Hi guys, have been loitering on the forums over the past week.
I have come here as I'm a 28 year old male that is currently starting to have problems with premature ejaculation.
As a bit of history I've never really had a superbad problem with it, although I've never been one to be able to last for half an hour plus. I'd say in terms of penetration I'd average around 10 minutes in the past.
Anyway I've been dating a great girl now for 5 months and in the beginning all was good. Again I'm no casanova and penetrative sex lasted roughly 10 minutes I'd say (and I'd always get her off by fingering her, she has never had a penetrative orgasm without stimulation by me) but she was telling everyone how hot it was & she was telling me things like I was amazing in bed and I genuinely believe her on this.
Recently though I've been starting to blow my load in the space of just a few minutes, and in fact even a few thrusts and I'm getting so excited that I'm feeling the PONR come on, so I'm having to stop and wait, or switch positions but it's just so obvious what I'm doing to her. She really hates it, especially as she's the sort of girl that loves it hard and deep and for a long time, unfortunately even when things were going well and she was telling me she was loving it I was feeling like I was underperforming =(. I haven't seen her much for the past month and last night and this morning we had sex and it was just whack. I tried to laugh it off last night and told her it was just because I was so excited as hadn't seen her for so long, but same thing happened this morning. I said sorry and she said I had nothing to be sorry for but I know if i don't get this under control over the long term we're going to part ways which would be sad =(.
I'm a bit overwhelmed with all the new information on here. It seems like consistently 'edging' as a technique is useful (although I find it difficult to get an erection without any stimulation at all).
Reverse kegels also are something new I'm reading about but I'm not sure where I'm suppose to employ them vs normal kegels during sex.
Anyway, just wondering if anyone had any specific tips for me knowing a bit about my history. It sounds to me more psychological than physical but I could do with a lot of work on the physical side of things anyway to hopefully get me over that 10 minute mark long-term, hoping that I get over this issue!
As an aside I'm one of those guys who can't urinate whilst other people are around, as I think i read somewhere the two are related..
Thanks guys
TC
PS I've also started jelqing since being on the forums
PPS I'd like to try get over this without talking to her about this as well for now
I have come here as I'm a 28 year old male that is currently starting to have problems with premature ejaculation.
As a bit of history I've never really had a superbad problem with it, although I've never been one to be able to last for half an hour plus. I'd say in terms of penetration I'd average around 10 minutes in the past.
Anyway I've been dating a great girl now for 5 months and in the beginning all was good. Again I'm no casanova and penetrative sex lasted roughly 10 minutes I'd say (and I'd always get her off by fingering her, she has never had a penetrative orgasm without stimulation by me) but she was telling everyone how hot it was & she was telling me things like I was amazing in bed and I genuinely believe her on this.
Recently though I've been starting to blow my load in the space of just a few minutes, and in fact even a few thrusts and I'm getting so excited that I'm feeling the PONR come on, so I'm having to stop and wait, or switch positions but it's just so obvious what I'm doing to her. She really hates it, especially as she's the sort of girl that loves it hard and deep and for a long time, unfortunately even when things were going well and she was telling me she was loving it I was feeling like I was underperforming =(. I haven't seen her much for the past month and last night and this morning we had sex and it was just whack. I tried to laugh it off last night and told her it was just because I was so excited as hadn't seen her for so long, but same thing happened this morning. I said sorry and she said I had nothing to be sorry for but I know if i don't get this under control over the long term we're going to part ways which would be sad =(.
I'm a bit overwhelmed with all the new information on here. It seems like consistently 'edging' as a technique is useful (although I find it difficult to get an erection without any stimulation at all).
Reverse kegels also are something new I'm reading about but I'm not sure where I'm suppose to employ them vs normal kegels during sex.
Anyway, just wondering if anyone had any specific tips for me knowing a bit about my history. It sounds to me more psychological than physical but I could do with a lot of work on the physical side of things anyway to hopefully get me over that 10 minute mark long-term, hoping that I get over this issue!
As an aside I'm one of those guys who can't urinate whilst other people are around, as I think i read somewhere the two are related..
Thanks guys
TC
PS I've also started jelqing since being on the forums
PPS I'd like to try get over this without talking to her about this as well for now
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