So, I know it's a little late, but I lost my virginity the other night, at 23 years old. I was always nervous about it, mainly because I have psoriasis and it affected my self-esteem. Anyway, I went to a buddy's house and met a girl there. She apparently was really into me and she was even trying to get me drunk so I'd hook up with her, probably because she knew I was shy and shit. I eventually mustered up the courage to take her to the back room and we did the dirty. Apparently I'm a natural haha. I ate her out, she sucked my dick, gave me a handjob, but I had problems getting inside of her. I mean, I'm definitely not big down stairs, but I just could not get that son of a bitch in there. I mean, it would get hard, then it would go soft. Is that normal for my first time? Shit was embarrassing, but she said it was alright and shit. I mean, I was pretty goddamn drunk and I was so damn nervous, again because of the psoriasis. She didn't even mind it, and that shit shocked me. All this time I was afraid to get with a girl because of having psoriasis, and this girl didn't even fucking care. I tried to make her orgasm from eating her out, but she said that wasn't fair to me. The next morning we actually had sex. I finally got the little bastard in there, but I couldn't stay hard. She rode me for about a minute or two, but there wasn't much thrusting going on, if you know what I mean, so I kinda went soft. We just decided to try another time, hopefully this fucking weekend. Thing is, I actually really like her. I mean, I know she's my first and everything, and I don't wanna get carried away, but we really seemed to connect. We slept together and fell asleep holding hands, staring into each others eyes and all that, haha. I just don't wanna get too attached and then find out she just wants to have fun. I always thought it would change my life, but I really just feel a rollercoaster of emotions. I mean, I feel good, confident, but then again, I'm so anxious and I keep thinking of her and shit. I know a lot of guys think they're in love with their first, and I'm definitely not saying that, but goddamn I really do like her. Any advice? Also, I always thought I was a little small downstairs, but she seemed to like it. I'm 6.25 inches in length, 4.5 inches in girth. Is that a bad size?
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Originally posted by okayok View PostCould be either performance anxiety or low testosterone. I'm betting on the former. I used to have it all the time the first time with a new girl. I take Cialis when I'm nervous.
As to your dick size, it's quite fine and I seriously doubt any young woman would turn you down or see you as small. Get the little man wet as much as you can. Sex with someone who's feeling you emotionally can be so amazing. Nothing better.Nov 2016 Start
6.5 BPEL 5.5 MEG
Jan 18, 2018
7.625 BPEL 5.875 MEG
Total PE:
14 months
+1.125" length +.325" girth
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Before I render a decision I think I need to see the video.The world's still a toy if you just stay a boy!
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MilkSteak -
First, you're definitely on the above average size. Although there's some debate on "average" penis size, and it can vary by country/ethnicity/etc.... somewhere around the 5 1/2" range is typically thought of as average.
Second, your problems maintaining an erection are likely due to two factors.
1. Nerves and anxiety. You had been worrying about having sex for so long and what she would think of your psoriasis.
2. Alcohol. Even a small amount of alcohol can lower your erection quality. If you were drunk, that's definitely going to play a factor.
I seriously doubt it's low testosterone, especially since you're 23. I'm assuming you haven't had any issues with erections when masturbating, correct?
Definitely don't mess with prescription erection drugs, unless you talk with a doctor first. First, they can become a habit forming. You're 23 for God's sake - you should pretty much be a walking erection right now. :-D You don't want to rely (physically or psychologically) on drugs, especially so young. Save that for when you're older and really start to need it, due to decreased circulation. But, more importantly, these drugs can have some pretty serious side effects, so you definitely want to get cleared by a doctor before you even think of taking them... which is why it's illegal to take them without a prescription in the US.
If you have EQ problems when you masturbate, then I would definitely talk with a doctor. If not, then try to relax the next time you're with this girl. Don't think about anything else other than the moment you're in - what you're feeling, seeing, smelling, hearing - breathe.
