Premature Ejaculation Success Stories???

**88Keys** · 06-24-2019

I think it's worthy to bump this thread, as well as share my success.

I don't want to write a whole book about how I did it, because it really isn't that complicated. I have "cured" my PreE before, but have "relapsed" due to stress and not sticking to my routine. My routine consists of stretching, reverse kegels, breathing techniques, and edging. That's it. I cured my PreE in less than three months just by doing that.

My PreE had gotten to the point where I could last about 30 seconds with a numbing condom on. Absolutely terrible stamina, but I was tight. You need to keep your pelvic floor relaxed and stress-free. I tend to keep my stress in my pelvic floor, hamstrings, and upper neck. It's imperative for me to stretch these areas out. Hindi squats, RKs, yoga poses, and edging made it possible to relax my pelvic floor. Of course, there is a mental aspect of PreE, where you get performance anxiety, and the snowball effect kicks in. However, once you see your stamina improve, your anxiety starts dissipating, which helps even more. It's important to calm yourself down, and stop acting like PreE owns you. You have control over your body. You just need to remind your body that you're the one in charge.

After under three months of the routine, I cured the PreE. I've gone from lasting 30 seconds, to lasting to about 12-17 minutes on average without a numbing condom.

Consistency is what matters the most. You won't see results right away. It trickles in throughout your training. For instance, in 90 days, I went from lasting 30 seconds to about 15 minutes (900 seconds) average.

If you take (900 - 30) = 870 seconds. This is the amount of seconds I have gained in 90 days or so.

If you divide (seconds of improvement/days trained), which is (870/90), you'd get only 9.6. That means I gained about 10 seconds a day. Of course, that doesn't seem like much at all, but it adds up fast. BE PATIENT!

If you want more information about the stretches, edging techniques, etc., feel free to look at my log, which I'm still updating to this day.
Here's the link: https://www.pegym.com/forums/prematu...squat-log.html

**Pegasus** · 06-24-2019

What a great post 88 a lot of guys should read it .
I don't rep often as the number of posts etc I have mean it hits like a train and gives multiple green boxes . But I did this time .

**facelikebambi** · 08-19-2019

Originally Posted by 88Keys

It's important to calm yourself down, and stop acting like PreE owns you. You have control over your body. You just need to remind your body that you're the one in charge.

Great post and advice, 88Keys. A worthy reminder about patience too.

**Poundmaster69** · 08-22-2019

Good day.

My success story is as follows.

I'm 32 years old and really unfit tbh but not in the worst physical shape and I have been struggling with PE my whole life.
I am happily married with 2 kids and my wife has always been understanding when I came early , like 30s - 1min max.

The last few years with PE have been taking a toll on my self confidence and I could see my wife was not happy anymore with my situation even though she said it didn't bother her.

I was scrolling through the internet trying to find a solution to my problem and I fell into a thread where a guy referred to this website.

At first I didn't even notice the PE section and got intrested in maybe adding a few inches to my donger maybe that would help with my self confidence. I read through this one thread where you do stretch exercises and the guy said something it will help you get comfortable with your penis and if you started getting a hardon you press the penis head to make you go flaccid again and something about pressing your members head to make it go flaccid also made me take like a deep slow breath for some reason and I noticed my heart rate for the first time...and something clicked.

I did the stretching a few days afterwards once a day ( mostly focussing on my breathing and making myself relax ) and that night me and the misses went to town and for some reason everything just made sense...for the first time in my life we had like straight intense and continuous sex for like 15 - 20 min and I was still in control. The only reason we stopped was because my wife started to get so sensitive and her whole body was shaking with pleasure and OMG me nutting almost dislocated my hip that's how intense it was for me ....best sex I have ever had and for the first time I could see my wife was really satisfied and she didn't have to say a word. Now my wife can't get enough and we have been doing it like rabbits for the last 2 weeks

I understand people are different and some things won't work the same for others but trust me PE can be cured. Fck those dodgy ass pills and meditation ect ect.

So gl guys and thanx to that guy that made a thread about those penis exercises you are my hero.

Cheers

**ACPreE** · 08-22-2019

Congratulations on your success

Out of curiosity can you explain what do you think actually cured you?
You said you pinch the head to go flaccid and breathing.
What stretches did you do for how long?

So in summery what helped fix your preE was relaxing?

**Jimmy_quick** · 10-02-2019

Originally Posted by Minuteman

Your reaction to it all is natural and it is a phase that will go away as you progress, what is important is not to allow this state to devour you. In the end motivation must come from within in other for it to be sustainable, and even though now it seems hopeless in the end you will wonder just how wrong that was.

I wanted to write about this in my log but this is as good place as any.

One of the most vicious enemies that a premature ejaculationist faces is not his bad performance but his own mind, his reaction to so-called "failure" and sometimes even an over-dramatization of it all and am not foreign to that at all.

