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    Minuteman's PremE FAQ


    Male urogenital system: http://i47.tinypic.com/2vjboue.jpg
    Male pelvic floor anatomy: http://i46.tinypic.com/zk4m7k.jpg

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    Q: What is this?

    A: This is a topic where I will,answer the most frequently asked questions that I get via pm of in the premE forum about premature ejaculation and the ways to fix it, terminology in general, DO and MMO. The answers will not be long in order to insure clarity and readability. For a detailed explanation of a certain term I will link to the appropriate post or topic for it.
    Also when I say 'here' it refers to the Premature Ejaculation forum on PEGym, while 'we' refers to active posting members of this forum. The answers here tend to be self-contained so you will notice redundancy.

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    Q: What should I do before I start a new topic or send a PM?

    A: You should use the search function (Crtl+F in your browser) while on this page find your question in the questions list bellow and copy/past the code (for example copy/paste [Q01] to find the answer to that question), alternatively type the term you want answer for (for example: ballooning) and you should find question and answers connected to that therm. If you are unable to find it, you can post it in this topic and it will get answered. If your question is more complicated, then you should open a new topic and ask there. If you send me a PM with the question that is already in the FAQ I won't answer it, since the link for the FAQ will be in my signature. If you don't understand an answer listed here of you find it poorly worded (I take absolutely no offense in that since english is not my native language ) either sent me a PM or post here.

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    Q: How do I add the question to the FAQ?

    A: Just post it in this topic. If I deem it good for this FAQ I will include it (and the answer if provided), cred and rep you in return. In the list of the questions a will try and group them by theme, where in the answers posts I will usually list them who no order what so ever. Also if you need clarification about stuff in the guides that I wrote (DO guide, 3day etc.), rather than PMing me the questions ask them in their respective topics, so that the answers can benefit others too and not just you.

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    Q: Still a virgin?

    A: Yes. Meaning that I can't, not counting some logical suggestions and some experience based (mostly from other people), give you a sound advice when it comes to the sex itself. You have been warned.

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    List of Frequently Asked Questions (code numbers might not necessarily be in order):

    - [Q01] What is PremE (premE)?
    - [Q02] What is Premature Ejaculation?
    - [Q03] What is Delayed Ejaculation?
    - [Q04] What are the physical causes of premature ejaculation?
    - [Q05] What are the psychological causes of premature ejaculation?
    - [Q06] What are the physical fixes for premature ejaculation?
    - [Q07] What are the psychological fixes for premature ejaculation?
    - [Q08] What is pelvic floor balance?
    - [Q09] What is a routine?
    - [Q10] What is a weighted routine?
    - [Q11] Can you recommend me a routine?
    - [Q12] What are BC (bulbocavernosus), PC (pubococcygeus) and IC (iliococcygeus) muscles?
    - [Q13] Where can I find a list of all pelvic floor (kegel) exercises?
    - [Q14] What is kegel (k)?
    - [Q15] What is a reverse kegel (rk)?
    - [Q16] What is a root lock (back kegel, rl or bk)?
    - [Q17] What is a reverse root lock (reverse back kegel, rrl or rbk)?
    - [Q18] How to preform a kegel?
    - [Q19] How to preform a reverse kegel?
    - [Q20] How to preform a root lock (back kegel)?
    - [Q21] How to preform a reverse root lock (reverse back kegel)?
    - [Q22] How do I isolate front and back kegels?
    - [Q23] What is edging?
    - [Q24] What is a start-stop technique?
    - [Q25] How long should I edge?
    - [Q26] What is 20 minute edging?
    - [Q27] What is ballooning?
    - [Q28] What is a PONR?
    - [Q29] What does 'at PONR' and 'near PONR' means?
    - [Q30] What is a Wet Dream?
    - [Q31] What is Arousal?
    - [Q32] What is MMO?
    - [Q33] What is an orgasm?
    - [Q34] What is a DO (Dry Orgasm)?
    - [Q35] What is retrograde ejaculation?
    - [Q36] What is partial ejaculation?
    - [Q37] What is a 3day routine?
    - [Q38] What are PIs?
    - [Q39] What is EQ?
    - [Q40] How can I increase my EQ?
    - [Q41] Still having trouble performing Reverse Kegels (and reverse root locks)?
    - [Q42] Should I have PremE Routine alongside PE routine?
    - [Q43] How can I reduce the sensitivity of my penis (The Death Grip solution)?
    - [Q44] How frequently should I edge in order to progress?
    - [Q45] Can I fix my premE with porn?
    - [Q46] What can I do to improve my focus during edging and sex?
    - [Q47] How does meditation helps me in fixing my premature ejaculation problem?
    - [Q48] What is sensate focus?
    - [Q49] How can I improve my edging sessions?
    Minuteman
    Member of the Month March 2013.
    Last edited by Minuteman; 03-23-2013, 10:09 AM.
    premE FAQ

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    [Q01] What is PremE (premE)?