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Lay off the heavy boozing before doing "the dirty" in the future. Alcohol is a depressant, so it can cause your "soldier to go AWOL" without notice, regardless of your physical desires. A beer or two to settle your nerves & help maintain your confidence is OK, but getting drunk before sex RARELY IF EVER LEADS TO A GOOD PERFORMANCE (in males).
Also, if you watch a lot of PORN, STOP THAT! Your generation has been raised on internet PORN, and guys your age & even younger suffer from PIED> It's an insidious hard Dick killer for millennial & younger males who indulged in PORN from the time they were 10. COLD TURKEY is the ONLY way to recover from PORN addiction. It takes time, so have some patience with yourself, too.Last edited by jockinthebox; 12-13-2017, 09:27 AM.
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I'm going with anxiety. Even after being seasoned at sex for nearly 20 years. I had similar experiences lately. I think it will pass with finding your comfort level.goal--Contentment
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Originally posted by KMWylie View Post
Definitely don't mess with prescription erection drugs, unless you talk with a doctor first. First, they can become a habit forming. You're 23 for God's sake - you should pretty much be a walking erection right now. :-D You don't want to rely (physically or psychologically) on drugs, especially so young. Save that for when you're older and really start to need it, due to decreased circulation. But, more importantly, these drugs can have some pretty serious side effects, so you definitely want to get cleared by a doctor before you even think of taking them... which is why it's illegal to take them without a prescription in the US.
Ciais helped me overcome that. I only needed it once, the first time with my gf. It helped me relax, get hard, perform and increase my confidence. Never needed it again after i broke the ice.
With that being said, I'm not a doctor and i don't suggest you take it without a prescription.
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Originally posted by dodgy View PostFirst, congratulations! Secondly, I would think your problem may have been first time jitters. You're not jerking off excessively are you? Because that could do it too.
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Originally posted by okayok View PostCould be either performance anxiety or low testosterone. I'm betting on the former. I used to have it all the time the first time with a new girl. I take Cialis when I'm nervous.
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Originally posted by KMWylie View PostMilkSteak -
First, you're definitely on the above average size. Although there's some debate on "average" penis size, and it can vary by country/ethnicity/etc.... somewhere around the 5 1/2" range is typically thought of as average.
Second, your problems maintaining an erection are likely due to two factors.
1. Nerves and anxiety. You had been worrying about having sex for so long and what she would think of your psoriasis.
2. Alcohol. Even a small amount of alcohol can lower your erection quality. If you were drunk, that's definitely going to play a factor.
I seriously doubt it's low testosterone, especially since you're 23. I'm assuming you haven't had any issues with erections when masturbating, correct?
Definitely don't mess with prescription erection drugs, unless you talk with a doctor first. First, they can become a habit forming. You're 23 for God's sake - you should pretty much be a walking erection right now. :-D You don't want to rely (physically or psychologically) on drugs, especially so young. Save that for when you're older and really start to need it, due to decreased circulation. But, more importantly, these drugs can have some pretty serious side effects, so you definitely want to get cleared by a doctor before you even think of taking them... which is why it's illegal to take them without a prescription in the US.
If you have EQ problems when you masturbate, then I would definitely talk with a doctor. If not, then try to relax the next time you're with this girl. Don't think about anything else other than the moment you're in - what you're feeling, seeing, smelling, hearing - breathe.
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Originally posted by jockinthebox View PostLay off the heavy boozing before doing "the dirty" in the future. Alcohol is a depressant, so it can cause your "soldier to go AWOL" without notice, regardless of your physical desires. A beer or two to settle your nerves & help maintain your confidence is OK, but getting drunk before sex RARELY IF EVER LEADS TO A GOOD PERFORMANCE (in males).
Also, if you watch a lot of PORN, STOP THAT! Your generation has been raised on internet PORN, and guys your age & even younger suffer from PIED> It's an insidious hard Dick killer for millennial & younger males who indulged in PORN from the time they were 10. COLD TURKEY is the ONLY way to recover from PORN addiction. It takes time, so have some patience with yourself, too.
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