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Hey all. I've been reading these forums the past month as I feel my PreE has worsened recently and I wanted to do something about it.
Firstly my situation - I'm 25 and have been with my GF for 9 years. Premature ejaculation has never really been an issue throughout this. I mean I've never been an all night long kind of guy but 5 minutes of intense sex has easily been achievable for most of the 9 years, perhaps with the odd slip up but not enough to worry about. I think over the past year it has got slightly worse and during March I had a bit of a run where each time I was not lasting long at all (usually its just the odd occasion). Luckily I can get my girl off pretty easy so with the right build up we can have sex for even 30 seconds and climax together for example. Sadly build up does not always work and there has been a few times recently where she has not climaxed which is rare and really makes me feel down because half of my satisfaction is from making her satisfied also. So I've done some more research and here's a list of a few things I've been trying out..
Reverse Kegel's - At first I was really struggling with these, couldn't feel much and was straining myself too much. Over the month though they have certainly become easier. At first standing was the only way I really felt much so I've been doing that. Now I can do them while sitting and laying down but have to strain myself more. Hoping these also become easier. While they are good they still get beat by strong IK's
Edging - Not stop/start technique. I have been doing it as to get close to ponr and hold off IK's, I've varied from 10 minutes to 2 hours of edging (long sessions with lube short sessions are dry generally). Main thing I've got from this is being aware of what is happening to my pelvic floor muscles and other sensations.
Death grip - this has been a bit come and go, sometimes it brings me near ponr very fast and other times I start to lose my erection so has been difficult to try for decent periods of time.
Stretches - I noticed that when pulling or squeezing my penis under the head that I would IK so I've been trying these while relaxing or doing RK's.
Ballooning - Mainly during edging when near ponr I rub around the glans and around the frenulum. Also gives me more IK's for me to practice overcoming.
Deep breathing- I have been about 3-4 times a week been doing different breathing techniques. Deep breathing while counting 1-100 and also deep breathing counting each breath 1-100 (only manage 1-50 before losing focus atm). Have also done a bit of the RK on inhale and relax on exhale method.
Arousal control - Easy during edging but in the heat of the moment I really do struggle to contain my excitement. I am very attracted to my partner and fantasise about her a lot. I don't really want to be looking around the room trying to think of things either but have found I can momentarily hold back if I focus on something. I can't get as involved which kind of ruins it if I'm honest. I do want to be able to enjoy the moment not focus on other things out of the bedroom. I figure there is a balance as I used to get highly aroused before and could last longer.
Dry rubbing- I had an idea desensitising my dick may help as I started to think I was hypersensitive. So I had 2 consecutive days where I dry rubbed for 20 mins but this just made me sore, I think I was a bit over the top hoping it would really work. Had to give a few days to repair fully and was no different after.
Jelq - Only on my last edge session did I jelq which is pretty effortless and I think helped me work on being aware and holding off IK's.
Okay so I've probably overloaded with different techniques and not put real effort into doing a proper day by day routine of any of them. I've really just been trying it all out and learning with different methods I suppose. I've spent most of April trying out these different techniques and haven't really got anywhere with lasting longer at sex although I do feel I've progressed solo.
This thread is sort of a log and is mainly made so I can ask a few specific questions. First I'll explain what methods I'm going to try and continue and see what thoughts you lot may have..
My Routine - From now on I will be doing daily RK's, 10 minutes of pushing exercises 2 times a day and then just light RK holds during the day and when it comes into my mind, generally just trying to keep my pelvic floor relaxed. I will continue edging sessions trying for minimum 30 minutes to a maximum 2 hours about 3-4 times a week with ballooning near ponr. Edging sessions will be followed with a 5-15 minute jelq session if there is time. I will continue to pay attention to IK's and try to fight them off. Daily breathing techniques, as mentioned I do the 1-100 count while breathing and count my deep breath 1-50. I need to try do the RK breathing (anal breathing?) more often as I think this is good for the relaxation of my pelvic floor also.
Okay so just a few questions and concerns now..
I think this just about covers most of it, there's probably a few other questions that I am not thinking of right now but will post if any of them pop into my head. I've really rambled on here. Apologies my grammar is not brilliant either. Eventually I'd like to be MMO if I feel like I am moving along the right path also. Either way it's really nice learning so much and noticing much more what is happening down there and throughout my body during stimulation.
Thank you for taking the time to read my post and I appreciate any replies.
Nocturnal.
Firstly my situation - I'm 25 and have been with my GF for 9 years. Premature ejaculation has never really been an issue throughout this. I mean I've never been an all night long kind of guy but 5 minutes of intense sex has easily been achievable for most of the 9 years, perhaps with the odd slip up but not enough to worry about. I think over the past year it has got slightly worse and during March I had a bit of a run where each time I was not lasting long at all (usually its just the odd occasion). Luckily I can get my girl off pretty easy so with the right build up we can have sex for even 30 seconds and climax together for example. Sadly build up does not always work and there has been a few times recently where she has not climaxed which is rare and really makes me feel down because half of my satisfaction is from making her satisfied also. So I've done some more research and here's a list of a few things I've been trying out..
Reverse Kegel's - At first I was really struggling with these, couldn't feel much and was straining myself too much. Over the month though they have certainly become easier. At first standing was the only way I really felt much so I've been doing that. Now I can do them while sitting and laying down but have to strain myself more. Hoping these also become easier. While they are good they still get beat by strong IK's
Edging - Not stop/start technique. I have been doing it as to get close to ponr and hold off IK's, I've varied from 10 minutes to 2 hours of edging (long sessions with lube short sessions are dry generally). Main thing I've got from this is being aware of what is happening to my pelvic floor muscles and other sensations.
