Hello guys!
I am new to the forums and also new to all the science, tips and tricks behind the PE problem.
But i am not new to the problem of PE itself of course. I read a lot in the forums, on other (german) sites and some books in the last few weeks. I found a lot of good advice and thoughts here and I would appreciate any help I can get to gain control over whatever leads to my problem.
I would like to give you some background about me as good as I can, to eventually get more detailed advice related to my personal problems with PE. Because there are so many different techniques and theories I read perhaps I can get rid of at least some of them in order to not end up spending too much time with worthless exercises or even making things worse and get a decent number of things I should try or work on with more efficiency.
So here is what I would like to share with you and by the way I am sorry for my writing in advance as I am from Germany and no native english speaker:
I am 36 years old, healthy and (lately) in relatively good shape.
I think I am kind of masturbating since I was a child. I guess something like 5 or 6 years old. In this early stage I didn’t do anything with my penis directly but I was consistently climbing up ropes and stuff with the focus of bending and stretching my legs and contracting all kinds of muscles which led to a dry orgasm. Of course I didn’t know about orgasms in those times but it gave me a kind of „good feeling“ in the region of my lower belly together with the feeling of having to pee urgently. I did that whenever possible and followed through until orgasms didn’t stay dry anymore. So I was about 12 or 13 years old.
From there on „real“ masturbation was part of my daily routine. Mostly several times per day and my penis being sored sometimes didn’t hold me back from this. Throughout this time I think in my mind there was nothing good about masturbation except the orgasm itself. That was just the only thing it was about. Getting this orgasm as fast as possible unaware of the action that leads to it. getting it faster was the main aim. So I remember scenes when I noticed, that the third time on one day masturbating takes a little longer than the first, I just gave everything to force orgasm like contracting every muscle form my arms to my belly, gluteus, legs, feet and toes and probably many more a good amount of time ending up with cramped calves.
I just remember a situation talking about masturbation with a good friend of mine. We were about 15 years old and I laughed at him when he told me, it takes him at least 10-15 minutes to jerk off while I was ready in less than 2 minutes without any problem. Wondering who would be the one to lough nowadays…
At around 16 it was the time of my first girlfriends with hand jobs and I really wasn’t aware of what PE meant or even thought about it. A load directly into my shorts caused by just a little kissing and rubbing outside my pants was OK for both of us and I didn’t think about what a good lover might be or female orgasm or whatever. I just didn’t put my mind on that in this early sexual stage.
This of course changed with my first real sex partners. I was suddenly aware of the problem and also sure about it after a few „not even inside…“ accidents.
Nevertheless I didn’t pay that much attention to the problem. At least I didn’t do anything to fight it but occasionally tell myself to last longer this time…
… OK next time …
… OK next time …
… OK next time …
And this still is status quo.
The only times I really last longer is when I have sex several times in a row or when I am drunk, but in both cases also struggling with minor erection at the same time of course, so not really what I am looking for.
Lately I started getting my ass up a little bit in regards of my own health. I started to eat better food, go out a lot and do some fitness stuff and workout at least twice a week. I feel much better libido, much better erections and better feeling throughout my whole body. Perhaps this is the reason why I decided to take a look at the PE problem again. I first read a book about male multi orgasm and I couldn’t believe it. I have never heard of it to be honest. I read about the concept (keels of course) and started off right away. As I wanted to get a feeling for how long it will take to get the first dry orgasm I made an attempt to use the concept while masturbating before I started any kind of training.
But what the hell…!?
It didn’t take me 3-6 months or longer like described in the book. It took me exactly one try to get 2 dry and one normal orgasm in the first attempt. Even so I was proud at first I was aware that this will not really help me out. The 3 orgasms happened within 3 Minutes so if I would have used this during sex I would perhaps gain 30 seconds to 1 minute more than under normal conditions as my arousal seems to not go down after a dry orgasm.
So I looked further at the internet trying to find other techniques and hints and I came to this forums.
Now I know there ARE in fact ways to improve stamina and duration and my only aim (sexually) is to improve on that. It’s not just an ego trip but if asked I would always give the answer, that I like the act of having sex much more than the orgasm itself. This is my motivation. Being able to pound instead of moving cautiously and anxious during sex to get my girlfriend to orgasm even if it is less satisfying for me. that’s the way we have sex at the moment. We have good technique to master that as she likes more having our abdomens pressed together while performing circles and get her orgasm really quick. But what can I say? Sometimes you just want to be more filthy and not limited to one technique. Whenever it comes to real in and out action I end up in a mess.
Now that I read a little and thought about myself and reasons for my PE and possible help and I do get deeper into the subject I feel it will be a long way but I also think it’s not to late and I am not willed to just accept but fight against it.
In order to get some help and hints I am going to list everything I noticed since my new awareness of my PE and pelvic floor:
So far my story.
By now I just did easy K/RK routines every other day for about a week or so because I think it might not be harmful. Before I start off really fighting against my PE I would like to know what others say about my problem and perhaps it is similar to someones experience and I can get some hints to find out on what I should primarily focus.
I am new to the forums and also new to all the science, tips and tricks behind the PE problem.
But i am not new to the problem of PE itself of course. I read a lot in the forums, on other (german) sites and some books in the last few weeks. I found a lot of good advice and thoughts here and I would appreciate any help I can get to gain control over whatever leads to my problem.
I would like to give you some background about me as good as I can, to eventually get more detailed advice related to my personal problems with PE. Because there are so many different techniques and theories I read perhaps I can get rid of at least some of them in order to not end up spending too much time with worthless exercises or even making things worse and get a decent number of things I should try or work on with more efficiency.
