An odd situation for PE-drop some advice on me

[helpontheway24 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close helpontheway24]

Alright...a brief rundown. So my girl knows that Im currently suffering from the devil of pe. So shes very helpful and supportive of me. She loves sex as well as I. Here goes nothing. When I jack off Im anywhere between 1-5 minutes. When she jacks me off, anywhere between 10-30 minutes. Now Im talking intense jacking, not some light stroke or gentle grip, Im talking this girl takes it, rips it, twists it, its like shes worked construction before, because she jack hammers the sh*t out of my dick, WAY harder than I do to myself, I dont cum at all until I am damn well ready (usually around the 15-20 minute mark). When I jack myself off, its like WTF? 5 minutes of way less intense stroking???? Really? Its very confusing because like i said shes going hard and fast from the minute she grabs my dick until about minmun 15 minutes later. Im very impressed with myself being able to maintain my composure with such INTENSE stimulation. (one hand twists, two hand whole dick strokes, Im talking every possible hand position for an old fashioned imaginable. Weird right? I get myself off quicker in 5 minutes of weak stroking then she does with intense? Any ideas?

Next, I love BJ's!!!! I can last as long as I want with a bj, again pretty intense, not as intense as her hand jobs though.....good right? Indeed

What about the sex? Damn, I put it in, thrust it around for a couple of good hard pumps, boom, load deposited inside (we have been very good friends for many many years, and now are exploring a relationship, DO NOT do this unless you are CERTAIN you have the relationship/understanding with your partner) You ever seen a sexy naked girl with a quaint look of disappointment in her cute little eyes while you sit there on top of her? Thatll kill a mans confidence no mater how good of friends you are.....Thats me at this point. Im a sex freak. Love it. Love thinking about it. Love doing it. Love reading how to improve. Love it.

So what in the hell is going on here? minimum 15 minutes for INTENSE handjobs (with lube, from her), last as long as I want during BJ, and sex a couple good pumps and splat!!! This needs to be fixed. I need this to be fixed, one for my confidence of being a MALE, being confident as a lover, and being confident in myself at all times. But what do i do? I used to kegal like a crazy man, then i started to find out that thats making my timing even worse....What do i do at this point. I basically use her (not use in that sense) for my edging routine, works great, Id say. But I want this girl making the sheets wet and my legs drenched with her juices. So when getting a hj or a bj, all the pleasure is coming MY way, none for her. But when we sex it, pleasure comes my way and SHOULD be going hers. Trust me Im not a selfish lover, Im quite good at pleasing a woman with hands and tounge, but I want to please with my little buddy.

So anyone who has maybe been in my certain situation or who has beaten PE or who has a good routine/workout that I can do, any and all help would be greatly appreciated. I need to this be cured and fixed and put in the past. This girl is awesome, I got MAD feelings for her, and I dont want to see my "problem" push her out the door, so save me and save this girl from leaving....We all need a little help and advice from time to time. Tell me anything and everything you know and beating PE.

[bautista19 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close bautista19]

I think your issues with handjobs, bjs and sex may actually be pretty typical. I'm pretty much the same exact way.

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[no minute man Member Find all posts View Profile Close no minute man]

yeah man. i CHOOSE when to come during a handjob or blowjob, but sex is like a whole different game, normally a couple of pumps and i'm done, which is what brought me here.

As for you cumming faster by yourself than her HJ, are you looking at porn? theres a lot of debate on that topic but i know for me it sends me from a zero to about a 9 on the arousal scale in like 20 seconds, even though it seems like being with a real chick would do it more.

I think there's something to be said for the passive role we play in getting handjobs or blowjobs, as opposed to sex. we sit back, lie down, whatever, we RELAX and receive. there's no good reason for any muscle tension or hyperventilating or anything.

during sex our whole body, whole core is engaged, our breathing gets faster to match hers, all the energy in your body is focused in your dick, its so warm and tight and wet and BOOM goes the dynamite.

I'm convinced the passive/active role has a lot to do with it, at least for me. To practice, i try to thrust while masturbating, noticing what kind of muscles it's engaging and what's getting tense. I also try consciously focusing on my breath, sometimes it seems as though for every good deep breath or two i can last another 5 seconds or so. It's not much, but if i could maintain that state of relaxation the WHOLE time rather than just when i realized "oh shit i'm going to come soon", it might pay big dividends. I also have tried figuring out which positions works best for me to keep a relaxed pelvic floor and do reverse kegels.

