dated another girl who I lost my virginity to. We had sex less than 40 times probably. She would orgasm very quickly, sometimes in 1 or 2 minutes, and I would be left stuck with an erection, so I had to hurry. But, she started lasting longer, but I wasn't, and this is when I started to NOTICE the signs of PE.
As far as I can remember I always orgasmed in less than 3 minutes with her or not at all if she had an orgasm first.
We broke up. I still masturbated to porn.
Now, I'm 23 years old, dated a girl for 4 months then married her 1 month ago. Here's where my real problems start.
She's 26; she has a son (she got pregnant at 18 years of age). She's been having sex for 8 years. The last guy she was with (he's 5 years older than her) was apparently almost double my size (I'm 5"; she estimated him to be about 8"), and he could go as long as she wanted. He showed her how to become multi-orgasmic, culminating in what she calls a whole body orgasm (which she obviously loved about him). She says it takes her about 2 hours to get to that whole body orgasm.
The first couple of times we had sex, we had drunk alcohol, and I lasted about 20 minutes each time, allowing her to have a couple of orgasms. However, after that, it all went downhill. After that, I've was never able to last more than 4 or 5 minutes with her. This started causing problems as she is a very, very horny girl. Since I could not satisfy her, she would be slightly angry all day and very confrontational... bitter even.
I thought it was my size, seeing how her ex was so big. She said it wasn't a size issue as she can feel it, and it feels good; the only problem was that I didn't last. We continued to have sex, but I whenever I orgasm, she just gets angry at me, kind of stops talking, turns around and goes to sleep, waking up either silent or a little mad the next day.
I hate to mention this here, but it may be important. About 2 months before we got married, she, without saying anything, flew out to see her ex (the sex hero) and cheated on me for a weekend. The relationship was over, but we talked, she asked forgiveness, I pardoned her, we moved past it.
(By the way, I can only ejaculate once. After that, my refractory period is a couple of hours. She says something is wrong with me because all the guys she's been with can go 2 or 3 times in the same session.)
I found this site. I started going through Mr. ByggD's guide for PE (which means I also completely quit porn). I started seeing results. After just a 2 weeks, I could last about 8-10 minutes during sex. I was happy about the results, but she still did not have enough time to orgasm. I told her I was practicing and asked her to be patient. She said it was fine, but that she wasn't seeing any results. She kept saying it was less than 5 minutes. That made me feel bad every time she said it.
I kept going at it, and I felt my confidence go up as I myself KNEW that I was lasting longer. However, every time I tell her I'm in the mood she says, "What do you want to do it for? You're just going to leave me hanging and I'm going to be angry." It doesn't mean she's not horny because she tells me she is, but it's because she knows I can't satisfy.
I HATE, HATE, HATE vibrators. But we went out and got her a $150 one for her for when I finish to soon to keep going. She tried using it a couple of times after I ejaculated too soon, but says she can't concentrate with me there. So she tells me to leave the bedroom. This utterly destroys me and makes me feel incredibly worthless. Every time she asks me to leave the room, I will actually cry and leave the house and just walk around Wal-Mart, even if it's 2 am.
Something started happening about a week ago: While we're having sex, she'll ask me if I already came, because she can no longer feel it. I'd say no. She makes me pull out, and what do we see? My penis is only about 40%-60% erect. I can manually stimulate it and get it hard enough to insert again, but I feel it get weak again. If I kegel hard and focus, I can keep the erection, but 2 minutes later, I ejaculate. I can still go for about 10-15 minutes now. But what's the point of being able to go longer now if she can't feel it?
Also, from about 2 weeks ago, EVERY TIME I'm starting sex or during sex, I feel incredibly anxious, like I know I'm setting myself up for failure if I have sex. I know I won't satisfy. I get erections during the day, but if I think about her, my erection goes soft. (Not because she's ugly though, she is VERY hot and pretty). Even if I'm masturbating, as I did this morning, just thinking about her makes me anxious; my erection would not stay hard.
Things I'm doing to fix this:
- Sometimes, for a confidence boost, I'll take Stiff Nights (about 1x a month). It gives me a huge hard on, and maybe an extra 5 minutes of staying power. When I take that, my erection will not go flaccid. It also really helps with my refractory period.
- About 3 times a week, I'll edge (always with lubricant). I have a problem here though. My time can range from 5 minutes to 30 minutes, depending on how carried away I get. My second to last session, I lasted about 5 minutes. I reached the Point of No Return about 2 times before I ejaculated, slowed stimulation successfully, then reached PONR again. This time, I Kegeled really hard and held back ejaculation (I practically felt no orgasm, but a LOT of push in my pelvic region) but I couldn't continue as I went flaccid. My last session lasted 30 minutes. However, I did have about a 2 minute time frame when my EQ went down to maybe 75% which kind of worried me. I was fine the whole time though and felt good about my time, so I grabbed my phone and put on a bit of porn. That took me over the edge and I came withing 3 minutes of pulling out the porn. AND, after that, I kind of forced myself to another 15 minute session and came again.
