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  • fine with edging but sex causes my pre e

    Hey,

    So I was edging for awhile and all was fine being able to last 20mins or so but I'm now with my partner and it's all gone into reverse..

    We had sex for the first time and I came in a few minutes, I thought this may be down to me being over excited about her but for the past month we have had sex nearly everyday (well when I say sex I mean it's an in out job) and if anything I am cumming quicker now than when we first done it.

    This is driving us both crazy as yeah we have some good foreplay to begin with then go for the goal and within a couple of thrusts I can feel myself ready to cum, so I stop to let the feeling die down with her begging me to don't stop but even then when I go for it again after a few more thrusts I feel like cumming again.

    I need to sort this out otherwise we just aren't going to be able to get intimate in that way and that would kill me.


    What can I do to stop this? I've tried thinking of things to put me off when going for it but the feeling just starts as soon as I penetrate her

  • #2
    When you edge do you use your hand? How light is your grip? Do you sit, ly , stand while not moving ( hips thrusting when having sex)?
    All these things coupled with high arousal and other sensations are why your ok edging but not having sex.
    Just keep at it, if you rush it you will go backwards.
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    • #3
      It is natural to get more excited with your partner. Edging solo lacks a lot of the stimulation and sensations you share with your partner.

      If you cannot edge with her, try to start by going slow, then alternate between thrusting paces, slow and fast slow and fast do not keep the same speed for long, switching positions may help as well.

      You may benefit from more practice and pelvic floor balance, do more reverse kegels and flat foot deep squats.

      Also try to relax and take deep breaths, anxiety is a major cause for Pre-E, do not think about having an orgasm, nor think about not having an orgasm, focus all your attention on the experience, lose yourself to the moment. The stickies on this sub-forum discuss this in better details.


      Good luck!
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      • #4
        Great advice as usual from MrB8! No surprise there...

        Just a thought, but why not try cumming before you have sex or have a second round after you cum for the first time. Most likely you will be surprised by how long you will go the second time.
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        • #5
          Also let her do the thrusting, and you focus on relaxing. It may help.
          ALL THE WAY WITH GOOD OLE JAY!

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          • #6
            What happens when she rides you?
            https://www.pegym.com/forums/penis-e...a-jelqing.html

            Quality jelqs / Moving squeezes

            Off to the real world.

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            • #7
              Sorry it took so long to wright back as I've been off line for awhile now but got it back today ..

              We've been together 4months now and still having the same problem, oral and self stimulation I last a long time till the PONR but as soon as it comes to penetration it's a 1minute job even though the grip is no where near as strong as what I would use on my self or ruff.

              What I think it is.. is that with penetration it covers my whole penis giving me more of an all round pleasure especially since it's soft and wet too. Sorry if I went on a little there this is actually my first sexual partner so I'm still learning a lot, it just does my nut in that I have to stop the sex well before she's ready.

              Even when I have ejaculated once and we try it again (it takes awhile to get it going again) then it's the same situation when I'm hard and we go for penetration it lasts just as long as the first time, even when I slow down and speed up to alternate it just seem to come out of no where not like when I edge I can feel it coming and know when to stop but with sex one second it ok then the next i'm ejaculating with next to no warning.

              I have tried reverse kegels in the past but it didn't seem to work for me, I will look into those flat foot squats and give them a whirl.. I know both them exercises is to stretch the pelvic muscle so it's not so tense and when I have a full erection my penise sticks up in the air and is hard to pull down so maybe it does need stretching? I was thinking though of rather than reverse kegels I might try and do manual hand stretching (when on flaccid stretch my penis downwards towards the floor) and do this maybe twice a day for a few minutes, by doing this I'm hoping to lose some of the tension that I seem to get in my penis when I'm really stimulated. Does this sound like it could help at all or am I best to just do reverse kegels?.

              As I remember when I use to do a lot of stretching my erections would stick out horizontal rather than vertical which seem to desensitise me a lot.

              I everything else fails I'm thinking of talking to my doctor about medication for this as it is affecting my relationship, but I'm only 25 so don't really want to be having to medicate myself for something like this yet.

