Good morning. Im desperate for help. Im in my mid 30's, I've been married for 8 years. I've suffered from premature ejaculation my whole adult life.
I'm making this post in the hopes that you guys can help me diagnose the cause of my PreE and the best way to treat it. I've been reading the forum for the last week and I'm a little overwhelmed. I'm not really sure how to proceed.
Here is some info:
When we have sex we usually do it in the cowgirl position (her on top). That's the only position she can orgasm in. Luckily it's the position that I can last the longest in too. On bad days I can barely make it 30 seconds after penetration. On the rare good days I can go maybe 3-4 minutes. In other position like missionary, 30 seconds to a minute tops every time. One reason I rarely try missionary. I only premature ejaculate during intercourse. With oral sex I can last long, hand job (her giving) with lube I can last at least several minutes or longer and that's me trying to get off. When I masturbate to porn I usually don't try to prolong it because I've got some where to go. Or errand to run. Sort of just looking to get that quick fix of endorphins I guess. It takes an effort to orgasm when I'm masturbating too(I use lube) I have to concentrate about it. I guess I do it too much or just doesn't compare to the real thing. I don't know.
I've tried Viagra. Gives me a harder erection every time but doesn't help keep it up after orgasm.
I've tried masturbating an hour or so before sex. It's helped some times, and sometimes doesn't. Sometimes I even have a hard time getting a full erection after masturbating.
We have sex about once a week on average. I initiate. It's been years since she's initiated.
I weigh 270lbs, 6ft tall. Down from 282lbs a week and a half ago. I've been working out and extra motivated to lose weight, that can only benefit our sex life.
My marriage is on the verge of collapse, this has been a big part of it. We started seeing a marriage counselor.
I'm desperate! Please help.
If there's any other info I can provide to help you guys make a better decision let me know. I will be watching this thread closely.
I'm making this post in the hopes that you guys can help me diagnose the cause of my PreE and the best way to treat it. I've been reading the forum for the last week and I'm a little overwhelmed. I'm not really sure how to proceed.
Here is some info:
When we have sex we usually do it in the cowgirl position (her on top). That's the only position she can orgasm in. Luckily it's the position that I can last the longest in too. On bad days I can barely make it 30 seconds after penetration. On the rare good days I can go maybe 3-4 minutes. In other position like missionary, 30 seconds to a minute tops every time. One reason I rarely try missionary. I only premature ejaculate during intercourse. With oral sex I can last long, hand job (her giving) with lube I can last at least several minutes or longer and that's me trying to get off. When I masturbate to porn I usually don't try to prolong it because I've got some where to go. Or errand to run. Sort of just looking to get that quick fix of endorphins I guess. It takes an effort to orgasm when I'm masturbating too(I use lube) I have to concentrate about it. I guess I do it too much or just doesn't compare to the real thing. I don't know.
I've tried Viagra. Gives me a harder erection every time but doesn't help keep it up after orgasm.
I've tried masturbating an hour or so before sex. It's helped some times, and sometimes doesn't. Sometimes I even have a hard time getting a full erection after masturbating.
We have sex about once a week on average. I initiate. It's been years since she's initiated.
I weigh 270lbs, 6ft tall. Down from 282lbs a week and a half ago. I've been working out and extra motivated to lose weight, that can only benefit our sex life.
My marriage is on the verge of collapse, this has been a big part of it. We started seeing a marriage counselor.
I'm desperate! Please help.
If there's any other info I can provide to help you guys make a better decision let me know. I will be watching this thread closely.
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