Lets use an example that most of us know:

You just had a bad session (be it edging or sex) and you just feel terrible, your thoughts are just flashing like crazy pointing and wondering just where did this all go wrong and why does my body does that. The frustration is so enormous that you are not even feeling any pleasure from an orgasm, even though it is here it is eclipsed by your own mind. The frustration is excaliting you did not feel it as much in the beginning as you feel it as the time passes.

If you are with a partner that just intensifies and makes your partner anxious. Ask most women, it is not the premature ejaculation occurring that is making women dislike a man's performance as much as is his reaction to it all in fact showing that you are in the control of the situation by not giving it much thought is a trait that is much well accepted. The problem with men is that they think it is all about them (funny me saying that as a man, but it is true). While there are women that will show their disappointment with your performance it is most likely they are not even aware how hurtful that is, or they are simply like that and knowing that might be a good pointer that pursuing a relationship with that partner will not work in the future, because even if she goes over it, another thing will pop out sooner or later.

The hardest thing for you to do right that moment is to stop thinking about it, since the more you pointlessly dwell (and in 90% of the time it is indeed pointless) the more stressed out and tensed out will you be the next time, in a way your mind will start to take a form of perverse pleasure from your failures and it will all twist (notice the over-dramatization) your perception of things to a point where you will be so far from your body and lose what ever little control you had in the first place.

What you need to do at that moment when your session has failed is to asses the situation find ONE thing that you might improve and say to your self "I will improve upon that next time." and that is it. When I say one thing don't think about "Next time i will fix my premature ejaculation", but something along the lines "Next time I will slow down at that point", "Next time I will reverse kegel at that point" and so on.

Once you accomplish the goal you have set just let it go and let it and as it ends, reward yourself with a good feeling. Because the reward system is a better option than the current mind-punish system, the body simply responds better to rewards. It might seem silly but it works on many levels, chain several good sessions with the goals in mind an you will notice the difference. In a way illusion of control is control itself in then same way your thinking that you lack control is making you lack control even more.

The other thing one should practice is making your mind still an focusing on your body if your head is full of negative thoughts, since after you have ejaculated you will feel pleasure but you have to focus on it in the same way one focuses on the breathing while meditating, immerse yourself in the positive.

Once you start lasting longer you will understand that that is not that hard to attain.

The good thing is that you are only 23 when you have this painful realization, some people have it way later, other never and end up blaming other people (mostly women) and the world and end you living a shadow of life just because they ejaculate faster than other.

Remember this, you should not ever allow premature ejaculation, or any other such state (stress anxiety) to control you. You have to accept it and move on in the fashion: "Ok I have premature ejaculation. Fine, let see what I can do about it." Each time you stress about it, each time you are non-productively thinking about it, it is controlling you. Do not try to control it, just go trough it, just stop caring. It might be counter intuitive but it ends up being the right answer. It is like meditation, you don't try to change the subject of your thoughts, just acknowledge them and let them pass. It is hard, but it is the way to do it.

Only after you have honestly and truly accepted that you have premature ejaculation and that you will have to live with it, only then will you start healing and fixing your problem. The "Hi, I'm bob and I am an alcoholic. " isn't a stereotype for nothing, it really helps.

Because you will see, there will be a session where you last as much as you want, it might not come right now, but it will come, a session where you have control much better than before and in that moment all your worries and all your doubts will seem laughable.

While I might not have the necessary experience to reflect this on a intercourse level, when it comes to the games that mind can and does play with you via the fear, frustration, anxiety and general negativeness I have a pretty good understanding and experience, and even now days I sometimes fall to that trap.

Problem is that most people with premature ejaculation think too much and think all the time, for some it is a professional deformation (due to the work), for others it is simply this age where there is so much information and stress, and the problem is that an alarming part of that thinking is downright pointless, we sometimes think so much that we forget about our bodies.

I apologize for turning this into my typical post, but I hope you will find it somewhat motivational and educational. Sometimes I think that the depth of my premature ejaculation problem (that tends to comeback from time to time) is proportional to the average length of my posts.

Just a heads-up about this post. I am suffering from awaful PreE. This post somehow put me back to the reality. Maybe be beneficial for others as well. Will have to start a log soon..

**ACPreE** · 01-01-2020

Happy New Years Everyone!

Figured it was time to finally share my success story as well as the hope to provide further motivation to other men fighting to overcome PreE.

Background
Lets begin with a little background. I'm 30, not athletic but not overweight. I had been hit with a bad case of PreE to the point I was literally 2 pumps done. I had always been a couple mins man. But I'm not surprised now.
I never put any thought into masturbation since i was too young. I would jerk it all the time as fast as i could. When i was 15 id watch porn and jerk it late at night. That fast forward to my early 20s one day I powered through 7 orgasms in maybe an hour.
I didn't have sex for the first time till about 22 and it was fast. My gf and I would go at it often and the first round was short and then we would go again because the second round was always longer. See how the training began?
But that is just one part. The other part was that I literally held a strong kegel the whole time. During sex or masturbation I kegeled the whole time to pump my dick and it felt better. I trained myself to cum as fast as possible while strengthening my kegels and tightening my PF all at the same time.

