Am I really pleasuring my GF?

[Fapperbate Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Fapperbate]

When my cock is hard its about 4 inches people before have telled me its small as fuck before but my GF says its perfect for her and makes her feel so fucking good. Is it true or shes just trying not hurt my feelings? I see her toys and they are huge like probably 2 time the size of my cock. When I ask her about this she says mine feels better inside her. Its all lie? or no?

[Qandisa Senior Member Member of the Month March 2016 Find all posts View Profile Close Qandisa]

If she says she enjoys it and likes it then why are you doubting her? Just because she has toys that are larger doesn't mean that she prefers them to you. Have you ever seen her use them? Do you know if she's inserting them all the way or just part way?

I've been with my PrimaryLover (PL) for over a year and a half. We're not exclusive (not my choice) and in that time I've been with 3 other guys, 2 of which were FWBs before I met PL. Each of them has a larger penis than PL. Each and every time I've thought how sex is so much better with PL and how I enjoy him so much more. And every time I'm with PL after having been with someone else I think Oh FUCK YES this is exactly how this is supposed to feel.

So just because she's got some stuff that's bigger, doesn't mean she enjoys it more than you.

[UglyBoy Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close UglyBoy]

She's probably not lying, no.

But some random fucker like myself replying to you in a penis enhancement forum isn't gonna know your girlfriend better than herself. I'd say you're better off trusting her; it's not me you get to have sex with, and I'm definitely not having sex with her either, I can assure you.

[purednb Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close purednb]

When my cock is hard its about 4 inches people before have telled me its small as fuck before but my GF says its perfect for her and makes her feel so fucking good. Is it true or shes just trying not hurt my feelings? I see her toys and they are huge like probably 2 time the size of my cock. When I ask her about this she says mine feels better inside her. Its all lie? or no?

You love her, she love's you ?

[theGOAT Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close theGOAT]

No one can tell you does she lie to you or no.

[1tufftunica Member Find all posts View Profile Close 1tufftunica]

Im right there with you in terms of having this question. 11 years into my relationship (married for 9) i found a dildo that my wife had that is way bigger than me. It is a crushing feeling and does nothing in terms of believing her when she tells you your dick feels so good. For me, it made sex rather lackluster at times knowing that my dick hits 50% less nerve endings and fills 50% less space and can only hit 1 of the 2 spots (if shes even in the mood to be able to feel that spot), its almost an insult to be told "you feel so good", like thats what shes supposed to say. I understand though. Are her comments gunuine or is she just trying to save face and your ego at risk of loosing your income, built in baby sitter, chore doer, fix broken shit guy, and doesnt want to disapoint her family cause shit couldnt keep a stable man who has his shit together. But hell, look on the bright side, you know about theese toys relatively early in the relationship so it wont be suprize that you have to live with 11 years into it. I can tell you that had i found something like this with in the first few years of our relationship, we would have gone our separate ways. Before this dildo i felt that we were very sexually compatable. Now, im questioning that.

[jockinthebox Retired Moderator Member of the Month May 2015PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close jockinthebox]

Im right there with you in terms of having this question. 11 years into my relationship (married for 9) i found a dildo that my wife had that is way bigger than me. It is a crushing feeling and does nothing in terms of believing her when she tells you your dick feels so good. For me, it made sex rather lackluster at times knowing that my dick hits 50% less nerve endings and fills 50% less space and can only hit 1 of the 2 spots (if shes even in the mood to be able to feel that spot), its almost an insult to be told "you feel so good", like thats what shes supposed to say. I understand though. Are her comments gunuine or is she just trying to save face and your ego at risk of loosing your income, built in baby sitter, chore doer, fix broken shit guy, and doesnt want to disapoint her family cause shit couldnt keep a stable man who has his shit together. But hell, look on the bright side, you know about theese toys relatively early in the relationship so it wont be suprize that you have to live with 11 years into it. I can tell you that had i found something like this with in the first few years of our relationship, we would have gone our separate ways. Before this dildo i felt that we were very sexually compatable. Now, im questioning that.

Aw come on, dude! Get your head out of your ass! You shouldn't be givin' this guy BAD advice like that! If you bought a blow up doll to screw, would you buy the ugliest one you could find or the prettiest, with the "Magic" vibrating vagina? It's just a fawkin' toy! Dildos can't compete with a REAL LIVE DICK, regardless of size! Get over it, and learn to USE what ya GOT!

[1tufftunica Member Find all posts View Profile Close 1tufftunica]

Aw come on, dude! Get your head out of your ass! You shouldn't be givin' this guy BAD advice like that! If you bought a blow up doll to screw, would you buy the ugliest one you could find or the prettiest, with the "Magic" vibrating vagina? It's just a fawkin' toy! Dildos can't compete with a REAL LIVE DICK, regardless of size! Get over it, and learn to USE what ya GOT!

Respectfully, as someone who has faced this situation well into a life that has been built together, he needs to make a decision as to if this is something that hes comfortable with. I personal wasnt and share some of the same feelings. That being said, the "what if" and what was actually done is not a fair comparison. I never used, bought or kept any form of male toy. Why? Even though she has said she would befine with me having one, didnt and wouldnt do it out of respect for her and on the off chance that she really wouldnt be ok with it. "What if" is open ended. It sure wouldnt make my dick any smaller thus giving her less pleasure. Now conversly, she did get a dildo way bigger than my dick. You cant tell me that my dick feels the same to her now that shes had that thing in her. I can tell you that i have to work a hell of alot harder in bed now. My average size WAS probably fine (or close to) before this thing. But anymore,probably not so much which coukd explain the lack of motivation for sex on her half, cause the realthing just doesnt quite do it like it used to.

