Premature Ejaculation Success Stories???

[steveshorny1]

Thanks Drummer, Yes Im trying to stay positive although some days its kinda hard. Yes 5 mins is better than 10 seconds for sure.

OK, Im gonna share with everyone what happened today during my edging session. Something wierd that has never happened before.

I was edging and trying to keep my arousal level down, but at 15 mins I knew I was almost at the PONR. Anyhow I thought Id try a hard reverse kegel and keep going to see if this was going to help at all

I did the reverse kegel really hard, but the wierdest thing. My penis trickled out my load, but in a steady flow. There was no involuntary kegels that i could feel and it wasnt squirting like a regular ejaculation. Just a steady long flow as i held that reverse kegel. It was wierd. I continued edging but only went like another 30 seconds before I ejaculated again (regular ejaculation) but with less ejaculant of course.

Anyone experienced this?

Happy Easter

[PumpSon!]

I have a lot of experience in this area as I have made much progress with my own condition with this. I am confident that if you can fuck up your penis without ever having sex you can fix it without ever having sex. Just don't use porn, don't masturbate frequently, and if you do be sure and edge a while. If you can't last more than 30 seconds in sex then sex WILL not improve your condition, however if you can last 5min you definitely can use frequent sex to help.

Stay positive! 5min is much better than 1 min! I remember the first time I went 5min from 10 seconds. I was so amazed. I was even able to go up to 15min of nonstop sex. I found that I could go 5 min, pullout for 20seconds and kiss her, then go back in for another 5-10min and repeat. I am able to go fast in a few positions (It has been a while) and when I start to tense up I can slow down the pace and continue to go on for a few min, until it gets to the point where I can go fast again. I was lasting this long almost every time, until I started edging to porn again! (this was over 2 months ago) Now I am porn free, which is hard, but I feel completely different and confident, and I know that the next time I have sex I will be able to last at least a few min no problem. Hell I may be able to even pull a 20-30min session the second time! (I only think I won't last too long the first time because it will be with a new partner and it has been over a month since the last time I had sex.)

Stay confident and positive and it will continue to get better! I am glad to see progress with you!

So you also believe porn should NOT be used and if possible have regular sex over masterbation?

[ipsned]

I was once a sufferer of this unhappy condition. I am quite an insecure individual and ever since I started masturbating I had guilt feelings although not badly enough to stop the practice. I felt inferior about the fact that I could not get a girlfriend and could only get sex by myself. Right from the start I was aware of a lack of control when I masturbated. I could get and maintain an erection sure enough but always came quite suddenly after very little stimulation, and never felt good after an orgasm.
Eventually I found a partner, at age 21 and we married and had a family, but my wife was very aggressive, and sex was not very good. Because of what happened when I masturbated I had had an inkling that I might become a premature ejaculation sufferer and my expectations were, inevitably, borne out. The first time we had sex, and just about every subsequent time, I came immediately on penetration. Foreplay was fine, we could keep that up and enjoy it but after that it was all over quickly, except on rare occasions when I could get it up a second time, as long as wifey was still interested. If I managed to get it up a second time, I would actually be able to maintain an erection for maybe a whole minute and we would both come, but we would be having desperate, panicky sex, missionary only, oriented only toward an orgasm rather than enjoying the sensation. I managed to do this a handful of times and completely lost the ability to do it by the time we were having children.
My wife’s lack of interest was the first problem, in spite of all her permissive society and liberation talk she would not communicate about sex. True, she never once complained that it was over too quickly and I was good about sexually satisfying her in other ways, but I had a serious nagging complex about not being able to prolong our penetrative sex. I remember once laying in bed with her and listening to the couple in the flat above having noisy sex for several minutes but was too intimidated to even mention it, let alone make a joke. We settled in to a routine of uncommunicative sex about once a fortnight, in the context of a lifestyle dogged by stress, lack of money, and general lack of communication and dysfunctionality. Problems with childbirth led to even more apprehension about sex and after our children were born I think we had sex about 5 times in 3 years and then that was it! The marriage ended 9 years later.
But through all that I continued to masturbate about once a week. I don’t know what she did for herself. And I became quite obsessed about my condition. I was aware that all my sensitivity was in the region around the frenulum, (I am circumcised). I always felt that I was very tight around this area and wondered what would happen if my frenulum was severed.
I won’t go into the detail but I managed after years and years of consideration to do it myself without any gore or trauma, have a look here to see how it can be done by tying the frenulum:Tying Up the Frenulum

I was very excited when the frenulum finally broke and my cock felt different straight away. I masturbated that evening and was able to control myself seemingly as long as I wanted, masturbation was totally different from then on, although I still have that sheepish feeling after an orgasm. It was as though before there was an unstoppable link to an orgasm that came on at about the PONR and ejaculation happened automatically, and quickly, even if I immediately stopped all stimulation and tried to distract myself, but now that link was taken away I could get to PONR and reduce stimulation and go back as often as I wanted.
I could do this for an hour or two, edging, whereas before I would last a minute at most.
But despite this sex with my wife was no different. As soon as we started, her orgasm became the priority and we would bang away for a few seconds, having previously spent a while working her up, and we would both come. On top of this I was noticing that my ability to achieve a full erection was less reliable than when I was younger. One problem was that the urgency in our sex gave no opportunity to just relax and stay inside and see how long we could make it last, even without moving, just to appreciate the sensation of being inside. That was what I was longing for all my life.
Eventually my ambition would be realized.