    A: It is a abbreviation for Premature Ejaculation, since both Penis Enlargement/Enhancement and Premature Ejaculations had the same abbreviations I decided to use this one. You can also use it to search the forums and find topic connected to premature ejaculation.

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    [Q02] What is Premature Ejaculation?

    A: Premature ejaculation is a condition that can be of physical and/or psychological origins that causes a man to ejaculate during sex (or masturbation) earlier than he and/or his partner wants to. It is an inability to delay the ejaculation until it is deemed fit to ejaculate. In a more traditional sense lasting less than two minutes in an intercourse is considered a premature ejaculation. The physical and psychological part of premE are usually connected so by fixing one part the other will be fixed to some extent. Physical approach is the usual way of fixing premature ejaculation problem here, but psychological way is also well represented, while chemical isn't as popular (but that doesn't mean it isn't as effective). The opposite of premature ejaculation is delayed ejaculation.

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    [Q03]: What is Delayed Ejaculation?

    A: Delayed Ejaculation is a condition that can be of physical and/or psychological origins that causes a man to ejaculate during sex (or masturbation) later than he and/or his partner wants to. It is an inability to ejaculate when it is deemed fit. Even though not as frequent as premE , and by some a desired condition, it is still a troublesome condition that can lead to unsatisfactional sex life. The opposite of delayed ejaculation is premature ejaculation.

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    [Q04] What are the physical causes of premature ejaculation?

    A: Typical physical causes are:
    - Bad masturbation habit as a result of forcing ejaculation trough mastubation during teen years (and/or use of porn). It is usually formed by rapidly kegeling while masturbating in order to reach the ejaculation (and with it the orgasm faster), but it can be any body habit that speeds up ejaculation (for example stiffening the legs etc). Since the refractory period in earlier years (teens) is shorter, fast ejaculation isn't seen as a bad thing, but rather as a source of rapid pleasure.
    - Inbalanced pelvic floor, either caused by bad masturbation habits, stress, or genetic. A sure sign of inbalanced pelvic floor are involuntary kegels (or more precisely pelvic floor spasms).
    - Over-senisitivity (hypersensitivity) of the penis, usually caused by masturbating with too light of a grip (do note that a too hard/tight grip can lead to injuries, and delayed ejaculation), but also as a simple fact that a person is not used to that sensitivity. A moderately tighter grip and longer edging sessions are usually a good fix.
    - Short frenulum (also known as Frenulum breve), a condition where the frenelum is too short therefore causing an added pressure that leads to premature ejaculation. While some can be stretched out by longer edgiging sessions and get used to, extreme cases call for surgical intervention in order to alleviate the problem.

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    [Q05] What are the psychological causes of premature ejaculation?

    A: Typical psychological causes are:
    - Arousal problems as the inability to control ones arousal during sex (or masturbation) usually as a result of too much or porn, lack of experience etc.
    - Performance anxiety, that usually spills from other psychological problems in life (lack of overall confidence, innate anxiety etc).

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    [Q06] What are the physical fixes for premature ejaculation?

    A: Those are not mutually exclusive, usually both are used:
    - Consciously stopping involuntary kegels. Usually done by either performing a 1-3 second hold each time a involuntary kegel occurs or by holding a slight reverse kegel either during the involuntary kegel or for the duration of the sexual activity.
    - Having a pelvic floor routine that strengthen and balance your pelvic floor.
    - Edging techniques, start-stop, ballooning, 20 minute edging, 3day rotuine etc.
    - Forming good habits (longer masturbation, not kegeling while masturbating ), healthier life style, working out etc.

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    [Q07] What are the psychological fixes for premature ejaculation?

    A: Those are not mutually exclusive, usually both are used:

    - Arousal control: Learning how to determine your level of arousal and then controlling it. Active way.
    For more details see: ByggD's Guide to Controlling Your Ejaculation Response and Arousal Techniques

    - Arousal conditioning: Learning how to get used to high arousal by exerpiencing it and conditiong your self to it. Pasive way. Note that a degree of both active and pasive way of dealing with arousal is usually used, though actve one is more popular. For more detail see 3day routine.

    - Stop watching porn. You may return to it if you with later on, but for a beginner porn will slow if not outright stop any attempt in fixing premature ejaculation.

