I thought I was healed but...

**ammonite** · 02-07-2014

Lot of debate on porn. I personally think its not good, at least not if you do it often. It's your own choice though, make an informed decision considering how advanced you are in treatment, addictive problems and moral problems.

**Berba** · 02-07-2014

If you are going to use porn - as i did, then you must use it properly and responsibly. I was actually going to do a separate thread about how to use porn safely as a training tool, as i think there are some key rules that should be obeyed to reduce the risk of any problems arising.

**Draugr** · 02-07-2014

You are on the right track bro!

You will get things sorted out pretty soon, you said you used to ejaculate when you touched the STU and right now you can last 20 minutes without reaching PONR so that means its just mental, you just need to get used to a real women.

What i would recommend is adding stimulations slowly to see your reactions, for example, you can start by edging while looking the picture of the girl you like (not naked), see how you feel, how your body and arousal acts, once you learn to control that feeling add more stimulations, a picture of a naked girl, after that you can use audio stimulation, visual stimulation with porn (muted) and finish with porn, but use it just for learning purposes.

**SeratoBeats** · 02-08-2014

Like I have said over and over again, it is all mental.

People are focusing way too much on the physical aspect here

Arousal control and performance anxiety is the issue

**vencek** · 02-08-2014

Ok guys, thank you all for your replies. Today I started adding pictures of naked women and in few weeks will continue with porn. Hope I will get rid of this stupid PE once forever:-)

**vencek** · 02-11-2014

I am starting to believe, that it is all in my head. When I masturbate and do not think about anything, I can go forever. But as soon as I think about naked girl, my imagination goes wild and I can not stop IK even thought I try really hard. This means, I have to learn to control my arousal, is that right? Any tips for that?

**pegaso79** · 02-11-2014

But on real sex you not going to only think. You are going to see her, kiss her, smell her perfume, spank her ass, fuck her pussy. What you going to do?

**dobby** · 02-11-2014

Pegaso, such a poet!

He's right tho, GO HAVE SEX!!

Focus on being present, not interpreting sex as dirty for right now and you'll be able to last.

Stay the hell away from porn tho, not sure why that is advised to learn arousal control over having sex.

**vencek** · 02-12-2014

Originally Posted by dobby

Pegaso, such a poet!

He's right tho, GO HAVE SEX!!

Focus on being present, not interpreting sex as dirty for right now and you'll be able to last.

Stay the hell away from porn tho, not sure why that is advised to learn arousal control over having sex.

Easy to say, hard to do. It is quite difficult to have sex, when it is always so embarrassing :-/ Important to say, that it is easy for me to get girls into my bed, but performance sucks...

**delon** · 02-12-2014

Have you done PE exercises like stretching and jelqing? A lot of people have found that doing exercises like that and handling your penis in a non-pleasurable way can reduce sensation and the urge to ejaculate