HoochiNn's PE solution log

[hoochiNn]

Introduction

After several forum users recommended me to start a log, I've finally decided to start it. I don’t want to fill out a long paragraph about what I've done regarding my premature ejaculation cure because although I have proven certain things, it's never been steadily. The most consistent thing I've done have been stretching my pelvic floor and the truth is that I have achieved some results.

Here you can find one of my more recent threads (September) that slightly explains how was my situation: https://www.pegym.com/forums/prematu...ed-people.html

Current situation

As to what it was in September, the situation has changed a bit. I’m not anymore “in a serious form” with that girl. We meet us occasionally and I suppose that if things goes well, we will still have some sex from time to time (let’s once a week or every two weeks).

Due to some personal problems and not having sex as frequently as before, my confidence has gone down a bit. Before this personal problems and “losing her” as my girlfriend (now we are “fuck-friends” or something like that) I had sessions with her of which I was very pleased of my performance (while drunk and also while not drunk, both without condom). Maybe the no-alcohol days could have been great because I as always we fucked without condom, maybe I lost some of my sensitivity, but also had many days when it was pretty disastrous.

Now after breaking the relationship, I have had sex with her 2 or 3 times using retardant condoms and I’m not happy at all how they went. First one was completely a disaster, being ultra-aroused and ending in 2-3 min. The second one wasn’t that bad, could hold for 10-15 min going fast and hard (can’t remember but I was happy since she came twice). The third one, was slightly better than the first but again just 3-4 min.

Because of this and some other personal problems (self-esteem and confidence) I nearly lost pretty every little confidence I had before.

Current signs/symptoms

• PF tension and big number of spams/IK thru the day. I'm realizing that sometimes, in quotidian movements such as rising from a chair or bend over to pick something up, I get a little spasm in my PF. Dunno if this is due to being too much focused on it.
• Anxiety to perform, general anxiety and over-thinking.
• Slightly depressed. (nothing really hard but I'm not as happy I meant to)
• Low confidence on sex and in general (general one has been improving this last weeks).
• Spams at start and stronger IKs near PONR when masturbating (yeah, I must be honest with myself, I’m not rushing ejaculation but I’m not edging).

Starting routine

Physical activity

• At the moment I’m doing high intensity weight training on Monday, Wednesday and Friday. I am considering whether to increase to 4 days of weight training or leave the weight training as at the moment and introduce 20’ of low intensity cardio (60-70%) on Tuesday and Thursday (I’m trying to gain some weight that’s why I’m planning LI cardio)

PE Related

• RK only routine: 30 reps. 3-5 sec. holds twice per day every other day.
• Deep squats: I’m doing “feet on the wall and back on the ground” form, and barefoot normal deep squats. I’m doing 3 reps of both holding them for 1’ more or less.
• Edging: Death grip (as it worked well for me). Starting with 20 min mark. I’m planning to edge on the rest days of the RK routine, so every other day. I don’t know if this is a good idea or not if I’m getting spasms and have tension.
• Penis stretching: Doing some every night.

Here I'm gonna save my progress and my doubts and reflections that I hope they are gonna help me on the way to go.

Any suggestions or changes or whatever you want to say would be so welcome

Regards!!

[longerlastingnoob]

1 suggestion for your edging, if your using death grip, don't feel you have to for the entire time or even most of it. You can use death grip up until it's getting too much then reduce the grip, keep going and again when too much reduce, until your basically ballooning or barely doing anything and you've reached in or around your mark, or passed it.

[hoochiNn]

1 suggestion for your edging, if your using death grip, don't feel you have to for the entire time or even most of it. You can use death grip up until it's getting too much then reduce the grip, keep going and again when too much reduce, until your basically ballooning or barely doing anything and you've reached in or around your mark, or passed it.

Gonna keep it in mind.

Yesterday night my first edging session of the routine. Not bad at all imo, edged for 27-30 minutes only hitting PONR and cumming at the end. I progressively increased tightness of my grip to the point that I was playing really near PONR for 15-20 min with a tight grip and 5-10 last minutes with a really tight one.
I was skipping to rub directly the glans but I stimulated it using my skin.

One thing that I have been realizing this days is that I'm not happy with myself, not only on this I mean on other things that form my life. I'm not happy with friends that I meant to, some things not fill me as they did before. Maybe it's this slightly depressive state that I'm in to.
Another thing to improve is my will power on this. I have very sudden mood changes, ringing me down is very easy. I think I should look to improve on this.

[longerlastingnoob]

Gonna keep it in mind.

Yesterday night my first edging session of the routine. Not bad at all imo, edged for 27-30 minutes only hitting PONR and cumming at the end. I progressively increased tightness of my grip to the point that I was playing really near PONR for 15-20 min with a tight grip and 5-10 last minutes with a really tight one.
I was skipping to rub directly the glans but I stimulated it using my skin.