    - Raising the confidence, positive thinking, meditation, yoga. Reverse Kegel Breathing (equally important for both physical and psychological)

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    [Q08] What is pelvic floor balance?

    A: It is a theory that states that one of the reasons premature ejaculation (and similar problems) happens is because the pelvic floor muscles are not in a balance. In order to balance it we use four basic muscle movements in different variations. Those are:
    - kegel,
    - reverse kegel
    - root lock (back kegel)
    - reverse root lock (back reverse kegel).

    For more see: Pelvic Floor Balance and PART II - CONDITIONING: STRENGTH.

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    [Q09] What is a routine?

    A: It mostly refers to a Pelvic Floor Routine. It is a mix of kegel, reverse kegel, root lock (back kegel), reverse root lock (reverse back kegel) flexes and holds that have a pelvic floor balance as an goal in mind, that is achieved by strengthening the pelvic floor.

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    [Q10] What is a weighted routine?

    A: A weighted routine is a pelvic floor routine where you do certain exercises more than others. In other words a reverse kegel weighted routine is where you do reverse kegels more than kegels. It can either be expressed in ratios (2:1 rk weighted routine, means that you do 2 rk for each kegel done, so if you do 100 kegels you will do 200 reverse kegels ) or in percents (70%:30% rk weighter routine, means that you for 100 total reps you will do 70 reverse kegels and 30 kegels). Also the weighted can be 2way (kegels, reverse kegels) or 4way (kegels, reverse kegels, root locks, reverse root locks).
    I am mostly for equal ratio 4way routines (meaning that you should for example do: 100 of each kegel, reverse kegel, root locks, reverse root locks) and that it will end up balancing itself.

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    [Q11] Can you recommend me a routine?

    A: DO Pelvic Floor Routine level 0,1,2.

    You can also check here.
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    [Q12] What are BC (bulbocavernosus), PC (pubococcygeus) and IC (iliococcygeus) muscles?

    A: Those are the pelvic floor muscles which strength and flexibility determines the pelvic floor balance. Since we are not completely sure which of those muscles are used when preforming kegels, reverse kegels, root locks (back kegels), reverse root locks (reverse back kegels) and to what extent the BC,PC and IC muscles effect the pelvic floor balance, here we focus more on the muscle movements which effects we can more easily identify (in other words kegels , reverse kegels, root locks, reverse root locks).

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    [Q13] Where can I find a list of all pelvic floor (kegel) exercises?

    A: For as-complete-as-they-come see: Kegel Master List.

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    [Q14] What is a kegel (k)?

    A: Kegel is an strengthening exercise, a part of a set of the important pelvic floor exercises that are crucial in restoring the pelvic floor balance and therefore fixing premature ejaculation problems for most people. It is done by clenching and then relaxing the muscles just behind testicles and between the testicles and anus. A kegel hold is clenching the muscles then holding them for a specified time and then relaxing. While clenching anus muscles should move as little as possible or (at the lather stages) not at all.

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    [Q15] What is a reverse kegel (rk)?

    A: Reverse kegel is a stretching exercise which is meant to relax the muscles of the pelvic floor and make them more flexible. It is done by relaxing, expanding or inflating the lower belly/abs, and the area between the testicles and anus. While performing this exercise anus muscles should move as little as possible or (at the lather stages) not at all. See Confusion with Reverse Kegels for more info.

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    [Q16] What is a root lock (back kegel, rl or bk)?

    A: A root lock is an strengthening exercise done by clenching and then relaxing the muscles around the anus (external anal sphincter muscle). When preforming this exercise all other pelvic floor muscles and lower abs should move as little as possible.

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    [Q17] What is a reverse root lock (reverse back kegel, rrl or rbk)?

    A: Reverse root lock is an stretching exercise which is meant to relax the muscles of the pelvic floor and make then more flexible. It is done by relaxing, expanding or inflating the muscles around the anus (external anal sphincter muscle). While performing this exercise other pelvic floor muscles and lower belly/abs should move as little as possible. See Confusion with Reverse Kegels for more info.

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    [Q18] How to preform a kegel?

    A: While urinating you should try and stop the urine midstream, that will help you to identify the muscles needed to preform a kegel. The other way you can learn to do it is to get an erection and then try to bob your penis. Do note that the kegel exercise itself is not preformed while urinating, that is just to help identify the muscles needed for the kegel movemenet.

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    [Q19] How to preform a reverse kegel?

    A: While urinating you should try and speed up the flow of the urine that is the reverse kegel movement. Do note that the reverse kegel exercise itself should not be performed while urinating, this is just to identify the muscles that need to move.

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    [Q20] How to preform a root lock (back kegel)?

