Personally, I know I have a tight pelvic floor. I also know a lot of my problems are a result of abusing masturbation and porn. However, whenever I edge with a clear mind or whenever I'm getting a handjob, I get IKs like usual but they are ineffective to bringing me to PONR unexpectedly. I quite easily can feel the throbs and tugs from the IK but they don't bring me closer to orgasm.
HOWEVER, the second I lose focus and start imagining sex, I start to lose control. If I'm quick enough I can route my brain back to neutral thoughts and staying focused but if I "daydream" too long PONR is inevitable.
Notice how above I said the IKs I get from a handjob don't affect me? I believe this is because handjobs in porn never turned me on or interested me; so the sensation of a handjob doesn't relate to porn easily. So my conclusion is that in reality all of my problems connect back to porn and its mental problems. Not physical. The fact that I have a tight pelvic floor but can last with certain types of stimulation proves that the problem isn't the direct stimulation itself but instead it's variables of what is causing the stimulation.
Sex, in all positions and oral sex were all apart of my porn watching experience and I tried to relate the virtual sensations to real life. I didn't realize years ago the affect it would have on me I simply enjoyed the temporary pleasure.
The fact that I focused so heavily on imagining what "porn felt like in real life" growing up is the cause for my sensitivity and over arousal. The obsession that I created in my own head pushes my arousal over the edge (no pun intended).
So to conclude, yes tight pelvic floor is a symptom of bad habits, but I truly believe too much emphasis is put on RKs or other routines. Physical routines are effective I'm not doubting that, but I feel like there's too much emphasis on it and people aren't nailing their personal history and sex life to a personal remedy. I believe it's all in the head and based on how you view certain sexual acts in your head and what you exposed yourself to. How to combat it? Well I'm still trying to figure that out myself.
HOWEVER, the second I lose focus and start imagining sex, I start to lose control. If I'm quick enough I can route my brain back to neutral thoughts and staying focused but if I "daydream" too long PONR is inevitable.
Notice how above I said the IKs I get from a handjob don't affect me? I believe this is because handjobs in porn never turned me on or interested me; so the sensation of a handjob doesn't relate to porn easily. So my conclusion is that in reality all of my problems connect back to porn and its mental problems. Not physical. The fact that I have a tight pelvic floor but can last with certain types of stimulation proves that the problem isn't the direct stimulation itself but instead it's variables of what is causing the stimulation.
Sex, in all positions and oral sex were all apart of my porn watching experience and I tried to relate the virtual sensations to real life. I didn't realize years ago the affect it would have on me I simply enjoyed the temporary pleasure.
The fact that I focused so heavily on imagining what "porn felt like in real life" growing up is the cause for my sensitivity and over arousal. The obsession that I created in my own head pushes my arousal over the edge (no pun intended).
So to conclude, yes tight pelvic floor is a symptom of bad habits, but I truly believe too much emphasis is put on RKs or other routines. Physical routines are effective I'm not doubting that, but I feel like there's too much emphasis on it and people aren't nailing their personal history and sex life to a personal remedy. I believe it's all in the head and based on how you view certain sexual acts in your head and what you exposed yourself to. How to combat it? Well I'm still trying to figure that out myself.
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