Softer erection = last longer?

[bardok202 Member Find all posts View Profile Close bardok202]

So I've noticed something, in all of the porn I've watched where they guy lasts a while, the male's erection is a bit soft, or not as hard as mine at least. My erections are usually so hard I can barely move my penis in any direction comfortably. In contrast, these stars and in homemade porn, their penises are in a softer state of erection when they are having sex, and they always last a while. In the case of homemade porn, the guys are lasting long enough to give the girls orgasms. I could definitely see how a softer erection would help with sensitivity issues.

Is this because they have bigger penises?
Do you think they masturbate with a harder grip like death grip?
Do they do some type of exercise that makes their erections a bit softer?
Do any of you guys have a softer erection and last a long time?

Love to hear what you guys think.

[MrB8 Senior Member Member of the Month Nov 2013 Find all posts View Profile Close MrB8]

Quit watching porn and over analyzing it.

If you are super aroused/excited you are more likely to have a harder erection.

By quitting porn and balancing your pelvic floor and learning to control your arousal with the techniques discussed on site, you will be able to last as long as you want while you are rock hard.


Don't RELY on porn for an erection!

Greetings from the Fairy Pornmother

Therapeutic Help For Porn Addiction


Minuteman's PremE FAQ

Arousal Techniques

ByggD's Guide to Controlling Your Ejaculation Response

What we know so far about PE, its causes and its treatment


Kegels: Only One Piece of the Equation to Strengthen the Pelvic Floor

Yoga Poses for Pelvic Floor Stretching - relax your muscles

Confusion with Reverse Kegels

Pelvic Floor Balance


Reverse kegel for newbie

[bardok202 Member Find all posts View Profile Close bardok202]

Quit watching porn and over analyzing it.

If you are super aroused/excited you are more likely to have a harder erection.

By quitting porn and balancing your pelvic floor and learning to control your arousal with the techniques discussed on site, you will be able to last as long as you want while you are rock hard.


Don't RELY on porn for an erection!

Greetings from the Fairy Pornmother

Therapeutic Help For Porn Addiction


Minuteman's PremE FAQ

Arousal Techniques

ByggD's Guide to Controlling Your Ejaculation Response

What we know so far about PE, its causes and its treatment


Kegels: Only One Piece of the Equation to Strengthen the Pelvic Floor

Yoga Poses for Pelvic Floor Stretching - relax your muscles

Confusion with Reverse Kegels

Pelvic Floor Balance


Reverse kegel for newbie

Im not over analyzing porn, I know about balancing the pelvic floor and arousal control techniques. Just a discussion I wanted to have buddy

[suspense2006 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close suspense2006]

What he's saying is that you can't view porn as something to analyze. It's smoke and mirrors, camera tricks, editing, and pharmaceutical trickery that isn't really able to be analyzed. He's telling you that trying to compare real life to porn is an excellent way to make yourself crazy. His intentions are benevolent. If you read through the AP90 thread and others like it, they're FULL of guys who are living with mental demons caused by trying to rationalize what they see in porn with real life.

To get back to your question, I could see how the guys being softer could mean a lower level of arousal, I know from my own life if I'm not as horny I don't get off as fast, and am not as hard. Another possibility is they're overworked, so to speak, and their dicks are little tired too maybe.

EDIT: didn't mean to speak for you MrB8, just what I was thinking you were getting at.

[Straw Bat Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Straw Bat]

IN response to the thread title - I used to think this, when I was on the precipice of recovering from porn related delayed ejaculation, and had resensitized to a real lady.

I busted a couple nuts too early, and paniced - thinking how I used to be able to shag for however long was necessary, and how I was better in bed with a softer, longer lasting penis.

Nowdays, I can ride the PONR for upto an hour, and my penis is creeping into areas we've never felt before. My glans is much bigger, and orgasms for my lady have become a matter of mechanics, I can reliably hit certain deep spots with my bigger, harder erection. It used to be, I'd only wield my tool at maximum capacity for 10 seconds before cumming!

Very much recommend stopping porn and being rid of delayed ejaculation, then practicing pelvic relaxation. I'm the best lover I've ever been, with the best tool I've ever had.

[Nocturnal1 Member Find all posts View Profile Close Nocturnal1]

Maybe so but I'd rather be rock hard and bust a nut early than have a softy and last all night long.

I do agree though in a way, when you feel real rock hard it usually comes with feeling ready to blow. I think part this hardness/stiffness comes with a tight pelvic floor though. As I've noticed 2 types of hard erection for me that don't really differ in size visually is that one is hard when it's pointing upwards and feels rigid like pushing down on it is going to snap something, I put this down to a tight pelvic floor. The hard erection I prefer is where it's still rock hard and big but I can move it about more without it feeling like its going to snap, I put this down to when I have a lose pelvic floor and it's certainly not soft in this state.

The former usually comes when I'm really horny, too horny in fact. I'm already trying to rub my dick against just about anything to get pleasure in this state. The latter state is usually much more when I feel calm and relaxed, still aroused but not gagging for it.