    A: While defecating you should try and stop the process by tightening your anal muscles. Do note that the root lock exercise itself should not be performed while defecating, this is just to identify the muscles that need to move.

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    [Q21] How to preform a reverse root lock (reverse back kegel)?

    A: You are performing it every time you go to defecate and try to push it out. Do note that the reverse root lock exercise itself should not be performed while defecating, this is just to identify the muscles that need to move.

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    [Q22] How do I isolate front and back kegels (root locks)?

    A: Isolation in general should not be rushed, so don't over commit to isolation, rather do the exercises and it will come with time. So instead, focus on making the important parts move more, in time as you do them more and more you will simply be able to isolate better. Always remember to breath during the exercises rather than holding your breath. If you notice that your lower abs/belly are moving during kegels (front or back) then before you perform the exercise rapidly flex the abs and then do the exercise, since the muscles will tire out they will not move as much. Also doing cycling reps of kegel to root lock will help you in isolation. Conscious effort in isolation during every exercise, even though it will not isolate completely, will gradually increase the isolation.

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    [Q23] What is edging?

    A: Edging is masturbation with a goal in mind that is other than the ejaculation (but usually includes ejaculation). For example masturbating for 20 minutes and then ejaculating is edging. We use the therm when we want to say that we are masturbating according to a specific plan. When we say masturbate that usually just means we just want to ejaculate.

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    [Q24] What is a start-stop technique?

    A: It is edging technique that is used when fixing premature ejaculation. It consists of edging till near PONR and then stopping for a certain amount of time until he need for ejaculation and arousal (and with it erection) subsides enough. At the beginning sessions, the stop part is longer but as the person advances the stop time should be shorter and shorter. This can be a solo technique or it can be done with a partner.

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    [Q25] How long should I edge?

    A: The 20 minutes is recognized to be least amount of time one should edge to call that session successful. This of course doesn't apply to those with severe premature ejaculation problems where 5 minutes or less is usually the top, for them each no matter how small of advancement is considered a success, but once you pass a 20 minute mark you should tend to never go under it.

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    [Q26] What is 20 minute edging?

    A: It is an edging technique where a person edges for 20 minutes doing anything he reasonably can to last to the 20 minute mark, taking how ever much stops he needs to and ending with ejaculation somewhere around that mark. Progressing here means less stop time and more active time, therefore and ideal 20 minute session is the one where one does not stop for 20 minutes.

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    [Q27] What is ballooning?

    A: Ballooning is a more specific form of edging that usually includes stimulating certain spots on the penis for an extended amounts of time (some times up to an hour). It is usually done near the PONR (point of no return) in order to prolong that state. It is one of the tools used for MMO (male multiple orgasms). Those spots include but not limited to: The area just below the glans, on top of the glans of the penis etc. Some people will find those spots very arousing, while other will find then not effective. It can also be used as a 'stop' in start-stop technique, where you instead of stopping just balloon until the arousal settles down.

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    [Q28] What is a PONR?

    A: Point of no return. It is a point in time where a person that is stimulating his penis feels that he can't back down from ejaculation. It is a point after with ejaculation becomes inevitable.

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    [Q29] What does 'at PONR' and 'near PONR' means?

    A: At the ponr (point of no return) usually means a little bit before the actual PONR (for example 'stopping at PONR'), since being at PONR would lead to ejaculation. It is mostly used as 'edging at PONR', or 'edging near PONR' meaning that a person is edging near the point of no return in order to get used to that state and/or to feel the immense pleasurable sensations that happen when one does that. Please note that you should tend to use 'near PONR' and not 'at PONR' since it is more correct.

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    [Q30] What is a Wet Dream?

    A: Wet dreams are the body's way of 'cleaning out the pipes' when we don't do so, it is an maintenance process that happens when you sleep and it is usually followed by some sort of symbolic dream (symbolic in a way that you are usually doing something similar in the dream, like having sex or masturbating etc). In other words it is an involuntary ejaculation during the sleep. It mostly happens to teenagers but can keep occurring later. It is also used as a way of determining how frequently should one ejaculate over a period of time. The frequency of wet dreams lowers with age, but at different rate for different people.

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    [Q31] What is Arousal?

    A: Here it refers to sexual arousal, It is the arousal of sexual desire, during or in anticipation of sexual activity. Inability to control the arousal or not being used to it are the common reasons for premature ejaculation. Arousal is usually confused with erection quality, so take note that being highly aroused is usually followed by erection, while having an erection doesn't mean you are highly aroused.
    See ByggD's Guide to Controlling Your Ejaculation Response, Arousal Techniques, Arousal Scale and 3day routine for more on arousal.