- I practice my kegels about 5 - 10 minutes a day. 60% Reverse Kegel (RK) and 40% Normal Kegel (NK). I can hold a NK for about 1 minute while squeezing REALLY hard. But, I'm having trouble with RK. I can do it, but it's the one where my entire abdominal section is flexed, and I feel the push at the anus and perineum. I recently discovered the Confusion with Reverse Kegels how to, which seems great. I tried the tactic for isolation and I THINK I'm doing it right, but the push on the base of my penis feels so weak, I actually don't KNOW 100% if I actually AM RKing. As I stated before, I can hold back an ejaculation about 50% of the time, but I lose my erection.
- I started taking quite a few herbal supplements. My curiosity got started from reading KingPole's 5G's for Big Erections. (Thanks KingPole!) About half of these I take in form of capsules, the other half I mix all together in a tea using 1 table spoon of each herb per cup of water. This is what I'm taking about 4-5 times a week.
- Horny Goat weed
- Yohimbe
- Damiana
- Gokshura aka Tribulus Terrestis
- Ashwaganda aka Withania Somnifera
- Mucuna Pruriens
- Maca
- L-Dopa
- Green Tea Extract
- Ginger
- Gingko Biloba
- Ginseng
- GNC's Ultra Mega Men's Multi-Vitamin
- ZMA Fuel (basically, Magnesium, Zinc, and Vitamin B-6. It's supposed to help build testosterone)
- I started JP's 90 Day Beginner's Guide for Penis Enlargement. I may be delusional, but in 3 times I've done it, I think I'm seeing results. Whether it's delusion or not, I'm excited about what it hold in my future.
SOOOOoooo, I'm really desperate. I don't want my marriage to end nor does my wife, as everything else is great. She enjoys me, I enjoy her, we care for each other but the sex SUCKS, for BOTH of us. I mean, I feel like I'm hitting a dead end. I KNOW its tearing us apart. HELP PLEASE!
I know this post is long. I think it covers what most people go through and I hope that my thread can turn into something that can serve people as a general guide so that not only I progress, but so others can learn from it and continue on their way to a better sex life.
Big thanks to people like JonPop, Pegasus, KingPole, ByggD Minuteman, and so many others who provide so much information that got me started on this.
*END NOTE*
Hello everyone. First post, but long time stalker.
First off, you guys are all awesome with so many tips and how to's on anything and everything penis related. This site and its member are great.
I have become desperate for a solution to my issue, as it seems to be getting worse. It's causing me problems in my brand new marriage, which is basically worth everything to me right now.
Quick setup: I've been masturbating since I was 11, to porn unfortunately. I had a girlfriend for 2 years at 16 years of age until 18. We did only oral and grinding, never any penetration. I NEVER had an issue with Premature Ejaculation (PE) or Erection Quality (EQ) with her( I'm not sure though, since I wasn't actually having intercourse).
I continued to masturbate to porn.
From 20 years old to 23 years old, I dated another girl who I lost my virginity to. We had sex less than 40 times probably. She would orgasm very quickly, sometimes in 1 or 2 minutes, and I would be left stuck with an erection, so I had to hurry. But, she started lasting longer, but I wasn't, and this is when I started to NOTICE the signs of PE.
As far as I can remember I always orgasmed in less than 3 minutes with her or not at all if she had an orgasm first.
We broke up. I still masturbated to porn.
Now, I'm 23 years old, dated a girl for 4 months then married her 1 month ago. Here's where my real problems start.
She's 26; she has a son (she got pregnant at 18 years of age). She's been having sex for 8 years. The last guy she was with (he's 5 years older than her) was apparently almost double my size (I'm 5"; she estimated him to be about 8"), and he could go as long as she wanted. He showed her how to become multi-orgasmic, culminating in what she calls a whole body orgasm (which she obviously loved about him). She says it takes her about 2 hours to get to that whole body orgasm.
The first couple of times we had sex, we had drunk alcohol, and I lasted about 20 minutes each time, allowing her to have a couple of orgasms. However, after that, it all went downhill. After that, I've was never able to last more than 4 or 5 minutes with her. This started causing problems as she is a very, very horny girl. Since I could not satisfy her, she would be slightly angry all day and very confrontational... bitter even.
I thought it was my size, seeing how her ex was so big. She said it wasn't a size issue as she can feel it, and it feels good; the only problem was that I didn't last. We continued to have sex, but I whenever I orgasm, she just gets angry at me, kind of stops talking, turns around and goes to sleep, waking up either silent or a little mad the next day.
I hate to mention this here, but it may be important. About 2 months before we got married, she, without saying anything, flew out to see her ex (the sex hero) and cheated on me for a weekend. The relationship was over, but we talked, she asked forgiveness, I pardoned her, we moved past it.
(By the way, I can only ejaculate once. After that, my refractory period is a couple of hours. She says something is wrong with me because all the guys she's been with can go 2 or 3 times in the same session.)
