Ex has started texting me need to be ruthless

[alocacoc Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close alocacoc]

My ex was brilliant I'll be honest, but we split up over a rough patch I hurt her but she played the part!!! anyway she has initiated texting me again for hours on end and clearly still loves and desires me , however she reckons she's starting to meet a sensible guy he's as boring as fuck but secure!! I've come to notice I end up doing a lot of passionate statements and I'm starting to think she loves the attention, she's getting

Basically I need to finish her off with one text now to make her pull her finger out, I don't bump into her so I have to be careful how I approach,

Ruthless but kind thinking caps on please guys I still want her in the future and she does me

[closed224 Senior Member Member of the Month Dec 2014, Feb 2017 Find all posts View Profile Close closed224]

Too bad, it sounds like she should move on.

[everydaynormalguy Senior Member Member of the Month Dec 2017 Find all posts View Profile Close everydaynormalguy]

Ask her to make her choice once and for all...tell her that you are tired of this.

[alocacoc Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close alocacoc]

We were really happy when we were happy, she's playing games and needs a good mindfuck sorry so come on

[closed224 Senior Member Member of the Month Dec 2014, Feb 2017 Find all posts View Profile Close closed224]

Just tell her to leave you alone. Be the bigger person here and don't play games. Goodbye

[alocacoc Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close alocacoc]

I've done it , found a corker, "stop wasting my time, you were never good enough for me and deep down you know the reason why"

[akga80 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close akga80]

I'd drop the mic and move on personally, but I can see where you're coming from.

Tell her that our time together was fun and it's best for both of us to spend time apart, that if your feeling were that strong for me that you wouldn't be playing with my emotions, that you're tired of this back and forth game, go make your new man happy, I ve moved on and you're immature behavior is really off-putting, I thought you were a better person than that.

That ought to do it.

[Texas Cowboy Member Find all posts View Profile Close Texas Cowboy]

I recall once hearing a statement and I have also applied it to one of my ex's when I was in a somewhat similar situation where she would usually just tell me her problems she was having with her new guy. I knew what her game was, she was playing with my feelings and it was getting me annoyed. I remembered the quote I heard I can't remember where but I had to say it so she could just think twice of what she was doing and it goes something like this:

"I am nobody's plan B! Either you choose me, or you loose me!"

From what I read in your post, it somewhat seems to me she is toying with your emotions. Personally I would say it would be best to stay away from a girl who plays with your emotions. The quote I have shared with you will surely let her know that you are not one who plays games and does not enjoy having his emotions played with, and that you are 100% SERIOUS about this. Being in a relationship is NO Game. Especially when true feelings are involved.

[Tamora Retired Super Moderator Member of the Month Aug 2015 PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close Tamora]

Well said sir! ^^^

Especially the bit about staying away from a girl that plays with your emotions...usually the tip of the iceberg!

[alocacoc Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close alocacoc]

i appreciate the replies can i confirm she was a lovely woman but she was hugely insecure i dont think she would intentionally play with my emotions however i think shes doing this 1 . because she still desires me and 2. she wants to feel wanted to feed her insecurity, shes clearly thinking of me to be messaging me for 3 hours on the trot

[CUSP82 Administrator Admin of the Month Dec 2014PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close CUSP82]

Don't respond and don't read the texts. That's easy isn't it?

[Jay1983 Senior MemberMember of the Month Apr 2014, Sept 2016 Find all posts View Profile Close Jay1983]

Do not pass go. Do not collect 200 dollars.

Cheerios. Honey nut.

[Texas Cowboy Member Find all posts View Profile Close Texas Cowboy]

Well said sir! ^^^

Especially the bit about staying away from a girl that plays with your emotions...usually the tip of the iceberg!

Thank you. I speak from experience. People who play with other's emotions don't have the best intentions, and they assume they can keep toying with them again and again. The harsh part is that many who fail to recognize they are being toyed with don't realize it due to still being in love and/or being in a weakened state of mind.

The key is to analyze the events that happened in the relationship, and what caused the split. And also to know the other individual very well. Being strong of mind, understanding the pros and cons of returning with the individual, remembering the attitude and character of the other person towards one-self, recalling the experiences with the other person, and staying firm helps in finding out if one is being toyed or not. It is challenging to do so though, depending on the level of love and/or feeling pity one has for the other person.

[Texas Cowboy Member Find all posts View Profile Close Texas Cowboy]

i appreciate the replies can i confirm she was a lovely woman but she was hugely insecure i dont think she would intentionally play with my emotions however i think shes doing this 1 . because she still desires me and 2. she wants to feel wanted to feed her insecurity, shes clearly thinking of me to be messaging me for 3 hours on the trot

Well, these texty-talkys text have to end somewhere, and eventually it has to be decided whether you two will make up, or break up for good.

Don't respond to her texts... and 2 things will happen:

#1: If she does not want to be with you... she will eventually give up and move on.

#2: If she still Truly loves You and has realized she has lost a wonderful being who made her feel appreciated, secure, and loved and wants to get back with you... she will eventually send you a text message with BIG CAPITOL LETTERS stating that she wants to get back with you.

It's a 50-50 shot, and it can go both ways. But it is worth the risk to finally end these unwanted texts you don't need.

Now the tricky part here is that you want her in the future. And she desires you, but she is with someone else. It's somewhat complicated.

The other thing that also plays a part here is the other guy.

[alocacoc Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close alocacoc]

well shes blocked me now its all so childish because the real her is such a great person,