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    [Q32] What is MMO?

    A: Male Multiple Orgasm, and ability to have more than one orgasm during sex, edging or masturbation. It can also mean Male Multi Orgasmic, usually in form of: 'I want to become an MMO'. Here, one of the most recognized ways of having a MMO is by having multiple dry orgasms.

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    [Q33] What is an orgasm?

    A: And is a burst of pleasurable sexual sensations that vary in intensity that usually follow ejaculation, but are in fact separate from the ejaculation and can happen without it. Note that many premature ejaculationists can experience ejaculation with complete lack of orgasm, while MMOs can experience orgasm without ejaculation.

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    [Q34] What is a DO (Dry Orgasm)?

    A: In MMO terms is when you have an orgasm but without the ejaculation. It is usually done by stopping the expulsion part of ejaculation process by preforming a kegel hold at the specific time, with proper technique and enough strength. The other less used ways is by preforming a reverse kegel hold. What ever form you chose to do, make sure that you are informed enough about what it takes to preform a Dry Orgasm (DO) in order to avoid potential injuries. You can do that here.

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    [Q35] What is retrograde ejaculation?

    A: Retrograde ejaculation happens when the path for sperm to come out of the penis is obstructed or the bladder sphincter is not functioning properly and since the sperm doesn't have anywhere to go during the expulsion part of ejaculation it goes into your bladder. In MMO terms this usually happens as a failed DO (dry orgasm) when the timing, strength and technique needed for a DO are not good enough. This carries the most potential in causing an injury if repeated to many times, so it is best being avoided.

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    [Q36] What is partial ejaculation?

    A: Partial ejaculation happens when some of the sperm comes out but the penis remains erect. It usually happens as a failed DO (dry orgasm) attempt. While not as dangerous as retrograde ejaculation, it can cause discomfort and injury if repeated too many times.

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    [Q37] What is a 3day rotuine?

    A: 3day routine is an idea to edge for 3 days (in at least one session per day) and ejaculate only on the third day. I took that idea a further expanded on it here, because I noticed the positive effect it had on my arousal conditioning and control. It also is a good advanced tool for MMOs, or those that want to become one.

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    [Q38] What are PIs?

    A
    : PIs stands for Physical/Psychological Indicators.
    They are mostly used in Penis Enlargement as indicators of how a certain PE routine affects a person's body and penis. Bad PIs usually mean that one should decrease the intensity and/or reps of an exercise (stretches, jelqs etc).
    PIs are also (but to a lesser extent) used for pelvic floor routines. For example if your pelvic floor muscles are too sore or even in pain,and your erection quality is low (bad physical indicator), or your libido is decreased (bad psychological indicator) you should decrease your routine and edging frequency and intensity. On the other hand good PIs means that what ever your are doing you are doing it right (therefor you will progress faster).

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    [Q39] What is EQ?

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    :EQ stands for Erection Quality. It is a measure of how 'hard' is the erection a person has. Usually an arbitrary scale from one to ten is used in describing the EQ, One meaning flaccid, and Ten meaning 'iron hard' (the hardest you ever had). A normal EQ is around 8 to 9.

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    [Q40] How can I increase my EQ?

    A:
    You canincrease your erection quality by doing kegels and kegel oriented exercises. Longer, more gradual edging sessions also contribute to a better EQ. However when doing kegels be sure to balance them out with at least reverse kegels in order to keep the pelvic floor balance. Also a grip that is to hard might negatively impact your EQ.

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    [Q41] Still having trouble performing Reverse Kegels (and reverse root locks)?

    A: Try alternating between kegels and reverse kegels. First preform a kegel then instead of just letting go of the clench, push it out (but not too forcibly). That push out is a reverse kegel. As you progress make the intensity of kegel smaller and smaller, while keeping the push out part the same, so that in the end the kegel part is barely a whisper. You can do this for reverse root locks, but alternating between a root lock and reverse root lock.

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    [Q42] Should I have PremE Routine alongside PE routine?

    A:
    If you are new to the premE routine then you should avoid having them at the same time, it is a good idea to first focus on the premE routine first since doing a PE routine might bring to much stress to your pelvic floor muscles. Once you are confident in your progress adding PE routine should not stall your progress that much. When choosing PE routine it is a good idea to use one that doesn't have a lot of kegels in order not to further dis-balance your pelvic floor, at least until you are confident in both areas, after that you will be able to find the best of the two routines that will work out for you. But generally speaking, focusing on one thing at a time is a way to go.

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    [Q43] How can I reduce the sensitivity of my penis (The Death Grip solution)?