Anyways good luck man, i like your enthusiasm about beating this crap.

[bautista19 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close bautista19]

To practice, i try to thrust while masturbating, noticing what kind of muscles it's engaging and what's getting tense.

This has helped me improve more than anything else.

Get a FL STU, jam it between the mattress and box springs and see how long you last.

[helpontheway24 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close helpontheway24]

sorry couldnt log on much during the past week busy busy. But no I dont really watch porn to often, thankfully, my girlfriend is quite attractive so I see no need. I did notice though before when i was watching porn, it would just trigger me and boom.

@ bautista what in your honest opinion, do you think about the FL STU? Ive always been curious and very close to getting one, but it seems like it could just be "another expensive" device full of promises. What is your opinion on it. Do you have any starts like before you started using it? How long you last now? And have you be able to check your progress with an actual women to see if it has helped? Its quite hard to find an honest review on those things because its either WAY to biased or just a lie. Any input?

[helpontheway24 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close helpontheway24]

So I have been working on improving between the sheets, obviously for anyone with this problem you know its a slow process. I have seen some improvements with my time, much better than when I first started (pe not sex)... So I've been trying a bunch of random things while having sex. RK, K's, stop/start yadda yadda. So my girl and I were getting down and I started to feel a nut coming on. I wanted it to last longer because Ive been enjoying the process of sex (all the feelings) rather than solely on the final nut. Back to the story, I felt it coming so I did a MONSTER regular kegal, held up the hoover dam, nothing came out.... Good stuff, I started immediately pounding away, hard pounding, and boom out of no where, I started to lose my erection. I did not ejaculate prior to this. So I still was ready to go, but I lost my wood. Does anyone have any ideas as to why this happened? I was so pumped after I held it off and was still ready to go, but then my buddy started losing flow.....Advice?

[Glamissand1 Senior Member Member of the Month March 2014 Find all posts View Profile Close Glamissand1]

You came! Just a dry one thou. I find that the frenulum ( under side of your head where your glands meet the shaft) is what makes me nut. So I try to focus force up to the top of the head, in missionary this will make her eyes roll back. A sex pillow under her butt should get her to a better position for this upward thrusting.

[imac Retired Moderator Member of the Month Nov 12PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close imac]

You should read this.

https://www.pegym.com/forums/prematu...asm-guide.html

[helpontheway24 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close helpontheway24]

so would you guys consider a dry orgasm a "step forward" or is this nothing really important. Im going to read that guide. Like I said I was pumped about holding it off but then the loss of my erection didnt help anything, can I have a dry orgasm and still maintain a full erection afterward and work for a wet orgasm? And thanks for the information fellas, much appreciated

[epoch Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close epoch]

So I have been working on improving between the sheets, obviously for anyone with this problem you know its a slow process. I have seen some improvements with my time, much better than when I first started (pe not sex)... So I've been trying a bunch of random things while having sex. RK, K's, stop/start yadda yadda. So my girl and I were getting down and I started to feel a nut coming on. I wanted it to last longer because Ive been enjoying the process of sex (all the feelings) rather than solely on the final nut. Back to the story, I felt it coming so I did a MONSTER regular kegal, held up the hoover dam, nothing came out.... Good stuff, I started immediately pounding away, hard pounding, and boom out of no where, I started to lose my erection. I did not ejaculate prior to this. So I still was ready to go, but I lost my wood. Does anyone have any ideas as to why this happened? I was so pumped after I held it off and was still ready to go, but then my buddy started losing flow.....Advice?

Sounds like you came... could have been a dry orgasm, althogh if so you likely should have regained your wood. I'd suspect a retrograde ejaculation where your cum is actually released into your bladder. Retro ejaculation makes you body respond like a regular ejaculation, including loss of wood, lower desire for more sex, prolactin letdown, etc...

[jdavid1990 Banned Find all posts View Profile Close jdavid1990]

Your normal mate... In regards to lasting longer during penetration.... experience and psychological

[helpontheway24 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close helpontheway24]

thanks for the replys this has given me more insite on this issue. Has anyone truly had success permanently curing their PE? Maybe you could tell me how you did it, what you did, if your having sex, how long did you last and how long are you lasting now. I really need to get this figured out because its bringing me down not only in my sex life but my everyday life outside of sex. My confidence is very low all because of this problem. So let me know what you did and how you did it