I was single for about a year when i was 25ish and gymed a lot. Got in shape and when i met my gf of 5 years now, sex was great. My round 1 time was a little longer then normal which supersized us both by longer i mean 3-5mins. I would still have to kegel hold hard to stop which, at the time, i didn't know was a multi orgasm technique. It was kind of my way of making it seem my round 1 was super long. That stamina lasted about 1 and 1/2 years in when my gf got pregnant. Ever since my girl was born my time slowly dropped. I was also working a computer job that required me to sit for most of my day.
My round 1 went from minutes to a minute. It had been under a minute for about a year before I decided I needed to do something about it. My gf started to get unhappy and we started getting into fights over it. It would leave me broken some days because I felt like a worthless POS. What real man cant satisfy his own woman.
Sex became less frequent but my anxiety to perform grew. I started shaking in anticipation just by touching her body. My arousal was out of control.
That was it, I had it. I started googling everything i could find. I learned what kegels were and was told it would help my stamina so I did them... bad start. I was trying to find any fix when i came across this site. Hovered for a month or so before I finally started a log.

What did i do?
I tried a little bit of everything that was posted. Penis head pinch, penis stretches, kegels, RKs, Edging, ballooning stretches etc. I was willing to do about anything to fix it.

Now the real question, what worked? (in order of what i feel personally helped the most)
1. Core/Lower Ab strength (Leg lifts and or the Core and Ab routine youtube link in my thread)
1.5 Fixing APT (Though number 1 should do most of the work, Quad stretches help as well)
2. RKs (Learning to relax and stretch are key to countering the kegel reflex and the tightening of the PF)
3. Stretching (Hindi Squats, Child Pose, etc open up the RK's potential and releases tension on the PF)
4. Tennis Ball Massage (really helped push the stretching up a notch)
5. Mentally Overcoming anxiety with breathing and calming techniques
6. Edging (Retraining tool. Teaches arousal scale and body awareness)

I cant stress enough how important this list is. I went from 2 pump to a few hours ago my gf and I had sex to bring in the new year. I was sober so no funny business. I outlasted her to the point I needed to pump a kegel to finish. I now have the stamina to go for long periods of time without stopping and the control to finish when I want to.
It can be done and there are countless people to thank who have helped along my journey.

If there is any questions, message me or post in my thread.

Thank you to the PEGym Community and good luck to anyone trying to overcome PreE.

**peforever** · 01-02-2020

I have read most of your progress log and really appreciate all the advice that you provide.

I am working more on my core/abs (hanging knee raises, leg lift, plank and just bought an ab roller wheel). I have also started body weight squats (recently haven't he great EQ due to too much PE and just reverse kegel and no kegel at all). I also do glute bridges and go to gym about twice a week (I am not big but in good shape with body fat of about 14%). Is slow do lots of PE stuff such as bundle stretching, jelqing, fowfer, bathmate, clamping and lots of edging).

I am pretty flexible in most parts except my hamstrings (I can’t even touch floor while bending). I recently stretch my hamstring all day at work by putting my leg on top of recycle trash can and switch legs and after switching I do tennis ball massage (few hours five times a week.

I have always has PRE-E however several different medication has helped even at very low doses (ex: tramadol about 25 mg or 37.5 mg for full control). I am also regular cannabis smoker and smoke at nights and it helps a little.

Recently for the past few months, I am able to have sex for a longtime when I am standing by the bed and have my legs in a reverse V form or one leg on the bed. I hold a light Rk the whole time.I think one thing I noticed is I don’t Rotate my pelvis and that might help since lots of people mention if I’m APT position Pf gets tighter easier and very hard to RK.

I usually cum less than 30 seconds in morning (Pf very tight when I wake up and balls are tight and up and small). Past few days, I had sexual twice (wife was on vacation for 3 weeks) and first time was with 37.5 mg tramadol and lasted for an hour easily in all positions including missionary and forced myself to cum by kegeling. Two days later in the morning before work, she initiated sex and without anything (not even cannabis), I was able to last about 10 min (mainly standing and very slow to begin with and holding light RK the whole time).

what part of my Body gets tights you think, since I am able to last while standing (my guess is whatever position is easier to Rk and no pelvic rotation to atp)?

**ACPreE** · 01-02-2020

Next time you edge, put your knees together (if possible) then spread your legs apart. You will feel the sensation/arousal go up and then go down. The tension you hold in your PF really affects things and when I have sex, I know i make it a point to not be in APT position and spread my legs when possible.

**LaCasaDePapel** · 01-04-2020

I have searched but i cant find anything about the hindi , its like hindu but you just stay down right?And how much time you think its good for 1 day?