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    :While there are many reasons that can cause you to be over-sensitive (hypersensitive), the usual suspect is the light grip one uses while masturbating/edging. If you find that your grip is generally light or that you are masturbating with two fingers only (ok sign) etc you might find it beneficial to gradually increase the strength of your grip trough edging sessions, and also use a full grip. However be careful not to increase the strength too much since excessive grip can cause problems raging from delayed ejaculation to some serious physical injury, so while the technique is called 'The Death Grip' it should not been taken literally. If you notice a drop in erection quality (EQ) you should lighten the grip. For more on this subject go here.

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    [Q44] How frequently should I edge in order to progress? by mukesh13

    A: As frequently as you masturbate, effectively you can replace edging with masturbation (as long as you ejaculate at the end of every session or per few sessions). As you edge be sure that each your session is at least a little longer than the one before. In the beginning even a minute is a good progress, once you reach the 20 minute mark just be sure that from that time on your edging time does not decrease. Optimal duration of edging should be around the 45 minute mark to really cement your progress, increase from that only if you enjoy long edging sessions. As you progress take note of your erection quality, if you see that your erection drops, or that you are not as quick to get hard as you where a slight pause or decrease in frequency of edging sessions should fix that, also any pelvic floor discomfort or pain also means that you should slow down.

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    [Q45] Can I fix my premE with porn?

    A:
    No. In fact it might be the overuse of porn that brought you here in the first place.
    Arousal and stimulation that you get from porn and the arousal that you get naturally trough sex are different, so getting used to porn in most cases will not get you used to sex, in fact overuse of porn might just numb you and cause erectile dysfunction when the real thing happens.
    The problem here is the disconnection of what you feel and what is happening on the screen and the lack of full range of stimuli. While in sex you get to feel, touch,taste, smell, see and hear, during the porn session you only get to feel (your own hand of fleshlight), see and hear, therefore you can't immerse yourself in it very well.
    The other is the tempo of real sex and the tempo of porn as well as you control over it is different. While the first you can dictate, you are unable to dictate the second without actually pausing the video, which again disconnects. For more check here.
    While there are those that used porn to fix their premature ejaculation problems here, it is very rare.

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    [Q46] What can I do to improve my focus during edging and sex?

    A:
    If your head if full of thoughts you will not be in touch with your arousal and may not notice when the PONR is coming. In order to learn how to focus on your body and sensations better you can use two things Meditation and Sensate Focus.
    Both techniques will help you focus on the now. Sensate focus will help you by focusing on your touch and sensations as well as your partner's, while meditation does that by helping you focus on your breathing, sounds and sights while clearing you mind of distractions and focusing you on the now.

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    [Q47] How does meditation helps me in fixing my premature ejaculation problem?

    A:
    The number one trait with all premature ejaculationists is that we over-think (over-analyze) everything and usually fail (or are simply unaware) to understand that sex is an body activity with the mind as its observer and receiver.
    Incidentally (or not) the goal of meditation is to clear your mind and focus on the body, or more precise focus on the now.
    By meditating daily we improve out ability to focus on the now, and therefore better focus on the arousal and sensations during edging and sex.
    For more on meditation see this post.

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    [Q48] What is sensate focus?

    A:
    Sensate focus is a technique that raises physical and psychological awareness of own body and sensations therefore improving your focus during edging and sex.
    It is done by simply touching your body in a non-erotic way and focusing on the sensations of your hand touching your body and your body being touched by your hand. It is a technique that should be done both solo and with a partner.
    It's preferable that you get some alone time with no distractions , get naked and simply touch yourself and see how your body reacts. While it is done in non-erotic way, it can also be useful to preform the same technique in the different phases of arousal, namely: when moderately aroused, near PONR, after ejaculation etc.
    While this technique is simple it is very useful and you might learn things that you simply where not aware off.
    Read more here and here.

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    [Q49] How can I improve my edging sessions?

    A
    :Once you have reached the 20 minute mark, having your edging sessions last somewhere between 20 minutes and 45 minutes will produce benefits. So experiment in any way you can think off but be sure the sessions lasts at least 20 minutes.

    However one important thing is to tackle one thing per session (or even per several sessions) and not just all of the noted at the same time, it is the individual changes that you should look out for and when you find the thing that affects you the most at first you can avoid it, and later on even tackle it in order to improve upon that aspect.

