And many steps sideways!!
What i'm trying to share here are my recent sexual experiences since i've begun working on my pre-E through this site (edging, K's/RK's, arousal awareness, deep breathing, etc), the majority of which have seen no change to how fast i've cum, but once or twice have been encouragingly long.
HOWEVER, I'm trying to cut myself a little slack, because I think that the way my girlfriend likes to have sex is probably the worst possible way for someone with pre-E. This is NOT complaining!! It's awesome, just complicates things. Basically, sex/foreplay/whatever is ALL about me. If we're not actively working me towards an orgasm (i.e. she's doing something to my dick), she's not gonna be into it. She doesn't want to be fingered unless shes touching my dick. She doesn't even want to be eaten out unless its 69. She LOVES giving head, she loves it so much she does it during foreplay to turn herself on and get herself wet. And her hand jobs are exactly what i AVOID during edging because it gets me to PONR too fast (tight squeezing and twisting right on the head/frenulum). Basically, foreplay is freaking intense for my man down there. By the time i'm penetrating, i've had maybe 10 minutes of solid, non-stop hand + mouth stimulation. Not to mention the fact that 10 minutes of getting her wet and excited would be intensely arousing by itself.
And then during sex, her favorite position by FAR is good old missionary; the one position i find it impossible to do RK's in!! Long story short- by this point i'm doomed!!!
So our "typical" sex sessions go as i just described, and despite about a month of training i haven't been able to increase my lasting time in this scenario. However, once or twice i've thrown in a few curveballs and had some good results. Take two nights ago for example...
We were in the car on the way home and she was getting frisky, i was fingering her but wouldn't let her give me road head. We got home, and i decided to play it aggressive/dominant style. Stripped her down and pushed her on her back onto the bed. Since i knew she was already wet, decided to skip most of the foreplay (since that would only really get ME more aroused; not necessary). But instead of getting on top of her missionary, i grabbed her legs and pulled her to the edge of the bed and stood. I found it much easier to maintain something of an RK hold doing this. She always wants my head close to hers, so i would go for a couple of of normal thrusts and then go really deep and kind of lean forward onto her to talk dirty into her ear. This helped me avoid a really steady rhythm at first, but as the time increased, so did my ability to thrust steadily before i needed to calm down. Anyways, she eventually started begging me to cum (i would guess at like.. 12 minutes?), so i obviously i obliged
So, that was great, but then this morning scenario #1 occurred once again. damnit!
One thing i haven't yet tried during sex is the strong kegel just before ejaculation (basically attempting a DO). mostly just because it's harder to time (and i'm too late), but also just because the urge to ejaculate is so damn strong.
I really want to have a sex session where i explain to my girl, "look, this is about me doing everything i have to do to last longer, not about it being hot, looking good, or frankly feeling good for you. this is scientific research damnit" Don't let her give me foreplay and then just pull out all the tricks: get my start/stop going, clenching kegels/reverses with all my might, semi-meditating, belly breathing, pulling out and attempting DO's at the PONR, etc. I've avoided going all out like that just because it can be so unnatural compared to the "normal" course of sex, but i think it would be enlightening to know if and how i can do it.
Anyways, i've kind of rambled in this post and didn't really ask any questions, but it just feels good to share and i'd love to hear anyone's thoughts.
What i'm trying to share here are my recent sexual experiences since i've begun working on my pre-E through this site (edging, K's/RK's, arousal awareness, deep breathing, etc), the majority of which have seen no change to how fast i've cum, but once or twice have been encouragingly long.
HOWEVER, I'm trying to cut myself a little slack, because I think that the way my girlfriend likes to have sex is probably the worst possible way for someone with pre-E. This is NOT complaining!! It's awesome, just complicates things. Basically, sex/foreplay/whatever is ALL about me. If we're not actively working me towards an orgasm (i.e. she's doing something to my dick), she's not gonna be into it. She doesn't want to be fingered unless shes touching my dick. She doesn't even want to be eaten out unless its 69. She LOVES giving head, she loves it so much she does it during foreplay to turn herself on and get herself wet. And her hand jobs are exactly what i AVOID during edging because it gets me to PONR too fast (tight squeezing and twisting right on the head/frenulum). Basically, foreplay is freaking intense for my man down there. By the time i'm penetrating, i've had maybe 10 minutes of solid, non-stop hand + mouth stimulation. Not to mention the fact that 10 minutes of getting her wet and excited would be intensely arousing by itself.
And then during sex, her favorite position by FAR is good old missionary; the one position i find it impossible to do RK's in!! Long story short- by this point i'm doomed!!!
So our "typical" sex sessions go as i just described, and despite about a month of training i haven't been able to increase my lasting time in this scenario. However, once or twice i've thrown in a few curveballs and had some good results. Take two nights ago for example...
We were in the car on the way home and she was getting frisky, i was fingering her but wouldn't let her give me road head. We got home, and i decided to play it aggressive/dominant style. Stripped her down and pushed her on her back onto the bed. Since i knew she was already wet, decided to skip most of the foreplay (since that would only really get ME more aroused; not necessary). But instead of getting on top of her missionary, i grabbed her legs and pulled her to the edge of the bed and stood. I found it much easier to maintain something of an RK hold doing this. She always wants my head close to hers, so i would go for a couple of of normal thrusts and then go really deep and kind of lean forward onto her to talk dirty into her ear. This helped me avoid a really steady rhythm at first, but as the time increased, so did my ability to thrust steadily before i needed to calm down. Anyways, she eventually started begging me to cum (i would guess at like.. 12 minutes?), so i obviously i obliged
So, that was great, but then this morning scenario #1 occurred once again. damnit!
One thing i haven't yet tried during sex is the strong kegel just before ejaculation (basically attempting a DO). mostly just because it's harder to time (and i'm too late), but also just because the urge to ejaculate is so damn strong.
I really want to have a sex session where i explain to my girl, "look, this is about me doing everything i have to do to last longer, not about it being hot, looking good, or frankly feeling good for you. this is scientific research damnit" Don't let her give me foreplay and then just pull out all the tricks: get my start/stop going, clenching kegels/reverses with all my might, semi-meditating, belly breathing, pulling out and attempting DO's at the PONR, etc. I've avoided going all out like that just because it can be so unnatural compared to the "normal" course of sex, but i think it would be enlightening to know if and how i can do it.
Anyways, i've kind of rambled in this post and didn't really ask any questions, but it just feels good to share and i'd love to hear anyone's thoughts.
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