Death grip - this has been a bit come and go, sometimes it brings me near ponr very fast and other times I start to lose my erection so has been difficult to try for decent periods of time.
Stretches - I noticed that when pulling or squeezing my penis under the head that I would IK so I've been trying these while relaxing or doing RK's.
Ballooning - Mainly during edging when near ponr I rub around the glans and around the frenulum. Also gives me more IK's for me to practice overcoming.
Deep breathing- I have been about 3-4 times a week been doing different breathing techniques. Deep breathing while counting 1-100 and also deep breathing counting each breath 1-100 (only manage 1-50 before losing focus atm). Have also done a bit of the RK on inhale and relax on exhale method.
Arousal control - Easy during edging but in the heat of the moment I really do struggle to contain my excitement. I am very attracted to my partner and fantasise about her a lot. I don't really want to be looking around the room trying to think of things either but have found I can momentarily hold back if I focus on something. I can't get as involved which kind of ruins it if I'm honest. I do want to be able to enjoy the moment not focus on other things out of the bedroom. I figure there is a balance as I used to get highly aroused before and could last longer.
Dry rubbing- I had an idea desensitising my dick may help as I started to think I was hypersensitive. So I had 2 consecutive days where I dry rubbed for 20 mins but this just made me sore, I think I was a bit over the top hoping it would really work. Had to give a few days to repair fully and was no different after.
Jelq - Only on my last edge session did I jelq which is pretty effortless and I think helped me work on being aware and holding off IK's.
Okay so I've probably overloaded with different techniques and not put real effort into doing a proper day by day routine of any of them. I've really just been trying it all out and learning with different methods I suppose. I've spent most of April trying out these different techniques and haven't really got anywhere with lasting longer at sex although I do feel I've progressed solo.
This thread is sort of a log and is mainly made so I can ask a few specific questions. First I'll explain what methods I'm going to try and continue and see what thoughts you lot may have..
My Routine - From now on I will be doing daily RK's, 10 minutes of pushing exercises 2 times a day and then just light RK holds during the day and when it comes into my mind, generally just trying to keep my pelvic floor relaxed. I will continue edging sessions trying for minimum 30 minutes to a maximum 2 hours about 3-4 times a week with ballooning near ponr. Edging sessions will be followed with a 5-15 minute jelq session if there is time. I will continue to pay attention to IK's and try to fight them off. Daily breathing techniques, as mentioned I do the 1-100 count while breathing and count my deep breath 1-50. I need to try do the RK breathing (anal breathing?) more often as I think this is good for the relaxation of my pelvic floor also.
Okay so just a few questions and concerns now..
- While I sleep I often play with my penis and have erections, I know this as my partner tells me. She even said the other night I was pretty much full on thrusting into her in a spoon position. I am worried this may be making me worse, is it normal? My PreE is noticeably worse in the mornings and I often wake up with a tensed up erection that is crying out to be stimulated.
- Reverse kegels when I'm getting intense stimulation just feel like I am pushing myself to ponr faster is this normal? It's like I can feel the blood rushing into the head of my penis and it gets way too intense I have to let up and stop, although the IK's are either not there or hardly noticeable I still get closer to ponr. I tried minute mans method of light kegel with light RK release last edge session and it seems to be much more beneficial at fighting away both ponr and the IK's although I did tense a bit hard once and really struggled to relax it nearly making me cum. Any thoughts on all this?
- When I've edged for a while, if I rub the palm of my hand on the top of my glans the feeling can be crazy intense. Not really any IK's that I noticed but I'd squirm and get vocal which is strange as I can orgasm silent. I don't think this is orgasmic in anyway I think it's just a very intense feeling as in I don't think I'd orgasm doing this. Anyone had anything like this? I can try explain in more detail if needed I guess..
- When solo I can struggle to get aroused if I'm not already in the mood. This has caused me to use porn and cock rings during edging, not always but I have needed them. Is this bad? Should I just not bother if I can't get hard or would that be less beneficial to me?
- Following on from the last concern, when I'm with my partner I have no trouble whatsoever getting hard, in fact it's quite the opposite. The thing pops up if I even think shes going to touch it or if we talk about sex or if I touch/tickle/massage her etc. Is this abnormal? Am I too turned on by her? I'd assume this was part of my PreE had I not always been like this.
- I can last longer with BJ's and hand jobs, although the last HJ was over quick strangely, I think because I am thinking too much about the PreE. Anyway a few months ago I'd usually of had to force myself to cum with HJ's and BJ's and probably still would in the right scenarios. Why is it I can be fine with this but not sex recently? Also something I intend to try, when having sex in other rooms aside from the bedroom I last longer. We've even had to move to the bedroom so I can finish before. It will be interesting to see how I am with my newly developed PreE in another room.
- Since trying to control myself and 'spread' arousal or stimulation through my body I have noticed some strange feelings but only really with the BJ so far. I get very tingly sensations. Most noticeably on the top of my head (my actual head not my dick lol). Actually these were really nice. Any idea what these are about?
I think this just about covers most of it, there's probably a few other questions that I am not thinking of right now but will post if any of them pop into my head. I've really rambled on here. Apologies my grammar is not brilliant either. Eventually I'd like to be MMO if I feel like I am moving along the right path also. Either way it's really nice learning so much and noticing much more what is happening down there and throughout my body during stimulation.
Thank you for taking the time to read my post and I appreciate any replies.
Nocturnal.
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