    Here are some ideas:
    - Be sure to vary your hands,position, speed and grip during your sessions, find what positions, speed and grip suits you the best and also find what makes you go to PONR too fast. At first avoid those situations that make you go to PONR too fast and in later sessions tackle the problem and try to improve upon that aspect.
    - Rather than just using your hands, you can also use your hips while your hands are still. Try thrusting with your hips only, and try to do it with your whole body and see how it affects you. Using a product such as the fleshlight is also an option.
    - As you progress, experimenting with kegel holds and reverse kegel holds should also be done so that you can see how that affects you. Experimenting with the kegel exercises from the kegel master list is also an option.
    - Keeping your sessions in the same format is not a bad thing, however the more you vary the way you edge the more you will improve.
    - Try changing the way you are breathing. Try out the fast shallow breaths and long deep breaths.
    - Try to moan, edge naked, during different times of the day. With your eyes open, with them closed etc.
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      post reseved.
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        UPDATE LOG


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        v1.0
        - Posted the thread
        - Added List of frequently asked questions
        - Added links to the topics covering the matter in more detail
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        Added:
        - [Q38] What are PIs?
        - [Q39] What is EQ?
        - [Q40] How can I increase my EQ?
        - [Q41] Still having trouble performing Reverse Kegels (and reverse root locks)?
        - [Q42] Should I have PremE Routine alongside PE routine?
        - [Q43] How can I reduce the sensitivity of my penis (The Death Grip solution)?
        - [Q44] How frequently should I edge in order to progress?
        - [Q45] Can I fix my premE with porn?
        - [Q46] What can I do to improve my focus during edging and sex?
        - [Q47] How does meditation helps me in fixing my premature ejaculation problem?
        - [Q48] What is sensate focus?
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        • #5
          Great write up MM. Repped.
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          • #6
            Great post!!!

            You know what's the worst? When you finally cure your PE but you have no idea how or what technique actually helped to get you there. I have a few ideas...but it sucks because I can't help others out because I don't know what specifically cured my PE :/
            2/2/2018
            BPEL: 7" (+3/4")
            NPBEL: 6 1/2" (+3/4")
            MSEG: 5” (+1/4")

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            • #7
              Originally posted by UpcomingStallion View Post
              Great post!!!

              You know what's the worst? When you finally cure your PE but you have no idea how or what technique actually helped to get you there. I have a few ideas...but it sucks because I can't help others out because I don't know what specifically cured my PE :/
              In most cases it ends up being a bunch of things that all have root in a continuous conscious effort of fixing premE. You introduce so much new variables and vectors of approach to the problem that you slowly de-construct bad habits and mindsets, and all those kegel routines you experiment with end up strengthening and balancing your pelvic floor even though you are not doing "the most correct one". With frequent and longer edging attempts you also do over the duration of it all wrap all of this in one nice fix package, with a bunch of confidence on top of it all. In the end premature ejaculation is a mix of bad things (it is almost never a single problem) it might be that it also takes a mix of good things to fix it. That of course and allot of sex.
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              • #8
                THIS IS GREAT! I suggest this becomes a sticky for newbies to read about the terminology and start understanding the basics before asking the usual "what is a kegel, what is a reverse kegel, what is a good routine" kind of questions.

                Excellent post MinuteMan. I believe the amount of value you have added to this forum is just unbelievable.

                Highly appreciated input

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                • #9
                  Hey minuteman, i have been practicing kegeling and reverse kegeling one day a week aside from my normal stretching, jelquing, uli and horse squeeze workouts. There is really alot of stuff to go over on your guide and on imacs guide to kegeling and reverse kegeling. If you could make the most sense of this for me that would be great. I have held in an orgasm with a strong kegel maybe 4 times now. Every time on the first orgasm of the day, one drop of very light cum has come out. (precum consistency). After the orgasm has been held, i lose EQ but not instantly. I can still masturbate for like 10-20 seconds to get myself hard again. I dont feel any injury or pain. After I hold the kegel and hold in the load, i lose sexual drive a bit, but nothing like when i blow my load. I am still sexually driven now, (its been an hour since i did it today). Its really hard to explain how i feel on the forum, but what can you gather from my explanation? Is this good? I hope i am not doing retroactive ejaculations. I checked my piss and I could definetly not see through it. It was a bit cloudy but I am sure regular piss is a bit cloudy as well. If you could explain one more time when to hold the kegel after the PONR. I would appreciate all the help you can give.

                  Sincerely,
                  PapaF
                  2013 ---4/1-- 5/1----6/1----9/1
                  NBPEL – 6.25--- 6.5"----6.5"------6.65"
                  BPEL--- 6.65" ----7"------7"-------7.15
                  EG – ----4.5' -----4.5"----4.5"------

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                    Added:

                    - [Q38] What are PIs?
                    - [Q39] What is EQ?
                    - [Q40] How can I increase my EQ?
                    - [Q41] Still having trouble performing Reverse Kegels (and reverse root locks)?
                    - [Q42] Should I have PremE Routine alongside PE routine?


