Advice please - I've been trying for a long time with no improvement

[gettingb Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close gettingb]

Hello all

After at least 2 years on here working to cure, I still cum within seconds. I'm in a long term loving relationship but it does make things very difficult at times.

I've made big progress with edging, pelvic floor balance, and eliminating IKs, but actual sex I still bolt very quickly. I don't know how long exactly put the PONR comes well within 30 seconds.

I have been edging to porn, I've decided to completely quit looking at porn as from today.

Could it be my pelvic floor still isn't balanced? I'm still getting way too over aroused? I'm just not sure where to go from here. I think I still have mental and physical issues. I feel like I know everything there is to know about curing this and I think I've put it into practice, but I'm not getting results. I guess I'm looking for inspiration. I never believe I will last. I never have without drink or weed. I can keep doing what i'm doing, so essentially I can masturbate for longer, but it's not helping with real sex? I read that people can thrust for 1-2 minutes and they think they have pre-e? Well, what if I can only manage 4 thrusts? Seems like a big difference.

[longerlastingnoob Senior Member Member of the Month Jan 2015 Find all posts View Profile Close longerlastingnoob]

What have you been doing to fix it?

[Rybina Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Rybina]

Have you tried putting your unit insider her, but staying perfectly still?

You may be able to have sex for 15 seconds, then stay perfectly still for 30 seconds or however long it takes for the desire to ejaculate goes away, then continue, stopping every time you get close, rinse and repeat. You may just need more time inside your woman for it to become a normal feeling and not one of exceptional excitement.

[TPW Senior Member Member of the Month Oct 2013 Find all posts View Profile Close TPW]

Hey bettingb,

Have you had an opportunity to take a look at the information found on these threads?

https://www.pegym.com/forums/prematu...ng-advice.html

https://www.pegym.com/forums/relatio...l-anxiety.html

https://www.pegym.com/forums/erectil...e-anxiety.html

https://www.pegym.com/forums/erectil...tml#post894598

[gettingb Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close gettingb]

What have you been doing to fix it?

rev kegels, edging, yoga, meditation, supplements...pretty much everything I have read on this forum!

[gettingb Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close gettingb]

Have you tried putting your unit insider her, but staying perfectly still?

You may be able to have sex for 15 seconds, then stay perfectly still for 30 seconds or however long it takes for the desire to ejaculate goes away, then continue, stopping every time you get close, rinse and repeat. You may just need more time inside your woman for it to become a normal feeling and not one of exceptional excitement.

I'll see if I can give this a try next time, my woman normally wants me to thrust.

[gettingb Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close gettingb]

Hey bettingb,

Have you had an opportunity to take a look at the information found on these threads?

https://www.pegym.com/forums/prematu...ng-advice.html

https://www.pegym.com/forums/relatio...l-anxiety.html

https://www.pegym.com/forums/erectil...e-anxiety.html

https://www.pegym.com/forums/erectil...tml#post894598

I don't think I've looked through those actually, I'll have read thanks.

[Dangler Senior Administrator☼ Wizard ☼ White Tiger Award 2015 Find all posts View Profile Close Dangler]

How do things go/not go if you wear a condom ?

[gettingb Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close gettingb]

Yes to be honest I have had some really bad sexual anxiety issues in the past, and they really have never gone away 100%. Also I'm not sure if I have physical issues as well as I can not last with fleshlight either. I can't think anxiety would affect me there? But maybe it would?

[gettingb Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close gettingb]

How do things go/not go if you wear a condom ?

Generally it doesn't make any difference at all

[longerlastingnoob Senior Member Member of the Month Jan 2015 Find all posts View Profile Close longerlastingnoob]

If its more or less the same solo as with a partner then start with the physical. If you get early ik's and feel pelvic floor is tight start doing rk's only. Any regular kegel exercises will actually make it worse. Are you edging by doing stop/ start?

[Pegasus AdministratorPE Gym EditorPEGym Hero ☺ Admin of the Month Mar 2015 Find all posts View Profile Close Pegasus]

Where is your pre e progress thread?

[gettingb Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close gettingb]

If its more or less the same solo as with a partner then start with the physical. If you get early ik's and feel pelvic floor is tight start doing rk's only. Any regular kegel exercises will actually make it worse. Are you edging by doing stop/ start?

Only doing rks. I can edge for a long time on my own using hands. But I reach PONR very quickly with fleshlight, on my own. So I can handle the feeling of hands easily but not the feeling of a vagina.

[gettingb Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close gettingb]

Where is your pre e progress thread?

Yeah I never made one when I started all this. I realise now it would have been helpful.
To be honest I'm tired of spending all this time wanking with no discernible benefits but I really want my fiance and I to have a healthy sex life.

[longerlastingnoob Senior Member Member of the Month Jan 2015 Find all posts View Profile Close longerlastingnoob]

Only doing rks. I can edge for a long time on my own using hands. But I reach PONR very quickly with fleshlight, on my own. So I can handle the feeling of hands easily but not the feeling of a vagina.

Also do stretches, penis stretches and yoga stretches, do deep squats aswel they have a good effect when included in your routine. Try tightening your grip, using lube, stimulate the more sensitive parts of your penis and increase overall intensity of strokes, rubbing etc. And is it stop/ start method of edging? You didn't say.