HI!
First of all, I would like to say a BIG THANK YOU to all of you guys who put their time and effort to help each other. This is just great and very much appreciated!
I have been lurking this forum for quite some time, tried to start a routine about six months ago but stopped due to lack of time. Now I have the time to put effort in this, and I'm all the way in this!
Well, I did start a routine this last month, but had a few fall-backs into porn and bad masturbation, so I figured opening a thread of my own would make me more committed and motivated.
My Story:
I'm 21 years old, and Prem-E was a problem since I first started to have sex, about three years ago. I had a girlfriend back then, but we broke up two and a half years ago, and since then I have had no sexual activities until a few weeks ago.
Both with my ex and with the new girl, I have always came in no more than 1-2 minutes.
Well, this is defenitely going to cahnge!
The Causes For My Problem:
The causes for my problem are mostly bad masturbation habits and lots and lots of involuntary kegels (I used to kegel during the whole time I was masturbating - wasn't even aware I was doing that and that it was bad... So it made my pelvic floor very imbalanced).
There is, of course, the mental cause - anxiety and all that crap that came after I realized I couldn't last long enough. But I know I should just stay relaxed and I always satisfy her manually before penetration, so I am not that stressed during the act.
My Routine:
Firstly, I started a kegel routine to balance my pelvic floor. I am doing Minuteman's dry orgasm routine, currently on stage 0.3. In addition, I do reverse kegels through the day, and always try to be aware of my pelvic floor being relaxed. I incorporate the meditative reverse kegel also during the day - not practically meditating but I correlate the breathing with the rk as stated there.
I do feel my pelvic floor is a lot more relaxed than before (I started taking notice of that when I first found this site about six months ago), but I still get a shit-load of involuntary kegels when things get too intense.
Secondly, I edge for 30-60 minutes a day. I did some gradual edging sessions back when I found PEGym, so this is not new to me and I enjoy edging for an hour and sometimes even longer. Of course I do have to stop many times to prevent ejaculation - it's not like I edge for an hour straight without stopping.
I'm not sure whether I should go on the 3day routine or not. I tried that - not exactly as Minuteman suggested in his thread but more like ByggD suggested - I edged for like an hour each day and came only the third. Maybe it was too intense for me because I didn't manage to stick to that plan very long and fell back into porn.
What would you suggest? doing a 3day program of about 20 mins a day or edging for a whole hour but coming every time? Or maybe I should do 3 days of an hour long edging with ejaculation following by 3 days of 20 mins coming only the third?
I also read about all kinds of streches, but never really felt anything with that, is it really that important or should rk-ing be enough?
Do you have any other suggestions and things I can add?
Thank you for reading this and for all this great information on this awesome forum! I will certainly update here every day or two
First of all, I would like to say a BIG THANK YOU to all of you guys who put their time and effort to help each other. This is just great and very much appreciated!
I have been lurking this forum for quite some time, tried to start a routine about six months ago but stopped due to lack of time. Now I have the time to put effort in this, and I'm all the way in this!
Well, I did start a routine this last month, but had a few fall-backs into porn and bad masturbation, so I figured opening a thread of my own would make me more committed and motivated.
My Story:
I'm 21 years old, and Prem-E was a problem since I first started to have sex, about three years ago. I had a girlfriend back then, but we broke up two and a half years ago, and since then I have had no sexual activities until a few weeks ago.
Both with my ex and with the new girl, I have always came in no more than 1-2 minutes.
Well, this is defenitely going to cahnge!
The Causes For My Problem:
The causes for my problem are mostly bad masturbation habits and lots and lots of involuntary kegels (I used to kegel during the whole time I was masturbating - wasn't even aware I was doing that and that it was bad... So it made my pelvic floor very imbalanced).
There is, of course, the mental cause - anxiety and all that crap that came after I realized I couldn't last long enough. But I know I should just stay relaxed and I always satisfy her manually before penetration, so I am not that stressed during the act.
My Routine:
Firstly, I started a kegel routine to balance my pelvic floor. I am doing Minuteman's dry orgasm routine, currently on stage 0.3. In addition, I do reverse kegels through the day, and always try to be aware of my pelvic floor being relaxed. I incorporate the meditative reverse kegel also during the day - not practically meditating but I correlate the breathing with the rk as stated there.
I do feel my pelvic floor is a lot more relaxed than before (I started taking notice of that when I first found this site about six months ago), but I still get a shit-load of involuntary kegels when things get too intense.
Secondly, I edge for 30-60 minutes a day. I did some gradual edging sessions back when I found PEGym, so this is not new to me and I enjoy edging for an hour and sometimes even longer. Of course I do have to stop many times to prevent ejaculation - it's not like I edge for an hour straight without stopping.
I'm not sure whether I should go on the 3day routine or not. I tried that - not exactly as Minuteman suggested in his thread but more like ByggD suggested - I edged for like an hour each day and came only the third. Maybe it was too intense for me because I didn't manage to stick to that plan very long and fell back into porn.
What would you suggest? doing a 3day program of about 20 mins a day or edging for a whole hour but coming every time? Or maybe I should do 3 days of an hour long edging with ejaculation following by 3 days of 20 mins coming only the third?
I also read about all kinds of streches, but never really felt anything with that, is it really that important or should rk-ing be enough?
Do you have any other suggestions and things I can add?
Thank you for reading this and for all this great information on this awesome forum! I will certainly update here every day or two
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