How to not kegel while having sex

[muffintop]

Bump?

[muffintop]

Tom, IMO kegel and reverse kegel exercises provide two benefits. First, body awareness. Second, strength and control of the muscles.

Your first step was becoming aware of your involuntary kegel. Although there are several other awareness steps you need to take, knowing is half the battle. Here is something you need to pay attention to the next few times you take a leak.

First is the push, you whip it out and start your pee. The push you're feeling relaxes something down there allowing you to pee. This relaxation also allows more blood to enter your penis. You might notice (if you're a grower) that your flaccid gets longer while you pee. Learning to replicate the relaxation action without peeing is your RK. Learning to RK without holding your breath is preferred. Learning to RK while thrusting during sex is the ultimate goal.

Second thing to look for is squeezing out the last drops. You get to the end of your piss and you shoot out a couple more short shots. That is your kegel. As you become more aware and gain more control you will be able to stop mid stream (kegel) then start again (reverse kegel). The benefit of the kegel is to build enough strength and control and permit you to clench through the ejaculatory kegels during your orgasm. Another is increasing the force of your ejaculate, so when you do ejaculate you heighten the pleasure of your partner or are forced to clean the walls.

I recommend practicing any kind of kegel (say 3 sets of 20 quick kegels) until you develop the ability to hold a kegel. In addition practice identifying the RK each time you start to pee. Once you're able to do an RK, practice it during edging, balooning, or sex. After accomplishing these things you should be able to create your own program.

I've found it difficult to RK after doing kegel sets so I do RK sets then kegel sets. Eventually I plan to alternate sets (RK, K, RK, K).

I think this a good place for me to start.

I don't do any kegel exercises yet but I have no problem with stopping and starting my piss. Yes, I can see now that it could be stronger though. However, it's the RK I have trouble with. When I start pissing I dont feel any sort of push, when I stop it and release it, it just starts again with no effort.

[Pegasus]

Release it how?

[JamesMonroe]

For me, squeezing the PC muscle triggers an orgasm. This, like many men, is due to the furtive style of masturbating as a kid. Parents go to buy groceries, you beat one out as quick as you can for the pleasure that comes with ejaculating. This has trained my body to unconsciously kegel during masturbation/sex, leading to premature ejaculation. I physically cannot stop myself from kegeling. The instant I stimulate my unit my PC muscle tightens up, and when I cease stimulation I can feel my muscle relax again. I've tried really hard to "retrain" my brain to not tighten my PC muscle, but I don't know how.

Am I right to think that this is probably the main culprit of my PE? If so, what can I do to retrain my PC muscle?

It is.... especially while watching porn and doing it everyday. That's what gave me prem ejac. You nailed it.

[ProtoJ]

It is.... especially while watching porn and doing it everyday. That's what gave me prem ejac. You nailed it.

yeah but the million dollar question. how do you prevent it?

[Steve23]

Kegel/reverse kegel routine, ballooning/edging, patience.

[muffintop]

Release it how?

Good question... just seems to happen when I want it to.

[Pegasus]

You will find this is a reverse kegel.

[bigwinner]

So are we saying that people who do not experienced and/or have never experienced premature ejaculation is because they never kegel during sex unless they want to? So in fact, they just keep pumping away without contracting the PC muscle?

If so - then this has changed my mind of what sex is supposed to be like. I thought part of the fun was to kegel a little but still be able to control it.

This raises an interesting point though because I think my girlfriend doesn't contract her PC muscle at all during sex, so she can not come unless she wants to. If she wants to come, I think she contracts her PC muscle (I will confirm this with her). Of course there are times where she says if I keep pumping any longer she'll come. I suspect this is through mental stimulation as well as her performing kegels without realising.

Can someone confirm my thoughts?

[no minute man]

So are we saying that people who do not experienced and/or have never experienced premature ejaculation is because they never kegel during sex unless they want to? So in fact, they just keep pumping away without contracting the PC muscle?

I'm very interested in the answer to this question!