My story and me requesting help from more experienced guys.

**aymmoT** · 07-15-2013

Hello there guys i'll try to go directly to the subject. I'm a 19 y.o. virgin and i am lucky enough to have a girlfriend for a long time already. The soft spot in this relationship is that she thinks i already had sex and that i am more experimented then her (she is also a virgin) in this field. I kinda went on with her thoughts because I was thinking it was a good image for me but it kinda backfired. Our basic make-out routine consists of dry-humping our way to orgasms . Basically my penis touches her vagina through some layers . At first her being a virgin it was enough 30seconds to 1 minute of some makingout and dryhumping and she was dripping wet. I would come after 5-7 minutes sometimes i wouldn't come at all. After some time we got to the point were we both came at the same time. For like a month now i tend to orgasm before her , she doesn't think it's a problem because she feels proud of her being able to make me "feel good" , but i understand that it's kinda bad for my manliness and it makes me feel complexated and uncomfortable and my PreE gets even worse because of this. At start when she gave me some handjobs i could hold like 2 minutes (which is still little time) , but now i cand hold like 10 strokes ? I find it kinda strange . I am overexcited of any touch from her and sometimes i get hard from a simple hug which is kinda lame :| I don't tent to have trouble edging . I can masturbate from watching porn and hold my load for 10-15 minutes without trying really hard and I don't understand why I can't do it while making-out with her. I'll do a summary of my problems.
Problem 1. Overexcitement (getting hard from a hug is something i would want to eliminate)
Problem 2. I know i'm a virgin and i am not supposed to last very long , but i still think I have a problem with this.
Problem 3. Psychological problem (flashbacks of past scenes where i "blew it" )
Problem 4. Not understanding why in time i got more sensitive instead of "better".

Thank you in advance !!! I hope i didn't bore you with my personal life , but i thought it was the best way to describe the situation.

**Dangler** · 07-15-2013

throw this thinking out into the trash:
but i understand that it's kinda bad for my manliness and it makes me feel complexated and uncomfortable

I would love to have this quality at my age, you better enjoy it while it lasts, and I don't consider it lame either...
sometimes i get hard from a simple hug which is kinda lame

There are some traits of being young that don't last forever. Best you learn to enjoy them, Mother nature will take them away and give them to Father Time.

**Insomnia** · 07-18-2013

Been in your seat like 9 months back when I first got together with my gf (Still together). Though I was a virgin, she wasn't. (She'd had sex once before, and it wasn't pleasureable in any way if I got it right) Anyhow! :
Our sexual experiences started as you said with making out and dryhumping, mostly her on top of me, grinding like, in our underwear.
At first I had no problem at all with anything, I just thought of everything as really nice, and she came within minutes. But as time progressed she lasted longer and longer and we started doing more and more intimate stuff. The first time I went inside her I came immediately, and the second and the third... So then we stopped trying that. We only did the grinding stuff, oral and manual sex, but I still came really quick.
For me it was all psychological; I was so worried I would never be able to really fuck her, to be inside of her. But after a while I realized: "I'm able to give her really powerful orgasms, hearing her scream louder than anything I've ever heard, with my fingers and my tongue. What's the problem really?" And after a while I stated that I'd like to be inside of her "for real" at least once every time we have sex. And everything has become a lot better since then! I do ejaculate kind of quick, but I'm very aware of my arousal and such, so I know when it's about to happen.
So I am still practicing.
What you need to do is to stop worrying and to talk with your girlfriend. Talking with her about the issue will help (unless she is a bitch, but I doubt it c: )
The answer to most of the problems are that you are worrying too much. Perhaps when you hug her you think "PLEASE NOT A BONER NOW", and then your dick trolls you hard. (lol)(sorry for that bad pun).
I advise you to rethink. And pretty much "accept" what is happening right now. But not in the way that you give up! Instead, talk with your girl, tell her of all the stuff you've written and ask her, is it an issue? Most probably not.
You'll be surprised by how cool girls are with things like this!

Cheers