So here is what I would like to share with you and by the way I am sorry for my writing in advance as I am from Germany and no native english speaker:
I am 36 years old, healthy and (lately) in relatively good shape.
I think I am kind of masturbating since I was a child. I guess something like 5 or 6 years old. In this early stage I didn’t do anything with my penis directly but I was consistently climbing up ropes and stuff with the focus of bending and stretching my legs and contracting all kinds of muscles which led to a dry orgasm. Of course I didn’t know about orgasms in those times but it gave me a kind of „good feeling“ in the region of my lower belly together with the feeling of having to pee urgently. I did that whenever possible and followed through until orgasms didn’t stay dry anymore. So I was about 12 or 13 years old.
From there on „real“ masturbation was part of my daily routine. Mostly several times per day and my penis being sored sometimes didn’t hold me back from this. Throughout this time I think in my mind there was nothing good about masturbation except the orgasm itself. That was just the only thing it was about. Getting this orgasm as fast as possible unaware of the action that leads to it. getting it faster was the main aim. So I remember scenes when I noticed, that the third time on one day masturbating takes a little longer than the first, I just gave everything to force orgasm like contracting every muscle form my arms to my belly, gluteus, legs, feet and toes and probably many more a good amount of time ending up with cramped calves.
I just remember a situation talking about masturbation with a good friend of mine. We were about 15 years old and I laughed at him when he told me, it takes him at least 10-15 minutes to jerk off while I was ready in less than 2 minutes without any problem. Wondering who would be the one to lough nowadays…
At around 16 it was the time of my first girlfriends with hand jobs and I really wasn’t aware of what PE meant or even thought about it. A load directly into my shorts caused by just a little kissing and rubbing outside my pants was OK for both of us and I didn’t think about what a good lover might be or female orgasm or whatever. I just didn’t put my mind on that in this early sexual stage.
This of course changed with my first real sex partners. I was suddenly aware of the problem and also sure about it after a few „not even inside…“ accidents.
Nevertheless I didn’t pay that much attention to the problem. At least I didn’t do anything to fight it but occasionally tell myself to last longer this time…
… OK next time …
… OK next time …
… OK next time …
And this still is status quo.
The only times I really last longer is when I have sex several times in a row or when I am drunk, but in both cases also struggling with minor erection at the same time of course, so not really what I am looking for.
Lately I started getting my ass up a little bit in regards of my own health. I started to eat better food, go out a lot and do some fitness stuff and workout at least twice a week. I feel much better libido, much better erections and better feeling throughout my whole body. Perhaps this is the reason why I decided to take a look at the PE problem again. I first read a book about male multi orgasm and I couldn’t believe it. I have never heard of it to be honest. I read about the concept (keels of course) and started off right away. As I wanted to get a feeling for how long it will take to get the first dry orgasm I made an attempt to use the concept while masturbating before I started any kind of training.
But what the hell…!?
It didn’t take me 3-6 months or longer like described in the book. It took me exactly one try to get 2 dry and one normal orgasm in the first attempt. Even so I was proud at first I was aware that this will not really help me out. The 3 orgasms happened within 3 Minutes so if I would have used this during sex I would perhaps gain 30 seconds to 1 minute more than under normal conditions as my arousal seems to not go down after a dry orgasm.
So I looked further at the internet trying to find other techniques and hints and I came to this forums.
Now I know there ARE in fact ways to improve stamina and duration and my only aim (sexually) is to improve on that. It’s not just an ego trip but if asked I would always give the answer, that I like the act of having sex much more than the orgasm itself. This is my motivation. Being able to pound instead of moving cautiously and anxious during sex to get my girlfriend to orgasm even if it is less satisfying for me. that’s the way we have sex at the moment. We have good technique to master that as she likes more having our abdomens pressed together while performing circles and get her orgasm really quick. But what can I say? Sometimes you just want to be more filthy and not limited to one technique. Whenever it comes to real in and out action I end up in a mess.
Now that I read a little and thought about myself and reasons for my PE and possible help and I do get deeper into the subject I feel it will be a long way but I also think it’s not to late and I am not willed to just accept but fight against it.
In order to get some help and hints I am going to list everything I noticed since my new awareness of my PE and pelvic floor:
- I perform 1-3 kegels after urinating every time to get the last drops out. I am so used to this that I would say they feel like involuntary as I have a real bad feeling if I don’t do them. I am trying to keep away from it the last days and it is really hard.
- By thinking about kegels and getting to know them and the feeling for K/RK I try to focus my attention on what really happens down there. By that I really think that I have some kind of tension in the front part just below the balls nearly all day long as the feeling of trying to relax this part is exhausting to me.
- I do IKs in hundreds of situations. When I focused on that I realized this happens when moving back in a chair, standing up, while walking, change my sleeping position in bed, while driving and so on.
- A lot of IKs while trying to get an erection for masturbating like pumping the blood into my penis. IKs if erected 30% or more and the frenelum is touched in any way by my girlfriend or me. This makes the penis jump around like hell raising arousal with every jump performed. Same thing with every stroke on the erected penis. Every stroke equals one contraction of the pc.
- The feeling of the urge to ejaculate grows directly with my state of erection. That means if I am 100 % erected there is nearly no need to do much more with the penis in order to ejaculate. Few strokes would be enough if I don’t focus very hard on it.
- Ejaculation would be even possible with anything just over about a 50 % erection as the level of arousal is much higher than the grade of my erection.
So far my story.
By now I just did easy K/RK routines every other day for about a week or so because I think it might not be harmful. Before I start off really fighting against my PE I would like to know what others say about my problem and perhaps it is similar to someones experience and I can get some hints to find out on what I should primarily focus.
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