Everyone's pre e input

[longerlastingnoob Senior Member Member of the Month Jan 2015 Find all posts View Profile Close longerlastingnoob]

A lot of people are struggling with seeing results, struggling to find a routine or starting point, getting results but having no joy in the bedroom or just getting nowhere with anything. I think anyone whose commited would still be better off with a log, progress or tracking, even if it's not posted on the forum. It's sometimes hard to find answers and even though the response from members on the forum is great, answers and replies can sometimes be lost in translation, or posted on unrelated threads where the op never gets a clear or finished reply.
So i thought this would be a good place to have everyone's input, either on how their going to start, how there progressing, struggling, their situation, ideas, anything essentially. From a mix of various peoples journeys, regimes, routines and general knowledge answers might
become more clear, or more easily obtainable. If everyone is contritubiting then surely as time passes a better understanding of all the individual issues will flourish.

[Gregoire Member Find all posts View Profile Close Gregoire]

My facts:
30 yrs old
Always premature ejaculator mainly down to prone masturbatuon+anxiety+lack of self esteem
My aim is to be more confident in bed and not always finishing early,
Lieing in the bed disappointed after,feeling shit,gf reasurring you it's ok but all I feel like is not a confident man that can satisfy my girl.

Physical
Realisation that I have a unbalanced pelvic floor,constant involuntary kegels.
Stop breathing during sex
When thrusting..contstant kegel hold

Mind
When she starts enjoying it I cum immediately???would like some feedback on this?

Implementation
Started doing rk every day,
150 short ones,40 long holds
Constant awareness to keep pelvic floor relaxed,and eliminate ik after going to toilet etc
Relaxing..type of meditation once a dayto relax
Gym twice a week
50 squats a day
Healthy eating
Taking multivitamin and rh

[Gregoire Member Find all posts View Profile Close Gregoire]

[QUOTE=Gregoire;940650]My facts:
30 yrs old
Always premature ejaculator mainly down to prone masturbatuon+anxiety+lack of self esteem
My aim is to be more confident in bed and not always finishing early,
Lieing in the bed disappointed after,feeling shit,gf reasurring you it's ok but all I feel like is not a confident man that can satisfy my girl.

Physical
Realisation that I have a unbalanced pelvic floor,constant involuntary kegels.
Stop breathing during sex
When thrusting..contstant kegel hold

Mind
When she starts enjoying it I cum immediately???would like some feedback on this?

Implementation
Started doing rk every day,
150 short ones,40 long holds at the mo,started to feel isolation in the last few days
Need to start thrusting and holding a rk for practice as ik always kicks in
Constant awareness to keep pelvic floor relaxed,and eliminate ik after going to toilet etc
Relaxing..type of meditation once a dayto relax
Gym twice a week
50 squats a day
Healthy eating
Taking multivitamin and rhodiola to reduce anxiety
Going to try my best to start edging and follow the arousal guide although my edging will mostly be in the form of sex

Going to post here weekly with the exercises I'm doing and my improvements(if any)for the next three months

Thanks

[longerlastingnoob Senior Member Member of the Month Jan 2015 Find all posts View Profile Close longerlastingnoob]

When she starts enjoying you also start enjoying more which leads you to cum. This a good thing though, you enjoying her enjoyment and pleasure, it just needs to be turned from her enjyment- you cumming to her enjoyment- more pleasure for the duration for you also.

[not2big Senior Super ModeratorPEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close not2big]

Just posted this in the ED Forum:

https://www.pegym.com/forums/erectil...reatments.html

[CUSP82 Administrator Admin of the Month Dec 2014PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close CUSP82]

Have you guys noticed a common denominator in all the pre-e posts?

[Gregoire Member Find all posts View Profile Close Gregoire]

Yes..several...what you think

[CUSP82 Administrator Admin of the Month Dec 2014PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close CUSP82]

Yes..several...what you think

I asked you guys first!

