Another PE victim - my story

[Neuromancer]

Hi,

I found this forum two weeks ago and haven't stopped reading it since then, how come I didn't found it earlier. I hope I can contribute to it as well so that we all live better life. Anyway that's my story and I'll really appreciate your thoughts. It's a huge relief to share this burden with someone who has been experiencing the same, without the need to explain how and why.

I'm 31y and I believe I've had PE for life, haven't had many partners and I suffer of that because sex was a tabu in my family - I lived with wrong interpretation/perception for sex for long time, porn did its damage as well.

In the beginning of my relationship with my wife the things were ok, no anxiety or what's so ever, had sex for some 20/30/40 mins. Maybe at some point I was over excited and I got to the end really quickly - then the bad comments from her came and this became a DEADLY spiral ever since. Things were getting worse and worse since then. My observations:
1) I can't finish easy when she gives me oral love
2) Same if she is on top, again it's really had to get to the end
3) The moment she is on her back and I'm on top is crucial. I can go like that for 1-2 mins and the moment I start doing faster thrusts or seeing that's she is getting really aroused the urge comes and I can't control it.
4) I start edging just few days before I found the site and I can say that I can go on for some 15-20 minutes.
5) On one occasion I was getting to PORN and it looks like what it did was kegel and for the first time in my life I experienced orgasm without actually ejaculating.

Being desperate in the past (few years back) I went to a sexologist who prescribed me Seroxat. I took them for a month and wow it was a whole new world, I even can't remember getting ANY of the side effects. Unfortunately the moment I stopped them I got the same problem again. For my surprise there were few times without any pills when I didn't feel the urge to come at all, perfectly normal sex - one occasion was alcohol but others I still can't say.

I don't have to say how bad it is, on many occasions I was avoiding sex because I knew what's going to happen. I don't have to explain how you feel each and every time.

Recently I decided to continue my research and experimented with:
1) Durex Performa/Mutural Climax - they might work for someone without PE, it doesn't make any difference for me.
2) Local anesthetic - EMLA Cream 5% which contains Lidocaine 25mg and Prilocaine 25mg - it does work for what's intended to be used. Using just a bean size on the frenulum it decrease the sensation but I can't still hold off. Again maybe there is a slight difference but not much. Maybe it will make a difference if your penis is really sensitive.
3) Given the above two I thought that my problem wasn't that my penis is sensitive but it has to do something with my mind. Decided to buy Dapoxetine from India - OMG don't you ever do that. I took one pill and I felt like a lab rat. Maybe there was Dapoxetine but the fact that I'm taking something which hasn't been tested scared me a lot - I don't have to give you the reasons behind that - I was desperate.
4) I finally was able to order Priligy (60mg). The first two times I took the pill was one hour before sex which turns it wasn't enough. I decided to take the last one two hours before sex and I have to say I had the best sex ever. The moment you start to feel nausea you know that the pill works. This wasn't very convenient as you always have to plan it but it was a huge relief. The side effects of 60mb are awful - it was hard to fall asleep, increased body temperature and especially nausea.
5) I got interested what SSRIs does and then I bough the book of Dr. Murry - "5-HTP: The Natural Way to Overcome Depression, Obesity & Insomnia" and I was impressed. Even the books doesn't say anything for PE, it was so obvious, the lack of serotonin, how the brain works a lot more. I decided that my serotonin levels must be low, because SSRIs works really well - that must be it. I bought 5HTP tables and I was taking them for 2-3 weeks, initially 100mg daily and then 200mg daily for 10 days - one in the morning and one before bed. I also bought Maca and was taking one of these with the evening meal. I can't say I felt any difference but maybe I started to have more dreams.
6) Meanwhile I started workout - three times a week weight lifting and weight gaining diet, actually bulking because I'm skinny guy, I'm taking whey protein twice a day. Started sport once a week as well.
7) I completely dropped out the caffeine and any sweets/sugars, maybe because of the morning shakes I drink but I don't feel the urge to drink coffee anymore, neither carving for any sweets.

I know there are hundred of pills and I'm against that. I wish to believe that my problems are psychological, although I don't know how to fix them.