So the marriage ended. I was still convinced that I was unable to have normal sex with a woman, and even lost the chance of a new relationship due to this.
And then, after another 10 years, approaching 60, I fell in with Mary.

I had met her briefly a while before and now resumed contact, presumably as she was now single and more interested. I had always liked her before but she was much younger, we were both married and getting together was not on the cards.
Now we were free to get it on, which Mary wasted no time at. She was totally disinhibited in talking about sex, to the point of carelessness sometimes, but I had learnt at least one lesson, which was that if the opportunity for sex of any kind ever arose again I would take it.
On our first date Mary gave me oral sex. And for the next 6 successive nights. And every time it lasted for several minutes. I knew something was different, although will never be sure what. Maybe my age had caused me on the one hand to be less able to get an immediate erection, but on the other hand to be less sensitive. I definitely felt less sensation initially, although while being stimulated the sensation would build up. And a couple of nights when circumstances permitted I would stimulate her in the way I had learnt when I was married. Mary was very complimentary about this, which helped to ease my apprehension about what would happen when we eventually had full sex.
Mary was communicating about our sex so well, in every detail, I had never experienced this before. She was totally unembarrassed and natural
After about a week the time for full sex came. My ability to become erect was unreliable but I managed it and off we went. That time all I could think about was maintaining an erection, and I wasn’t worrying about how it ended up, as Mary made it clear how enthusiastic she was just about the fact that we were both trying something physical.
So after just a minute or so I came. Previously in my life I had only been able to last this long on the “second time around” when I was slightly desensitized from the initial orgasm. Something new was happening.
I can’t remember the exact order of events but somehow within a couple of weeks I was still having trouble, but now it was with getting used to the idea that I was a stud in bed who could do things for Mary which she said no man could ever do before. We began to set and achieve targets. Mary was able to come to orgasm very easily and very often. I remember after just a few nights I was on top of her saying that this was the first time I had made a girl come before I did, can you imagine what an amazing feeling that was? I could lie still inside her and just savour her pussy. And what a pussy! I would put my fingers deep inside and tell her to squeeze, and great thick walls of muscle bore down on my hand, a ridge of muscle as thick and tight as a rope rose up from her floor! It was a joy to manually pleasure her, or orally, something which I had never had a problem with before but also which she said no man had been interested in doing for her before. When I was inside her that pussy could lift and kick and buck like a fairground ride!
I remember the time I said to her “I’m going to carry on till you’ve come four times”, which got her very excited, you will appreciate. She was like a porn star. We started increasing our repertoire of positions, another wonderful new world for me. From behind, woman on top, straddling, sitting with her legs on my shoulders, from behind but lying on our sides . I increased the number of orgasms I could give her gradually to as many as 20, 25 maybe. Into the next year we were having full penetrative sex sometimes for an hour or more.
And my own orgasms last longer too, when I’m getting ready to come I sometimes find myself saying “it’s too nice baby, help me come!”

How on earth did all this happen?
With Mary, and with my frenulum–less cock, I had just the control I needed to be able to have sex for a bit, then pull back or hold it for a bit, find a position that didn’t over stimulate me, a good position is with my cock right inside and with her pubic bone pushing down on the base of my cock from above, such as in missionary or straddle position. Once we’re there all we need is just a little bit of movement, and friction around Mary’s opening, to keep her happy, and I can concentrate on that rather than on my own sensitive area, which is still there, where the frenulum used to be. I guess eventually my cock must have got re-trained to get used to sitting inside, feeling Mary’s pussy, but not getting over excited.
Some things haven’t changed. I can’t do it twice in a row, but on the plus side often I am still horny in the morning and I can give her several orgasms without coming myself at all, and jump out of bed afterward and make her breakfast. We have sex three or four times a week. I still feel as though an orgasm takes it all out of me, and still occasionally come relatively quickly, out of control, but this is all natural variation. Sex has for me finally become a recreational activity rather than a goal directed activity.

That’s a lot of writing, I think what I’m saying with regard to PE is simply
that three things cured it in my case, and I mean cured, completely.
Getting the frenulum tied
Finding a wise, sexy woman
Getting older
I’m especially interested to know if any other of you older guys found the same thing?