[longerlastingnoob Senior Member Member of the Month Jan 2015 Find all posts View Profile Close longerlastingnoob]

There are a lot of common things coming up, but still a lot of people aren't seeing results with that, there are also uncommon things that have come up like "oversensitive shaft and no or little feeling in the head". I think thats uncommon anyway but correct me if i'm wrong.

[longerlastingnoob Senior Member Member of the Month Jan 2015 Find all posts View Profile Close longerlastingnoob]

Just posted this in the ED Forum:

https://www.pegym.com/forums/erectil...reatments.html

Thanks for the link, i think this treatment would be for the older pre e sufferers or ones with more severe cases that haven't seen results elsewhere.

[gettingb Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close gettingb]

I asked you guys first!

If you've got something to add that might help please do so

[CUSP82 Administrator Admin of the Month Dec 2014PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close CUSP82]

If you've got something to add that might help please do so

Oh I got something to add but I want to see first what you guys come up with and since I don't type well I will need more time.

[longerlastingnoob Senior Member Member of the Month Jan 2015 Find all posts View Profile Close longerlastingnoob]

These are a few things that outside of a routine, stretching, edging may help you prolong sex.
1.slightly elevate the ass so if your in a lying position. I think taking pressure off the pelvic floor gives more control. But not actually straining yourself to hold it up, just slghtly elevating it while still relaxed.
2. push down, not too hard, on the area right above the base of the penis.
3. Pulling the balls left or right or just straight down.
4. When getting oral whatever position your in, thrust with her strokes and it takes some of the vigor or pace out of it.
5. This one is very good. I find stretching the pelvic floor has a huge helping hand and its actually easy to do in most positions. So for example if lying on your back bring your feet as close to your ass as possible to feel a stretch. If behind her doggy, go on your knees and spread them out as far as you can to feel stretch.
6. The easiest probably most used. Switch up positions. Especially if you last longer and have more control in certain positions like me ( standing up).

[longerlastingnoob Senior Member Member of the Month Jan 2015 Find all posts View Profile Close longerlastingnoob]

Read on another thread that penis stretches are good for reducing sensitivity of the head. Can't back this up but as it's the first i've heard, and even though i do penis stretches i've never had issues with oversensitivity. Also possibly if this does work it could reduce sensitivity of shaft, but again i wouldn't be the best test subject.

[CUSP82 Administrator Admin of the Month Dec 2014PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close CUSP82]

Okay my two cents. What exactly is pre-e? Well according to the definition it is ejaculating before the partner is satisfied. So a guy will cum in a minute or two. I say so what! You see when I was younger that happened to me quite often. I never gave it much thought. Okay I came but it didn't mean the night was over. To me it meant I had to do something else to get her off. Okay didn't mind that at all. Why did I cum so fast? Simple; I was younger and very horny! It just didn't bother me.

As I got older,since I really put no pressure on myself to "perform" I just started lasting longer and longer. Funny but whenever I screw I never think about cumming until that very minute. I just think how great it is to fuck ( can I say that here?) and I gt a beautiful woman to do it to.

I have been reading these post for years and I hear things like;frustrated, struggle, disappointment, no confidence, avoid sex because of it, suffer ( that one is used a lot) and on and on and I wonder how any one or any condition could ever possibly be fixed when there is so much stress and anxiety associated with it. Yes I know there is a physical side to it but to me the mental side just so out weighs the physical.
Being older than most of you guys there are times, but thankfully few, when my best friend doesn't want to screw. Oh I do but he doesn't. Now if that happens to most guys on here they will be here the next morning saying they have ed. I never think that at all. Hey I had an off night. Women have off nights as well.

I think many of us would be much better off if we stopped putting pressure on ourselves, stop thinking they are going to leave us if we don't perform,and just go and have fun. No it won't work for all of us and it may take time but maybe if we stop stressing out over it and just enjoy it, well just maybe we'll get better at it.