I have a serious problem that I think is the main reason for my PE.
I'm not sure if it is the normal physiological reaction or if it is an association I created, but whenever I have physical stimulation - I have contraction in my pelvic floor muscle.
This is the way my body react - I mostly don't even notice I contract the muscle, I only feel it when I stop the stimulation and have the relaxation of the muscle. What I mean is this:
I put my hand on my BC muscle(few fingers between my balls and anus+my thumb on the upper part of my penis where the penis attached to the body), and whenever I "stroke" the muscle is contracting. As soon as I stop the stimulation, the muscle relax.
So if I do 1 stroke(or just up or down) - the muscle contract, and as soon as I stop - the muscle get relaxed. If I keep stroking, the muscle stay contracted until I stop - and then it relaxes.
When I get close to the PONR I also get a "rhythmic" spasm(fast "pulsing") in the lower part of my BC muscle(closer to the anus).
I tried relaxing the area mentally(it doesn't help), I tried RK(the contraction goes "over" the RK), and everything else I can think of.
At times after I edge for more than 15 minutes, if I go REALLY slow, and stay VERY focused on relaxing, I can get it to not contract and then I feel I can keep going(i,e I have control). But sometimes it doesn't work even in such circumstances.
I do my FK/FRK/BK/BRK routine(following Minuteman plan on his dry orgasm thread), along with extra tennis ball massage for relaxation. I am not in a very good shape yet - but defiantly not in a bad one as well.
I'm not sure how to proceed, i.e. how to break this connection.
It seems like it is my body automatic respond to physical stimulation. It feels like trying to not automatically "remove" my hand when getting burn from hot oven.
Can anyone help?
I'm not sure if it is the normal physiological reaction or if it is an association I created, but whenever I have physical stimulation - I have contraction in my pelvic floor muscle.
This is the way my body react - I mostly don't even notice I contract the muscle, I only feel it when I stop the stimulation and have the relaxation of the muscle. What I mean is this:
I put my hand on my BC muscle(few fingers between my balls and anus+my thumb on the upper part of my penis where the penis attached to the body), and whenever I "stroke" the muscle is contracting. As soon as I stop the stimulation, the muscle relax.
So if I do 1 stroke(or just up or down) - the muscle contract, and as soon as I stop - the muscle get relaxed. If I keep stroking, the muscle stay contracted until I stop - and then it relaxes.
When I get close to the PONR I also get a "rhythmic" spasm(fast "pulsing") in the lower part of my BC muscle(closer to the anus).
I tried relaxing the area mentally(it doesn't help), I tried RK(the contraction goes "over" the RK), and everything else I can think of.
At times after I edge for more than 15 minutes, if I go REALLY slow, and stay VERY focused on relaxing, I can get it to not contract and then I feel I can keep going(i,e I have control). But sometimes it doesn't work even in such circumstances.
I do my FK/FRK/BK/BRK routine(following Minuteman plan on his dry orgasm thread), along with extra tennis ball massage for relaxation. I am not in a very good shape yet - but defiantly not in a bad one as well.
I'm not sure how to proceed, i.e. how to break this connection.
It seems like it is my body automatic respond to physical stimulation. It feels like trying to not automatically "remove" my hand when getting burn from hot oven.
Can anyone help?
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