Hi guys, I was directed here by a friend so I wanted to get some perspective.
Now a little info. In the six years me and my girlfriend have been together I figured out that as long as we are having regular sex, I will last longer. So if we have sex 5 straight days, the 5th day I usually last close to 30-45 minutes.
Now, for a myriad of reasons (mostly medical) we couldn't have a lot of sex and went a little over a month without intercourse. When we got the all clear we jumped in the sack and I couldn't last. She immediately got upset and it hurt my confidence a lot. I honestly wasn't expecting her to get upset as every once in a while the sex is short, especially if we have gone a few days without sex, and I usually finish her in a number of ways.
I told her we just need to try again and get back into a routine but she was arguing that I was blaming her.
Well we tried a few more times spread out amongst a few weeks and I never improved and she never wanted me to finish her afterwards.
I know that a lot of this is a mental problem and I know that it's my problem but I can't help but want the support of my girlfriend. I've been looking at every theory or solution and the problem is, I know there's not going to be a quick solution but she doesn't want to work with me to see what works.
I mean we have talked about it and I told her that her getting mad afterwards is negatively impacting my progress but while drunk she told me that all the other guys she has been have never had this problem and she said she thought the problem was stupid and she doesn't understand it.
I've read this website from cover to cover and a lot of suggestions include working with your partner and I can't do that and I don't know how to make her see that I need her to help.
Aside from my relationship problems I want to fix the PE problem so that I don't have to worry about it in the future.
I've been doing kegels, and am trying to figure out Reverse kegels. (Help?) But I'm looking into a fleshlight or something similar to help with edging. Has anyone tried cockrings to help? I signed up for a gym and am going to start going as I see that can help a lot too.
Now a little info. In the six years me and my girlfriend have been together I figured out that as long as we are having regular sex, I will last longer. So if we have sex 5 straight days, the 5th day I usually last close to 30-45 minutes.
Now, for a myriad of reasons (mostly medical) we couldn't have a lot of sex and went a little over a month without intercourse. When we got the all clear we jumped in the sack and I couldn't last. She immediately got upset and it hurt my confidence a lot. I honestly wasn't expecting her to get upset as every once in a while the sex is short, especially if we have gone a few days without sex, and I usually finish her in a number of ways.
I told her we just need to try again and get back into a routine but she was arguing that I was blaming her.
Well we tried a few more times spread out amongst a few weeks and I never improved and she never wanted me to finish her afterwards.
I know that a lot of this is a mental problem and I know that it's my problem but I can't help but want the support of my girlfriend. I've been looking at every theory or solution and the problem is, I know there's not going to be a quick solution but she doesn't want to work with me to see what works.
I mean we have talked about it and I told her that her getting mad afterwards is negatively impacting my progress but while drunk she told me that all the other guys she has been have never had this problem and she said she thought the problem was stupid and she doesn't understand it.
I've read this website from cover to cover and a lot of suggestions include working with your partner and I can't do that and I don't know how to make her see that I need her to help.
Aside from my relationship problems I want to fix the PE problem so that I don't have to worry about it in the future.
I've been doing kegels, and am trying to figure out Reverse kegels. (Help?) But I'm looking into a fleshlight or something similar to help with edging. Has anyone tried cockrings to help? I signed up for a gym and am going to start going as I see that can help a lot too.
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