Some questions for the experts and cured people

[hoochiNn]

Hello guys! How was your summer?

I can't complain about mine! I met a comprensive girl who understands my situation and she wants to help. So I could start putting things into practice and after several meetings, I have a few questions that would be so nice to be answered for experts and cured people:


1) Anxiety is one of my biggest problems. I try to stay calm but sometimes it's impossible for me. Wich techniques do you use to reduce anxiety before and during sex?


2) I feel a big difference in my performance when I drink alcohol (large quantities). Last Saturday, we left the party and got home at dawn. After 5-10 minutes where I was struggling to maintain control (I nearly cummed in that first minutes) I could fuck her really hard for more than 30 minutes which felt pleasure but I was in completly control, confident and knewing inside my mind that I wasn't going to cum that night. However yesterday, after a week without seeing each other (I've been away on a trip) I lasted almost three minutes (it's true that she masturbated me quickly before entering and we went direct to the fast and hard, and I wasn't in control of my arousal at all).
It is normal this big difference? Are this sensitivity problems? Anxiety? or it may be about something else?


3) Lately is costing me avoid the "state of trance" in which you enter when the feeling and the arousal increases. Wich is the propely acctitude to have when having sex?
I'm actually thinking about focusing on pleasure her, like if I were doing sport, just stay calm and relaxed and keep pounding.
Is this the way to go? Don't think or focus on the pleasure? Hope you can give me a great view on this...

Thank you so much!!!!

[Pegasus]

Anxiety seems to be your main issue which is not really my area.
The 3 minute thing you describe is fairly typical sex .

Hmm the sport mind point of focus varies depending on the sport . A distance runner might be internal , a boxer might be external and narrow on his 1 opponent, a QB is external but takes in the field. So you bring up point of focus for sex and this can vary too . The ideal for me is when energy flows between you back and forth.

[TPW]

Hiya hoochiNn,

Perhaps the information found on these threads would be helpful to you.

https://www.pegym.com/forums/prematu...ng-advice.html

https://www.pegym.com/forums/relatio...l-anxiety.html

https://www.pegym.com/forums/erectil...e-anxiety.html

https://www.pegym.com/forums/erectil...tml#post894598


Regarding ejaculating quickly after being away from your gal for a week; this is not unusual so I wouldn't be too concerned.