And now the scary part - while I was taking the 5HTP one evening I took another Priligy (30mg) - everything was perfect and in the middle of the act I suddenly lost my erection and couldn't regain it, without a reason. It was like someone pressed a button and switch it off. Since then (a month maybe) I don't get random erections at all, neither night or morning ones. I feel difficulty getting aroused, EQ loss and maintaining erection, no pains or what so ever. I stopped 5HTP and Maca immediately. Now I'm very confused on what the hell has happened. I can remember I had similar periods before - lack of libido and maybe it's just temporarily OR (worse) 5HTP and Priligy messed up my brain. I already read some horror stories but again, I didn't abuse them and I was taking 5HTP for 2-3 weeks only and had Priligy (30mg) 2-3 times in the meanwhile. It's even hard to sustain erection since then and I NEVER had this problem before, it's like my sensitivity is gone or something similar. I tried watching porn or get aroused before edging but it's really hard it's like my brain doesn't accept it. Has anyone experienced something like that or do you have any idea. I got used to PE but that really scares me.

I'm got my Kryptopyrroles tested today and I'm waiting for the results. I read one thread where the guy got rid of his PE with B6/Zinc/5HTP supplements. I also ordered STU which just arrived and I'm really looking forward to gain more experience. I actually have just tried it but because of the above it's hard to sustain a good erection. I'm also thinking whether it's a good idea to test my hormones ? I read another story about guy having his neurotransmitters really low and particularly Norepinephrine being too high. I had blood tests few months ago and everything was in the referenced values.

I'll really appreciate your thoughts and thanks for reading.

Regards.

p.s. English is not my mother language so please excuse any mistakes, also I'm sorry for the long post.

[longerlastingnoob]

Hello neuromancer, you can overcome this. i just want to clarify? You said you had pe or think you've had it all your life. But you also said at the start of the relationship with your wife you could go 20/30/40 mins. That would mean you got it after that. Or is that a mistake?

[bigborer]

Hello and welcome!

Maybe at some point I was over excited and I got to the end really quickly - then the bad comments from her came and this became a DEADLY spiral ever since

From what you say, this seems to be the root of the problem.

About 5htp won't say much since I'm not well documented, but as discussed in the link below and other threads on this forum it, it does seem to yield mixed results

https://www.pegym.com/forums/prematu...tml#post932708

[Neuromancer]

Hi,

Thank you both for reading this long post.

longerlastingnoob: Good spot. My first experiences were the same but I guess that was because I had sex for first time, if I may say sex. Then I had sex with another girl couple of times and things were ok, I haven't had any anxiety. Once I ejaculate we take a break and start again. Sometimes I think I got it acquired rather than it was something I had for life. It's been so many years now and that's why it makes me think I got it for life. I always thought I "developed" it rather it was always there. With the previous girl and my future wife (at that time) I didn't care too much, believe it or not but once I started to love her and care then things got worse.

bigborer: Indeed, she has changed since then but the damage has been done. Yes, that was the thread I was inspired from and got the same test today, I'll update with the results once I've got them. I do hope they return positive, at least I know it could be the reason for that, although I don't get much of the effect of that condition which are listed there.

Regards

[longerlastingnoob]

Will you be testing them solo or with your partner?

[Neuromancer]

I took Kryptopyrroles urine test if that's what you mean and I'm testing only myself ?

[longerlastingnoob]

No sorry completely misread. Do you get involuntary kegels early on while having sex/masturbating?

[Neuromancer]

I'm not exactly sure what they are but yes definitely, while having sex and not while masturbating or at least not so early and so involuntary. Sometimes while having sex I feel that I will ejaculate and I pull over then few seconds later without doing anything else I start ejaculating.

[longerlastingnoob]

Start doing a reverse kegel routine, best way to counter involuntary kegels is this way, start edging if you haven't already.

[Neuromancer]

Yes, I've started edging before I find the forum. I'm still trying to understand how to do the RK.

I'm getting more worried now on my erection, it's been a month now and I still feel the same. Fortunately it's fine when I'm having sex with my wife but still that never happened to me before and kind of scares me.

Still waiting on my Kryptopyrroles results.