[jockinthebox Retired Moderator Member of the Month May 2015PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close jockinthebox]

Respectfully, as someone who has faced this situation well into a life that has been built together, he needs to make a decision as to if this is something that hes comfortable with. I personal wasnt and share some of the same feelings. That being said, the "what if" and what was actually done is not a fair comparison. I never used, bought or kept any form of male toy. Why? Even though she has said she would befine with me having one, didnt and wouldnt do it out of respect for her and on the off chance that she really wouldnt be ok with it. "What if" is open ended. It sure wouldnt make my dick any smaller thus giving her less pleasure. Now conversly, she did get a dildo way bigger than my dick. You cant tell me that my dick feels the same to her now that shes had that thing in her. I can tell you that i have to work a hell of alot harder in bed now. My average size WAS probably fine (or close to) before this thing. But anymore,probably not so much which coukd explain the lack of motivation for sex on her half, cause the realthing just doesnt quite do it like it used to.

So you're jealous of a lump of silicone? Your "problem" is NOT between your legs...it's between your EARS! Work on that...

[1tufftunica Member Find all posts View Profile Close 1tufftunica]

So you're jealous of a lump of silicone? Your "problem" is NOT between your legs...it's between your EARS! Work on that...

Maybe your right jock. In this guys situation, atleast theyre just datting. If she's breaking him off a peice then cool, hit it while you can! They haven't invested in anything together yet. Plus, thats what BF and GF is for, to feel eachother out before fully committing.

In my own defence, and then Jock you can have the last word; my wife packed on the wieght, let herself go and admitted it and knew it bothered me yet did NOTHING to try and fix it. That lead to me no wanting to have sex with her and she said at the time she doesnt blame me, she woukdnt want to have sex with her either if she was me. So, with the free time that she had, instead of doing something about it she bought a big ass dildo on our aniversery. Thats the problem i have, not just the size but the "fuck you" of the whole situation that this seems to be to me.

[jockinthebox Retired Moderator Member of the Month May 2015PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close jockinthebox]

See if your wife will agree to some marriage counseling, preferably one with a sexual therapy background. It might help you both sort out your issues. Sounds like you both have at least one common element you need to work on (IMO), and that's self-confidence (esteem), or the lack thereof. The right therapist will help motivate YOU to build your unit & HER to commit to losing the weight she's gained. Meanwhile, force yourselves to be more intimate and relaxed with one another while you work individually & collectively through the therapist to achieve your goals. Don't throw away a marriage over low self-esteem, be "the MAN" and do something about it! You'll BOTH be stronger for making the effort, emotionally.

[1tufftunica Member Find all posts View Profile Close 1tufftunica]

See if your wife will agree to some marriage counseling, preferably one with a sexual therapy background. It might help you both sort out your issues. Sounds like you both have at least one common element you need to work on (IMO), and that's self-confidence (esteem), or the lack thereof. The right therapist will help motivate YOU to build your unit & HER to commit to losing the weight she's gained. Meanwhile, force yourselves to be more intimate and relaxed with one another while you work individually & collectively through the therapist to achieve your goals. Don't throw away a marriage over low self-esteem, be "the MAN" and do something about it! You'll BOTH be stronger for making the effort, emotionally.

Oh man! Did you take the words right out of my mouth!!! Ive been thinking for a while now the the only reason weer still together is because of out low self esteem that we share! I had really built up some good confidence over the years, the Marine Corps helped with that but with this situation, i just lost all the progress i had made.

[amp11220 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close amp11220]

Guys,
let me just remind you babies bigger than any dicks in the world come out from that pussy, and even after that women are still able to obtain orgasms by a man's dick.

A woman's vagina is One of God's masterpieces and one of the most beautiful and resilient things in this world.

If you're too busy getting hung up over yourself you'll miss out on this gift in front of you.
Please also remember that it only takes 2 or 3 fingers to give a woman a squirting orgasm.

Be confident in yourself and enjoy.

[1tufftunica Member Find all posts View Profile Close 1tufftunica]

Guys,
let me just remind you babies bigger than any dicks in the world come out from that pussy, and even after that women are still able to obtain orgasms by a man's dick.

A woman's vagina is One of God's masterpieces and one of the most beautiful and resilient things in this world.

If you're too busy getting hung up over yourself you'll miss out on this gift in front of you.
Please also remember that it only takes 2 or 3 fingers to give a woman a squirting orgasm.

Be confident in yourself and enjoy.

Ive heard this analogy before and i think it stands to seperate respectable child birth from a big object being used for sexual gratification when your SO isnt even close to being able to match it. What kind of message does that send?

[Party Senior Member Member of the Month August 2016 Find all posts View Profile Close Party]

This thread sounds a lot like guys worrying about their ladies past lovers, only the cocks are plastic. We have many vibes, most bigger than me and she enjoys them with me at the helm. Only time her mouth drops open multiple times, her back arches is with me.

Im glad I found this thread. Because sometimes I have to reassure myself too.