One thing that I have been realizing this days is that I'm not happy with myself, not only on this I mean on other things that form my life. I'm not happy with friends that I meant to, some things not fill me as they did before. Maybe it's this slightly depressive state that I'm in to.
Another thing to improve is my will power on this. I have very sudden mood changes, ringing me down is very easy. I think I should look to improve on this.

I'm sorry to hear that genuinely.
What helped me. Other than pre e, told myself I was going to get in shape, start eating right, go out more and actually emerse myself in what I was doing instead of being reserved/ worried, stopped thinking about what other people thought and thought of myself better, may sound silly but telling myself I'm the man, I've achieved a lot and can achieve anything I want.
Listening to music for about 2 or 3 hours every other day or whenever I could, not doing anything else just lying down or sitting, I'd listen to anything, best is calming classical music, hanz zimmer, Harry Gregson Williams. Don't meditate so this would be my Form of.
Do whatever you can, don't let something bring you down theres enough of those times in life, and I know it's a clique but it could always be worse.
Good luck and happy fapping motherfapper.

[hoochiNn]

Maybe related to your answer I figured something this last days.
Even when I was still with my ex, had days where she asked me if something was wrong because I looked very quiet and "misplaced". Didn't told her, but it was because I was worring about PE and focusing on my body most part of the day checking to not kegel at all, to check if I was holding my breath...

Now this happens to me even more, it's like I'm not happy with myself because I am not the joker guy, sociable, talkative I know I really am when I 'm fine. And I think everything is related that I am aware 24/7 to see if my pelvic floor is tense, to check if I'm holding my breath, even when I talk I'm focusing on my pelvic floor. It's like I'm in another place.

The problem is that I dont know if this is the way to go to overcome PE, at least at the starting stage. The thruth is that is being a suffering.

[longerlastingnoob]

What your doing to beat pre e isn't what's making you feel that way. You are obviously emersed in the work but you can do that and still separate it from everything else, not that it's easy, it's different for everyone. But also how much time are you having to yourself? It doesn't have be all about going out, socialising, meeting girls. Alone time is needed sometimes just as much, ifn your like me and are as content in your own company as with friends, family etc. then take a little time to relax, don't have to think only of routine amd beating pre e.
You do any sports, or any hobbies?

[hoochiNn]

"Alone time is needed sometimes just as much, ifn your like me and are as content in your own company as with friends, family etc."

Sorry didn't understand that!

Sport: gym only at the moment

[longerlastingnoob]

And don't think about it 24/7, if your holding breath kegelling/ ik'ing during the day, it's fine I still do, the "being aware and eliminating these things" is something to do as much as you can, partially, not be your main focus.

The only thing I can say to ease your worries of pre e is that you will beat it, I don't know when or how long it will take to see viable progress, but 100% of you stick to working on it, and know yourself you will, then you will. Every morning you wake up and every night before you go to bed, tell yourself this, bu don't just say it know it. Every so often when you see an attractive girl, know that the work your doing will allow you to go balls deep for hours, having her worship your god like stamina.
That seems an over exaggeration, but honestly it's not.

[longerlastingnoob]

"Alone time is needed sometimes just as much, ifn your like me and are as content in your own company as with friends, family etc."

Sorry didn't understand that!

Sport: gym only at the moment

I mean, you need some time alone, just you away from everyone. Whatever you feel is best, an hour or two every few days maybe, it's up to you. But it's good to have time to yourself to focus, reflect, relax, take any pressures off.
Sometimes I'll have a string of four or five days where I just go to work, gym, then home and do whatever.

[hoochiNn]

I mean, you need some time alone, just you away from everyone. Whatever you feel is best, an hour or two every few days maybe, it's up to you. But it's good to have time to yourself to focus, reflect, relax, take any pressures off.
Sometimes I'll have a string of four or five days where I just go to work, gym, then home and do whatever.

Thanks for the support mate, you are being really helpful

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This last days I have seen an improvement on my confidence and happiness. Maybe not in sex but an improving in life in general.

Today in the morning I had my second edging session (couldn't edge before because I was really busy and not in the mood to). I have noticed an increase in my pelvic floor tension. I don't know if this is due gym workouts or because I have decided not to spend all day obsessed with whether or not I have IK.
Another important thing that maybe I'm wrong or not but I think that I'm not used to arousal, it's like it feels uncomfortable and want to end it cumming. Of course at start I have more or less afford it but unconscienly I want to cum. It gets harder to hold when I have been some time playing highly aroused very near PONR.
I hitted my first PONR at ~15min, did some light balooning for 1 minute and then I keept going but something that surprised me is that my EQ lowered so much. I cummed on my 2nd PONR (20-23 min mark).

Here are some questions that I need to solve:

- It's normal that EQ loss after my 1st PONR. It has been on the next 2-3 minutes after balooning.

- I have noticed that I my head sometimes goes out of the place, should I try to avoid this and be focused completly on sensations and overall edging or it's ok if this happens sometimes?

- I'm avoiding to rub the glans directly with my hand when I stroke. Should I start doing it instead that PONR will come quicker? I don't mean to go really tight at start, just progressively increasing friction.

Thank you!