curious..

[growmore]

does edging everyday help? but only ejaculating every 3 days

[Minuteman]

It is the method I usually recommend to beginners who are having problems with their arousal during that time I recommend them to obsereve their body and see how it tenses up react to different stages. In fact I recommend it to all the people who are just starting out.

It is also recommended you do it later on from time to time, since you can always learn new things.

[growmore]

I'm doing it to cure PE, does it apply too?

[Minuteman]

Yes.

Here is a description of the 3day routine

The very first thing you need to do is to understand your arousal and in order to do that you have to be under it for extended periods of time.

So how to do that? Well first of all from now on you will ejaculate ONCE every three days.

DAY 1:

On the first day you will start slowly don't attack your penis at once get private and get naked and try to feel your body don't thing any extra sexual thought try to learn from touch, caress yourself but don't jerk of just let your penis slowly get fully erect with ocasional thug and stuff. If you lack proper arousal watch a short porn clip but don't do anything just accept the hornyness.

This sounds silly I know, caressing your body and stuff but you NEED to understand how your body reacts to both sexual and non sexual stimulation.

Now that you are fully erect just SLOOOOOOOOOWLY edge until ponr, don't think about anything neither good nor bad just try to bask in sensations, see where they come from and where they go, see how your breathing changes. When you get near ponr, and I mean VERY NEAR stop all movement and stand still, breath deep but not hard, close your eyes and feel it all over your body. In many first tries this is going to be hard, since you will ejaculate, if that happens try to enjoy it and try the same thing again tomorrow.

Now once you are at ponr and you really felt it, stop. Don't return to edging just stop. Lay down on the bed, or get your clotes and go out, anything but do not continue.

The only excuse for ejaculation in the treed day method is when you actually get blue balls (very rare) in other words your balls and starts to hurt, then you should ejaculate in other to alleviate the pain.

You can try to edge once again later on during a day but whatever you do ejaculation is not an option.

DAY 2:

Start the process in the same way that you did yesterday, but now given that you have not ejaculated you will(should) feel extra horny, but agan DO NOT RUSH. Take your time let it go full erected before any serious edging. Remmember, your goal now is to feel your body, you DO NOT CARE HOW LONG YOU LAST and to enjoy as much as you can. Play around, experiment, change positions frequently try stuff. When you come to ponr, again like last time, stop and just observe. After your ponr subsides and you penis goes a little limpish slowly continue again. Repeat as many times as you like BUT DO NOT EJACULATE.

People look down upon pleasure enjoyment during edging sessions seeing them as some sort of enemy the cause that makes them ejaculate early, but that is not the case. Most of the time you ejaculate because you are not horny enough, because your brain still think instead of focusing on sensations.

DAY 3:

By this day you should be feeling very... well you will see.

This is the 'field day' this the day where you can ejaculate and do it in any way you want. You can do it like yeasterday slowly experiencing it, you can just mastubate, whatever.

The point of this day is to ejaculate and give yourself and your body some down time.

After this you can do the 3 day again the next day or pause it is up to you.

The point off all this is to dissasociate ejaculation with orgasms and ejaculation with pleasure, most people have a hard time understanding that it isn't your ejaculation that brings orgasm it is most of the time the other way around. Ejaculation in essence is just that, ejaculation, and you might even notice it when you during some masturbation just ejaculated but felt nothing... terrible experience.

So for now, if you want to follow my advice, throw all the kegels, minutes and stuff out and just focus on this, you should do for about two weeks or more.

Also don't expect anything just enjoy the ride.

This brings us to sex and how all this connects.

The biggest frend of any premature ejaculation person is gradualness, that is why i told you to do it slow. Also in sex, make it slow, be sure to give her a lot of foreplay, be gradual. Tease yourself and her, don't just plunge into her, let your penis stay very hard for a while. Insert your penis into her and just make out with her, let your penis feel the warmth and try to get used to it, you are having sex there is no need to rush, she knows that you have premature ejaculate, she understands so anything you do better will only help her and reassure her of your progress. Let her teach you how to give her oral. Avoid missionary positions since they are hard for people with premature ejaculation at least in the beginning, try to do her doggy style or her on top of you.

Always be aware of your breathing and your state of mind during edging, don't think negative thoughts but don't thing to much positive thought, work on that your mind is mostly empty (this is really hard... but very possible and effective). Deep breaths help much. Also a part of your body will almost always tense up, try to notice what part is it and relax it. There are all "little things" but they build up on one another and their returns later on are much more than you think.

[growmore]

okay thanks a lot haha, found it really useful!(:

[CaptainJohnson]

Yea, Minuteman sums it up perfectly. Holding your man-juice in for too long can lead to... complications. Not often, but they can. I have had some horrrrrrrrrible blue balls thanks to that. I also think it played a role in my inevitable injury. If you are holding back from ejaculation during edging, let yourself release on the 3rd day. It is far safer and healthier than holding that shit in too long. If you want to hold off for longer times, try 5 days max.

I have heard people say a full week will mess up your hormones, and you might as well quit ejaculation for 2-3 weeks at that point to stabilize. Remember, ejaculation is healthy for you.

[growmore]

wow didn't know that holding it in for too long could result in something so serious! thanks for the heads up!

ohh another question. what do I do if I reach PONR and I either hold a hard kegel or rk, but my a little cum still flows out? do I continue edging or what?

[Cantona7]

@growmore
Yes, ejaculating every third session is safe and healthy.
Since you are a beginner like myself, I would give you the same advice that has been given to me. For first 6-8 weeks practice start and stop method which is you STOP all stimulation as soon as you get very close to PONR. Any use of kegel muscles to hold off the ejaculation will be considered a DO attempt. Now we are talking something serious and it is again very much related to injury which is one thing you wanna stay free of as much as possible. The reason behind that is when you attempt a DO, you have to have a perfect timing and adequate kegel strength. So wait a month and a half or so and then try and see how it goes. It could lead to injury because if you observe when you attempt a DO your whole body tenses up because we're talking BLOCKING your flow and that's something you need to watch out for. I am in the same boat as you and take things slow for permanent results!
Cheers

[growmore]

I see okay thanks! didn't know that too. okayy I shall practise the start stop method.
I have been doing both actually, I.e the start/stop and holding ejaculation with a kegel and rk.