[JL14]

Alright guys, first time blogger here. This is a success story that has unfortunately taken a turn for the the worse recently and I do not know what to do. So I have been a long time sufferer of PE. Usually only lasting a few pumps and then I am done. It basically ruined my confidence and life. Just recently (5-6 months ago) I decided to try some "alternate" forms of therapy which included going to strip clubs and getting lap dances to try to control my sexual urges along with the usual masturbation techniques. I have to say the strip club trips really helped with the psychological aspect of PE and really helped me control my arousal state. A bit scummy, but effective treatment. So after all this I finally had the confidence to try to meet a girl and I did. We were hooking up and she went to grab me, and I instantly panicked thinking "What do i say when i blow my load in 20 seconds," but to my surprise I felt no where near the ponr. I hooked up with this new girl for about 15 minutes and felt like a million bucks! Next time it lasted 20 minutes, and the time after that I literally decided when I wanted to cum. This was like a dream come true! I always read in the forums that if you overcome PE you will basically have complete control of your ejaculatory reflex and be able to come whenever. So after a couple months of dating we decided to go our separate ways.

Enter girl two. After the first girl I had all the confidence in the world with girl two. Right away I am lasting as long as I wanted and she is complimenting me on my control and stamina - saying things like she has never had such a good lover etc. We have been dating for 3 months and I have not had a single case of PE....until yesterday that is. For some reason, everything changed on Monday. I had the day off and decided to give myself a little self lovin, and about 30 seconds in I was ready to explode. I waited a little bit and started again..but was ready to explode again. The next day the gf comes over and she is ready to have some fun. I can already feel that weird tension in my pelvic muscles before we start hooking up and I know that I am screwed. Right when we start foreplay I tell her that I am about to cum. She just laughed at me and said, "haha very funny but you arent even hard yet." Then she started stroking it again and I couldn't hold it anymore. I was completely and totally mortified. She was really cool about it and said it was OK, but all i could think was "Oh no, its back." Today when i masturbated I couldn't last 2 minutes again. I don't know how in a split second I go from Mr. Control to square one. I can't help but think it must have physiological causes like prostatitis to come on that fast and out of nowhere...but then again...who knows? I just feel like complete shit right now and needed to share my half success story with somebody. PE is completely stuck in my head now and I am afraid to hook up with my gf again.

[Drummer19]

So you also believe porn should NOT be used and if possible have regular sex over masterbation?

Yes once you can edge solo for a while begin to have sex to build stamina. No porn, ever!

[RiderofRohan]

Hey Guys,

I rarely post on forums but want to share some good news, maybe it'll raise morale a bit on this board.

When I was younger about 20 and with my first serious sexual girlfriend I had no issues, I would last as long as I wanted and stay hard, I didn't care or worry about anything to do with PE.

After we broke up I started to get into some bad habits with my masturbation. I'd be online, I'd deliberately get myself to the PONR as fast as I could and just stay there for a while, I found that more enjoyable. I didn't realise that this was affecting my stretch reflex and would create future issues.

The next woman I shagged I went really early. I couldn't believe it, it hadn't happened before. I told her that this doesn't happen and I was surprised, she was cool about it, but obviously I was massively embarrassed.

I did some research to see what I could do. I started kegelling and it made my problem worse! This is the big misconception out there at the moment with PE, if there's no reverse kegelling included it can tighten the PC muscles more and exacerbate the problem.

I first found out about reverse kegelling from you guys. Thank You! I don't know if I would've been able to get over this issue. I'd been training for a few months off and on but wasn't with any women.

I had my first shag a few weeks ago, and YES! It was awesome to be able to perform freely. I could go as long as I wanted to. On our last night together, she came 4 times over 2 hours and so I was pumping for about 1 1/2 hours all up without having an urge to come. She even was disappointed that I hadn't came, at the end I needed to go really hard to make myself come.

I've never had that sort of control before. I credit the reverse kegelling to this result, and if I have a recommendation it's to reverse kegel!

Thanks for everyone's help,
It's a good community you have created.
Cheers,
Ro

[Jimo]

Im a bit older now and sometimes have the opposite problem but I was one of the worlds worst when it came to PE. When I was young I could hardly get pass the kissing let alone forplay stage. It was very enbarrassing and humiliating. I withdrew and tried to avoid encounters until I finaly met the right person. She was so supportive and understanding and with her help along with some simple exersises and some mind control, I managed to get over PE for ever.

[JamesMonroe]

Yes Jimo. Same thing happened to me. Getting used to crazy sex very slowly with a patient, caring partner is the ultimate cure for prem ejac. Reverse kegels, no porn, edging with lube and ballooning help along the way, thanx to this website. I went from 1 min to sometimes an hour during sex.

[bobandbob]

What's the name of this site or link

[PumpSon!]

Im a bit older now and sometimes have the opposite problem but I was one of the worlds worst when it came to PE. When I was young I could hardly get pass the kissing let alone forplay stage. It was very enbarrassing and humiliating. I withdrew and tried to avoid encounters until I finaly met the right person. She was so supportive and understanding and with her help along with some simple exersises and some mind control, I managed to get over PE for ever.

Yes Jimo. Same thing happened to me. Getting used to crazy sex very slowly with a patient, caring partner is the ultimate cure for prem ejac. Reverse kegels, no porn, edging with lube and ballooning help along the way, thanx to this website. I went from 1 min to sometimes an hour during sex.

Can you guys elaborate?

So you think the key to fixing Prem Jac is to enage in sex itself? I find myself avoiding it due to the problem....