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              • #8
                It does sound like you are tense. Follow a program like Longerlastingnoob did and see if it helps. Consistent PreE programs have helped a lot. Adjusting my pelvic floor helped me a lot. No porn, RKs, deep squats, and sitting on a tennis ball, and edging instead of masturbating have been great for my control. Stay focused and consistent, and maybe get a STU to help train your penis. Is she willing to do the thrusting?
                ALL THE WAY WITH GOOD OLE JAY!

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                • #9
                  Start a pre e progress log.

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                  • #10
                    I recommend longer edging sessions. And a STU (stamina training unit) sounds great for you, it can be so stimulating, you get to directly address your main issue, and the sessions don't have to get longer -- they just get more intense.

                    I might also recommend 2g of magnesium citrate half an hour prior to sex -- magnesium can help calm, and my edging sessions always seem easier when I take it -- plus people don't generally get enough anyway.

                    Here's my blog on my main view when it comes to working on PreE: https://www.pegym.com/forums/blogs/c...ntrol-120.html
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                    8/26/14: 175/149/166 then stopped PE
                    1/15/15: 176/155/172 after month+ nightly edging

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                    • #11
                      Originally posted by chajadan View Post
                      I recommend longer edging sessions. And a STU (stamina training unit) sounds great for you, it can be so stimulating, you get to directly address your main issue, and the sessions don't have to get longer -- they just get more intense.

                      I might also recommend 2g of magnesium citrate half an hour prior to sex -- magnesium can help calm, and my edging sessions always seem easier when I take it -- plus people don't generally get enough anyway.

                      Here's my blog on my main view when it comes to working on PreE: https://www.pegym.com/forums/blogs/c...ntrol-120.html
                      I was gonna say the same, Get a fleshlight STU to help you edge, the sensation is a lot more intense than your hand.
                      How comfortable are you talking to her about this? The best training IMO, if you communicate with her, is her to help you edge...using her vagina. Not only is it fun as hell but it helps a lot and would beat any hand / toy edging ever. I'd recommend her on top and explain to her what PONR is and what she needs to do to help you with this. When you get close to PONR, i'd say pull out and kegal or squeeze your penis with your hand( a lot of pornstars do this). When you do pull out, take a few breaths and ease your nerves. At first , soon as you put it back in it will come right back lol. Vagina is awesome, but in time you will learn to have control. Try it and let us know.
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                      • #12
                        Thanks for all the responses and I have took it all in.. At the moment I don't edge at all anymore as my partner wants sex like everyday so I it would be to much to edge also, tbh I'm not comfortable talking about this with her as it's really embarrassing for me.

                        I have pulled it out a lot of time when we're having intercourse to stop myself from ejaculating so fast and told her that's what I done it for but in the bed she wears the pants and begs me to put it straight back in and just cum if I need it saying "don't tease myself", the thing is she doesn't like slow sex AT ALL and always wants me to bang her as hard and fast as I can. Which I can do pretty well for one minute lol.

                        I really don't know what to do as I can't edge for training and she wants me to go fast all the time so I can't last long with intercourse so I can't see any other way to work on this really

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                        • #13
                          I wish I had the problem of my lady wanting sex everyday lol. Practice your kegals so you learn how to keep it relaxed(main problem for most guys, If I squeeze my PC muscle during sex i'd cum during penetration), breathing, and during sex put your mind somewhere else completely( like homework, chores, bills or do math in your head) . I also pinch myself sometimes so the slight pain would distract me. Have you ever went down on her/make her cum first?
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                          Starting Stats Dec 14
                          BPEL 6.9 x 5.4 +/- .1
                          NBPEL 6.0

                          Current Stats: Feb 15
                          BPEL 7.3 x 5.5 (better EQ gains)
                          NBPEL 6.4

                          Goal:
                          NBPEL 7.0 x 5.75 with a 10 EQ
                          Honestly just a healthy stronger penis. If the size comes with it i'll take it :)

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