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  • Some recent improvement and possible gains!! My Log.

    So, the last four times i've had sex (with one blow job in between) have seen some small gains. They are as follows....

    Sex, lasted approximately 49 fairly quick pumps - about two per second - probably a minute to a minute and a half.... (yes, i counted them in my head!) This was missionary, my new worst position. Enough for her to come.

    Sex again, doggy, lasted about a minute or so. Close to two minutes. Enough for her again.

    The following were all last night:

    Blow Job... Lasted a lot longer than recently. More like how i used to last (maybe not quite as long). Much improved. Probably a solid 3-4 minutes. Maybe more. Wasn't counting.

    Sex, about one minute and a half, possibly two. Enough for her to come.

    Sex again an hour or so later. Lasted about 5 minutes, first in doggy (she came) then switched to missionary. Probably could have lasted longer with a well timed pause or position change. We were both very happy with this performance!
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    Now, i know the last example i had already ejaculated twice that evening but still.... These rough numbers are much improved from the less than 30 seconds i've been doing recently. This got me thinking...

    Firstly, i attribute the gains to generally feeling more relaxed and confident. Secondly, im delighted with these gains. Now, i know that sounds weird... Most of it was 2 minutes MAX. Nothing to shout about. However, it is, without doubt, an improvement. I think it's absolutely critical to glean confidence from even the smallest successes. I feel great. I actually feel like im improving and i feel more relaxed as a result. I'll have setbacks, no doubt, but i feel im heading in the right direction.

    I think we have a tendency, maybe, to think that we'll do all these exercises or routines and then one day it will click and we'll last 10 minutes. The reality is, it's going to be an additional 10 seconds here, 30 seconds there and maybe the occasional minute for a while. The progress will be incremental and small. But that's ok!

    Another point... Although the times may not look impressed, more importantly, they FELT longer. I think people probably overestimate how long they last unless everyone is constantly checking the time during sex! I happened to have a laptop nearby that i could glance at at the start and afterwards so my numbers are quite accurate. However, as i say, the acts themselves felt longer than the times stated.

    I'll use this as a log to keep updating rather than my others thread.

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    Sounds great! Congratulations!
    The good thing about these small improvements we make is, that they show us that we are on the right track and that we are going forward which for me is a HUGE relief because I saw it as a "thing to live with" before I decided to work on it. But this wall that keeps us in is getting weaker and weaker with every small success, so we see, that it is possible to break out and life free. And therefore they encourage you to go on.

    The best thing is, that the more often we will have small improvements, we will get more and more confident which will create a positive factor for the progress.

    Let's keep going! ItsPossible!
    Keep on rocking!
    It is not about never failing - It is about failing and CONTINGUING!

    My Journey to Freedom: https://www.pegym.com/forums/prematu...tml#post776179

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    • #3
      Thanks!

      I think a confidence-good performance cycle is very important.

      Something i have been doing... Most days, in fact, everyday, whether im working, sat at home, with the GF... whatever, i'll do deep breaths and exhales intermittently during the day. Not constant. I haven't dedicated any set time per day to it. I'll also do this during edging. I find that has been of great benefit recently.

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      • #4
        Sex last night, lasted about a minute or so. Still enough for her.

        This morning, blowjob, lasted a good amount of time.

        Few hours later, sex, lasted a solid five or so minutes!!!

        New twist though, i just broke up with the girlfriend for being a cheating little bitch. But annoying as i now have to find a new partner to practice with!! Whoops!

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        • #5
          More updates... I stayed at hers last night... Originally i went to pick up some things but we talked, decided i'd give it a week or two to make a decision about how to proceed...

          Anyway, to the good stuff!

          We had sex, lasted 2-2 and a half minutes. Enough for her, we came at the same time. The a couple hours later... Another strong performance by me, about 5 or so minutes. She came twice, did it in three different positions... Then again in the morning, so deal, were at it for somewhere between 5 and 10 minutes, probably closer to 5 than 10 so let's call it 6 and a half.

          This recent turn around has come, really, from thinking more positively, lowering my arousal in general and feeling a lot more confident. Rather than beginning sex with the thoughts, "god, please make it through the first 20 seconds!!!", I'm thinking, "i've got this, i can last, it's all good".

          It can be done!! I'm nit saying i'm past it. But im most definitely heading in the right direction. The first couple of successes i could pass off as one-offs. But i've shown some good consistency since the first post in this thread.

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          • #6
            Awesome bro, keep up the good work!
            https://www.pegym.com/forums/prematu...tml#post814461

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            • #7
              Thanks mate!

              The status of the relationship is now very much up in the air. It's down to what i decide. It would be a shame from a personal point of view to end it just when i feel i've turned a corner with this particular issue, however.

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              • #8
                More of the same last night and this afternoon. Really turned a corner here. My minimum lasting time is now about 2/2 and half minutes and im also lasting 5 + minutes sometimes too.

                Last night for example, i got a BJ for 5 minutes. Wasn't going to come/didn't want to so had sex. Sex lasted 6 minutes so that's an 11 minute JBJ/sex combo. So relieved to have come through the other side! Can only get better from here if i continue to work on it.

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                • #9
                  That's really amazing man congrats!

                  I'm sure your results will start growing even quicker now that your core confidence is there.

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                  • #10
                    I hope so!

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                    • #11
                      You can do it!
                      https://www.pegym.com/forums/prematu...tml#post814461

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                      • #12
                        So i haven't posted in a while but feel i should as i've seen a slight regression in my performance. Not as bad as it was but im hitting about 2 minutes and struggling recently. I think a few factors are at play:

                        1) Tiredness. I always get IK's and unwanted erections when im tired for some reason. I've been working a lot and not sleeping well on a consistent enough basis...

                        2) Pretty much ceased all 'training'. Haven't watched porn/edged much at all, haven't been doing my penis streches or any RK's.

                        3) Hvaen't been working out as much... Probably effects serotonin levels and generally feelings.

                        4) As a result of the above, my confidence in my ability to perform has definitely dropped and i can feel that anxiety/lack of confidence/focus on coming too soon creeping back into my mind.
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                        On top of that, im also taking anti-biotics at the moment and have been for the past month or so. This could be a contributing factor to fatigue etc...

                        So i'm posting to help get me back on track. Make myself accountable again.

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