I found this site. I started going through Mr. ByggD's guide for PE (which means I also completely quit porn). I started seeing results. After just a 2 weeks, I could last about 8-10 minutes during sex. I was happy about the results, but she still did not have enough time to orgasm. I told her I was practicing and asked her to be patient. She said it was fine, but that she wasn't seeing any results. She kept saying it was less than 5 minutes. That made me feel bad every time she said it.
I kept going at it, and I felt my confidence go up as I myself KNEW that I was lasting longer. However, every time I tell her I'm in the mood she says, "What do you want to do it for? You're just going to leave me hanging and I'm going to be angry." It doesn't mean she's not horny because she tells me she is, but it's because she knows I can't satisfy.
I HATE, HATE, HATE vibrators. But we went out and got her a $150 one for her for when I finish to soon to keep going. She tried using it a couple of times after I ejaculated too soon, but says she can't concentrate with me there. So she tells me to leave the bedroom. This utterly destroys me and makes me feel incredibly worthless. Every time she asks me to leave the room, I will actually cry and leave the house and just walk around Wal-Mart, even if it's 2 am.
Something started happening about a week ago: While we're having sex, she'll ask me if I already came, because she can no longer feel it. I'd say no. She makes me pull out, and what do we see? My penis is only about 40%-60% erect. I can manually stimulate it and get it hard enough to insert again, but I feel it get weak again. If I kegel hard and focus, I can keep the erection, but 2 minutes later, I ejaculate. I can still go for about 10-15 minutes now. But what's the point of being able to go longer now if she can't feel it?
Also, from about 2 weeks ago, EVERY TIME I'm starting sex or during sex, I feel incredibly anxious, like I know I'm setting myself up for failure if I have sex. I know I won't satisfy. I get erections during the day, but if I think about her, my erection goes soft. (Not because she's ugly though, she is VERY hot and pretty). Even if I'm masturbating, as I did this morning, just thinking about her makes me anxious; my erection would not stay hard.
Things I'm doing to fix this:
- Sometimes, for a confidence boost, I'll take Stiff Nights (about 1x a month). It gives me a huge hard on, and maybe an extra 5 minutes of staying power. When I take that, my erection will not go flaccid. It also really helps with my refractory period.
- About 3 times a week, I'll edge (always with lubricant). I have a problem here though. My time can range from 5 minutes to 30 minutes, depending on how carried away I get. My second to last session, I lasted about 5 minutes. I reached the Point of No Return about 2 times before I ejaculated, slowed stimulation successfully, then reached PONR again. This time, I Kegeled really hard and held back ejaculation (I practically felt no orgasm, but a LOT of push in my pelvic region) but I couldn't continue as I went flaccid. My last session lasted 30 minutes. However, I did have about a 2 minute time frame when my EQ went down to maybe 75% which kind of worried me. I was fine the whole time though and felt good about my time, so I grabbed my phone and put on a bit of porn. That took me over the edge and I came withing 3 minutes of pulling out the porn. AND, after that, I kind of forced myself to another 15 minute session and came again.
- I practice my kegels about 5 - 10 minutes a day. 60% Reverse Kegel (RK) and 40% Normal Kegel (NK). I can hold a NK for about 1 minute while squeezing REALLY hard. But, I'm having trouble with RK. I can do it, but it's the one where my entire abdominal section is flexed, and I feel the push at the anus and perineum. I recently discovered the Confusion with Reverse Kegels how to, which seems great. I tried the tactic for isolation and I THINK I'm doing it right, but the push on the base of my penis feels so weak, I actually don't KNOW 100% if I actually AM RKing. As I stated before, I can hold back an ejaculation about 50% of the time, but I lose my erection.
- I started taking quite a few herbal supplements. My curiosity got started from reading KingPole's 5G's for Big Erections. (Thanks KingPole!) About half of these I take in form of capsules, the other half I mix all together in a tea using 1 table spoon of each herb per cup of water. This is what I'm taking about 4-5 times a week.
- Horny Goat weed
- Yohimbe
- Damiana
- Gokshura aka Tribulus Terrestis
- Ashwaganda aka Withania Somnifera
- Mucuna Pruriens
- Maca
- L-Dopa
- Green Tea Extract
- Ginger
- Gingko Biloba
- Ginseng
- GNC's Ultra Mega Men's Multi-Vitamin
- ZMA Fuel (basically, Magnesium, Zinc, and Vitamin B-6. It's supposed to help build testosterone)
- I started JP's 90 Day Beginner's Guide for Penis Enlargement. I may be delusional, but in 3 times I've done it, I think I'm seeing results. Whether it's delusion or not, I'm excited about what it hold in my future.
SOOOOoooo, I'm really desperate. I don't want my marriage to end nor does my wife, as everything else is great. She enjoys me, I enjoy her, we care for each other but the sex SUCKS, for BOTH of us. I mean, I feel like I'm hitting a dead end. I KNOW its tearing us apart. HELP PLEASE!
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