Hey guys, I don't know if anyone can relate, and if yes, how did you manage the situation.. so here it is.
My gf and I have been together for close to a year and a half. Unlike most relationship, we basically ''lived'' together from the start because she moved to an apartment right next to mine just before we got together (big coincidence, we barely knew each other before she signed the lease of the apartment), and also work at the same place. So from the beginning, we were already sleeping in the same bed at night everyday, so it started out pretty quick. We used to have sex often (about 3 to 5 times a week) for a few months. She was even the one initiating it a lot of those times. With time, the sex decreased (of course), but I was still OK with that.
I started realizing it was a problem when she would start to turn me down regularly, saying she's not in the mood and whatnot. In between times we actually moved in together 6 months ago, and although we fight (like all couples), things are going fine. Except the sex part. It is becoming less and less present in our life, and is scaring me big time. I have tried to talk about this to her so many times, but every time it ends in an argument, as she says that she doesn't have a strong sex drive and that she wishes she did, but she doesn't know what to do, and sometimes cries (that breaks my heart). While I try to be comprehensive, I can't help but be frustrated by the MANY attempts rejected and I am not able to hide it, so of course, it causes a lot of distress in our relationship. The argument comes easily every week now, and even if I try to ask her what can I do to help her, we never come to a conclusion and she swears i'm not the problem.
I'm in a big dilemma here, because I'm only 22 and she is 24, and I'm not ready to slowly see my sexual life die. I am tired of having doubts about the relationship only because of these arguments we keep having, and it would kill me to end our relationship because of the lack of sex, but i can't see myself so unsatisfied and frustrated like I am lately. I don't want this to get worse.
I know she loves me and I love her too. She always includes me in her projects when she talks about the future, and she says she loves me on a daily basis, but without our intimacy, I sometimes feel like an old couple.
The best case scenario would be to stay with her and finding the spark back, but in all honesty, I have thoughts about leaving her from time to time, and these thoughts are tearing me apart.
If anyone has already deal with this kind of situation, how did it worked out for you?
Thank you guys.
My gf and I have been together for close to a year and a half. Unlike most relationship, we basically ''lived'' together from the start because she moved to an apartment right next to mine just before we got together (big coincidence, we barely knew each other before she signed the lease of the apartment), and also work at the same place. So from the beginning, we were already sleeping in the same bed at night everyday, so it started out pretty quick. We used to have sex often (about 3 to 5 times a week) for a few months. She was even the one initiating it a lot of those times. With time, the sex decreased (of course), but I was still OK with that.
I started realizing it was a problem when she would start to turn me down regularly, saying she's not in the mood and whatnot. In between times we actually moved in together 6 months ago, and although we fight (like all couples), things are going fine. Except the sex part. It is becoming less and less present in our life, and is scaring me big time. I have tried to talk about this to her so many times, but every time it ends in an argument, as she says that she doesn't have a strong sex drive and that she wishes she did, but she doesn't know what to do, and sometimes cries (that breaks my heart). While I try to be comprehensive, I can't help but be frustrated by the MANY attempts rejected and I am not able to hide it, so of course, it causes a lot of distress in our relationship. The argument comes easily every week now, and even if I try to ask her what can I do to help her, we never come to a conclusion and she swears i'm not the problem.
I'm in a big dilemma here, because I'm only 22 and she is 24, and I'm not ready to slowly see my sexual life die. I am tired of having doubts about the relationship only because of these arguments we keep having, and it would kill me to end our relationship because of the lack of sex, but i can't see myself so unsatisfied and frustrated like I am lately. I don't want this to get worse.
I know she loves me and I love her too. She always includes me in her projects when she talks about the future, and she says she loves me on a daily basis, but without our intimacy, I sometimes feel like an old couple.
The best case scenario would be to stay with her and finding the spark back, but in all honesty, I have thoughts about leaving her from time to time, and these thoughts are tearing me apart.
If anyone has already deal with this kind of situation, how did it worked out for you?
Thank you guys.
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