Wich kind of Premature ejaculation do you suffer?

[jaqc Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close jaqc]

Understanding primary as life long, never had control, and secondary as new onset.

I went to the urologist yesterday and he told me that my PE is primary and its very very difficult to solve it.. i'll keep it all my life.. and i'm 24 just trying to open to girls depite my small penis. So he prescript me Zoloft (sertraline) that might help me a little adding a few seconds. But i feel bad.. seeing that there is nothing to do..

I tried many things written here.. but that might work for secondary PE.. but not for this kind

[jaqc Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close jaqc]

So people who are saying they have primary.. did you get a check / opinion from an urologist?
Which expectatives did he give you? Is it going to remain like this always?

[GlennConnors Member Find all posts View Profile Close GlennConnors]

That's a very pessimistic doctor! Did he say why he thinks you have primary PE? Or why he thinks you have it?
Don't be so quick to take what a doc has to say. There's usually plenty you can do about it!

[RunARiot Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close RunARiot]

Honestly don't know, I've been trying to figure that out. If I remember right, I didn't have problems with PE with my first girlfriend until I got my own place and shit wasn't going well, but my memory sucks and the bad times outweigh the good ones, so maybe it was really a problem I had since the start... Though there were times I could hold in my ejaculation long enough to make her cum, but I don't remember how often they were(so I'd say I lasted 20-30 minutes during those times?) Also, the last time and only time I had sex since I dated my first gf, which was with some other chick, I had sex for about 2-3 hours on and off without being able to ejaculate(I even tried), but I had a beer and some wine, so I don't know if it was my mood, the foreplay, or the alcohol :/

[Pegasus AdministratorPE Gym EditorPEGym Hero ☺ Admin of the Month Mar 2015 Find all posts View Profile Close Pegasus]

Primary schimary, why are you buying into this.
I don't think in these terms.

[Drummer19 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Drummer19]

Primary and Secondary Pre-E doesn't exist. There are levels of how bad Pre-E can be but it isn't a disease. I think you should disregard the doctor's advise and start doing some reading on here. Start with the Stickys on this forum.

[jaqc Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close jaqc]

I'm a doctor myself, (well a stupid one and just graduate) and spent the last month obsessively reading all the scientific literature available about this. Even today at the library i keept reading about premature ejaculation looking for new articles or clues that could bring me hopes, and about all my genital issues trying to relax my nerves instead of studying.

The urologist said that i have primary premature ejaculation because i explained him that i never in my life had control. Since my first sexual relationship never ever experienced ejaculatory control and a latency time over 1 min. I can even say that i never experienced a real orgasm through sex. I just ejaculate a bit and feel a little relif.. most of the times without noticing that i cummed.

Well, the papers say that for the treatment of primary pe the patient should be given anti-ssrs (pharmacologic) and for the secondary psychotherapy + exercices +/- drugs.

I find all this horrible and maddening, that im sentenced to continue with this poor life i have been living till now (24 yrs). I have a lot of issues in my personal life and we have to add primary premature ejaculation and borderline penis (nearly micro specially for 1,89 m tall boy).

If you want i can link a lot of literature talking about primary pe.

It's true, fortunately for most of you, that the secondary pe is the most common and can be overcomed but that doesn't seem to be my case. I blame prone masturbating and porn so i stoped 3 months ago but its curious that this people usually develop delayed ejaculation and sometimes erectile disfunction.

I like the positive atmosphere , i just can say thanks for sharing your time and trying to help others.

[jaqc Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close jaqc]

Primary and Secondary Pre-E doesn't exist. There are levels of how bad Pre-E can be but it isn't a disease. I think you should disregard the doctor's advise and start doing some reading on here. Start with the Stickys on this forum.

which are your basis to say that? (i hope that you are right but... ) :S

[Drummer19 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Drummer19]

We are the first generation to have mass-premature ejaculation. It hasn't been looked into a lot as far as I can tell. We break ground on this site every day.

My experience is 2 years of constant investigation into my own Pre-E problems and successfully fixing what was wrong. I then figure out patterns that arise from the multitudes of people on here, see what we all have in common, and work with that to come up with solutions that actually improve people's conditions. Work is being done every day and as a community we have more information on here to deal with Pre-E than ever before.

I have no scientific evidence to back up what I say, but I use the scientific method to come up with my information. Just like you, from my first time having sex, I lasted 3 thrusts! It never got better after that until I started grabbing my arousal by the horns. It takes dedication but it is achievable to get rid of your Pre-E. I now last as long as I want, but that came with a lot of commitment.

Now stay positive and get to steppin. With everyone's help on here you can do it.

[meVSprej Member Find all posts View Profile Close meVSprej]

do not trust western medicine science because the pharmacologic industry corrupt all the things that doctors learn.they learn that if something happen then you have to take drugs.they had learn things in an only material way, and not in all other things, watch on youtube about Bruce Lipton about mind and genes, and you will totally change your prospective of life and medicine.If you start having prej then you have create it, if you was born with prej(i dont think so), you can beat it, in fact people without prej can be with prej so why not the contrary?
Doctors say that myopia cant be naturally cured but there are many people that self naturally cured it.
Our mind is powerful we just have to learn how to use it.
Im not saying that doctors are bastards or anything but the education that the system had given them is bad for us.


Do you have control over your pelvic muscles? or do they tighten unvoluntary?


im sorry for my english

[PeeJay Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close PeeJay]

I am secondary..I have had times of control and of course of no control.