                    If you need clarification about stuff in the guides that I wrote (DO guide, 3day, master list etc.), rather than PMing me the questions ask them in their respective topics, so that the answers can benefit others too and not just you, also if you find that the guides are too long check the members post after them because they maybe have similar or same questions as you do.
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                    • #11
                      Wow, this forum has tremendous amount of useful information. Minuteman, you are a stud. You are helping tons of folks by the minute.

                      What I wanted to mention here is that I read something for the first time.

                      [Q04] What are the physical causes of premature ejaculation?

                      A: Typical physical causes are:
                      - Short frenulum (also known as Frenulum breve), a condition where the frenelum is too short therefore causing an added pressure that leads to premature ejaculation. While some can be stretched out by longer edgiging sessions and get used to, extreme cases call for surgical intervention in order to alleviate the problem.

                      I have a great tool (7.5",6.5") but boy did I suffer before I was being able to use it. Not only that I had a super weak pelvic floor, I had a short frenulum. I believe that no mental conditioning can help you overcome those physical challenges. In my case the frenulum was so short that when you pull foreskin down more and more, it would feel like it's going to tear. And that thing was sensitive beyond words. You think you have problems with Premature Ejaculation but I literally was not able to thrust even once before coming. That thing was so sensitive that I would come while putting the condom on. What a nightmare. Tried stretching it but ended up removing it. It was the right decision but it took a while to find all the information some 6, 7 years ago. It was nowhere near as well compiled as it is on this site.

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                      • #12
                        Originally posted by saratoga74 View Post
                        Wow, this forum has tremendous amount of useful information. Minuteman, you are a stud. You are helping tons of folks by the minute.

                        What I wanted to mention here is that I read something for the first time.

                        [Q04] What are the physical causes of premature ejaculation?

                        A: Typical physical causes are:
                        - Short frenulum (also known as Frenulum breve), a condition where the frenelum is too short therefore causing an added pressure that leads to premature ejaculation. While some can be stretched out by longer edgiging sessions and get used to, extreme cases call for surgical intervention in order to alleviate the problem.

                        I have a great tool (7.5",6.5") but boy did I suffer before I was being able to use it. Not only that I had a super weak pelvic floor, I had a short frenulum. I believe that no mental conditioning can help you overcome those physical challenges. In my case the frenulum was so short that when you pull foreskin down more and more, it would feel like it's going to tear. And that thing was sensitive beyond words. You think you have problems with Premature Ejaculation but I literally was not able to thrust even once before coming. That thing was so sensitive that I would come while putting the condom on. What a nightmare. Tried stretching it but ended up removing it. It was the right decision but it took a while to find all the information some 6, 7 years ago. It was nowhere near as well compiled as it is on this site.
                        Yeah as you noticed the short frenulum can be a very problematic, I have it but not to an extreme and I can sort of stretch it and put the foreskin behind my glans so that the pressure and sensitivity are at bearable levels. However, as you noticed it is a rare occurrence that I might have missed if I hadn't got it (thankfully not as severe), and noticed that another member (naturesucks) is having it.

                        We all work here in hope of creating a good foundation that will speed up the fixing of premature ejaculation and provide more than just scattered articles and mystic guides, or payable solutions that end up being far from helpful.
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                        • #13
                          My two basic questions. I have been suffering from PE

                          (1). How many times should I do Edging in a week or in a month?

                          (2). In the beginning it was difficult for me to stop urine, now I can stop it at any moment and I can old for a long time. Is it because of Kegel exercises ? If yes then it means I am doing Kegel properly

                          I do three sessions in a day of kegel exercises. each session consists of 8.

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                            1). How many times should I do Edging in a week or in a month?
                            There is no set amount of times. This generally relates to how your PIs are after each edging and on. If you notice a drop in EQ or pain or things like that then you should probably decrease the amouts of edging per week.

                            Make sure your edging sessions last to a mimum of 20 minutes if you can reach that time. Other guideline should be approximately the same to the amount you usually masturbate.

                            (2). In the beginning it was difficult for me to stop urine, now I can stop it at any moment and I can old for a long time. Is it because of Kegel exercises ? If yes then it means I am doing Kegel properly

                            It means you are doing kegel properly however you should not do it like that in form of an exercise, stopping the urination is more of a way to become aware of what muscles should you move. For the exercise you should not be urinating while doing kegels.
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                            • #15
                              thanks aloooooooooooooooooooooooooot man

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