Should I Break Up?

[dualdimension Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close dualdimension]

I really like my GF, love her even. But I don't know if it's the right kind of love. I find myself yearning after other women more and more. Even when I am out with my GF sometimes I have to try really hard not to stare at other girls. I am more confident now about approaching women than ever before and just want to "play the field" before I am too old. I am 34 now and still have the ability to pull hot young ladies.

I feel that there is not a huge "spark" with my gf. We get along really well and I like her but I feel there is something missing possibly. Other times I am very grateful I have her and I am in a stable relationship. I guess she is not the same when it comes to sex, I am more kinky. Also I wish she was on a similar path to me in life. I wish maybe I had a GF who was also creative and sexy and passionate. But in all honesty she ticks nearly every box.

I hope it is not simply "the grass is greener" syndrome. I know I will miss her as she is an amazing person. But there are so many women out there I know I will find someone probably better for me.

Anyone have any advice?

I feel a bit lost sometimes. And I do not want to waste time in a relationship if I feel it will never fully satisfy me. Or will no relationship fully satisfy me?

Thanks.

[closed251 Senior Member Member of the Month Nov 2016 Find all posts View Profile Close closed251]

No one can answer these things for you.

You have to make these decisions.

Why don't you flip a coin and whatever it lands on you do? Stay or leave.

If after you flip it, you really want to do best of three then you have your answer.

[dualdimension Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close dualdimension]

Aaa...

[Tamora Retired Super Moderator Member of the Month Aug 2015 PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close Tamora]

If you've felt this way for a while probably best for the both of you to move on.

I'm sure she probably senses your negative vibe.

[Cavalier Retired Super Moderator Member of the Month Feb 2015PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close Cavalier]

If you feel that you may give in to your yearning for other women then the noble thing to do is to end the relationship. It would be much less painful for her if you ended it rather than finding out you cheated on her. Don't cheat on anyone.

[Jay1983 Senior MemberMember of the Month Apr 2014, Sept 2016 Find all posts View Profile Close Jay1983]

Everybody looks, it's human nature. Those that don't look, aren't human.

Relationships take work. They take work to keep the spark alive, just like anything and everything else.

You may think finding someone new will generate the spark that you yearn for, but just like everything else, that spark will indeed fade.

You can skip through life searching for new sparks, or hey you can stick with the spark that you currently have, keeping it alive.

I myself, I like multiple sparks; I am a pyro.

[MAG5 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close MAG5]

I’ve gone through the same thing you are. And I’m still with her. For me, with how good of a person my girlfriend is and just being so well rounded, it was a tough decision (attractive, smart, athletic, doesn’t drink or party, makes over $100k, extremely nice, very good sexual compatibility, trust her 100%, will cook for me, massages when I want, will do anything for me) I was just worried that I’d be settling. She’s 5 years older than me so my constant thought was, “well why not be with a girl just as attractive or more attractive but younger” but a lot of attractive younger women are garbage these days. And eventually, the younger girls grow old too. She doesn’t really look her age either so that’s good. For me I think it was grass is greener sorta thing.

Part of your description of her makes it tough to say. Cause you list a bunch of things that could be better, such as sex, life path, creativity, sparks, but you also say she ticks nearly every cry box....

If you’ve been having this feeling for months and months, I’d say break up. If it’s recently started up then I’d give it more time and see if things change. And look to see if there’s anything you can do as well to improve this relationship. Some people get too comfortable in a stable relationship so when that initial spark and that excitement of someone new wears off, they’re too comfortable, they aren’t trying as hard, maybe the dates get less fun and exciting, etc. I’m not blaming you, I don’t know the full situation, but keep an eye on what you’re doing as well. Relationships take work. A relationship will go through different phases as it progresses.

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Excuse any misspellings or random worlds thrown in there that don’t make sense lol. On my phone and auto correct can mess me up

[KMWylie Senior MemberPEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close KMWylie]

I really like my GF, love her even. But I don't know if it's the right kind of love. I find myself yearning after other women more and more.... I know I will miss her as she is an amazing person. But there are so many women out there I know I will find someone probably better for me.

Anyone have any advice?

I feel a bit lost sometimes. And I do not want to waste time in a relationship if I feel it will never fully satisfy me. Or will no relationship fully satisfy me?

Thanks.

Dual,

First, kudos to you for recognizing that maybe you should end the relationship. I know that sounds weird, but so many people (guys and girls alike) instead of considering ending it, cheat - which is the absolute wrong path. You, at least, acknowledge that you should break up first before pursuing something new.

My advice would be for you to do two things --

1. Really do some soul searching about what you want in life. There is never going to be one perfect person. Everyone you're with will have some unticked box on your list of wants. However, there are some boxes that are really more important than others. The grass is greener syndrome is real. No relationship is always sunshine and roses and kinky sex 100% of the time. They all take work. They all have problems. Successful relationships are the ones where both parties though are 100% committed to one another. If this isn't what you want with your current GF - not only should you not be wasting your time, but you shouldn't be wasting HER time either.

2. If you think she might be the one you want to make it work with (you're 34 - you're no longer a kid and may want to think "forever" before your options become even more limited as to potential mates), talk to her about the issues that bother you, to see if maybe some of them can be worked out. The area of sexual needs may be a perfect place to start - with some sort of middle ground between your wants and her comfort level.

Whichever you decide, be 100% honest with your GF. She deserves at least that level of respect.

[closed155 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close closed155]

I cannot advise anyone, and look at me, my partner gave me my walking notice, the Bill Bailey thing, and I am still in love with her, every woman I have fucked since has been my partner to me. So, I am not a good example.

My opinion is that men, you and I, are hardwired to stray, look for cunt everywhere we go, it is our natures. Sorry girls but that is my opinion. I think you are normal in that respect. I wouldn't leave, I would try to develop friends with benefits, fuck rights as you like, just in case, the old mighty She decided to kick you out for leaving the toilet seat up one too many times.

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What does "pull hot young ladies" mean?

[MisterBator Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close MisterBator]

Sexual compatibility is a YUGE part of happiness within a relationship. I've been in a similar situation and my choice was to let her go and find someone who would be happy with the way things were in the bedroom. She was an amazing girl but I would have been extremely resentful for all the voracious sex I could be having while we were having mundane vanilla. She deserved someone who would cherish the love she could give and not become filled with rage over time because there wasn't more to offer. It was hard yes, but the best choice for both of us. I ultimately had to make the decision but I've seen her on fb much happier than she was with me. She just couldn't live up to my expectations. I never really told her the real reason for the breakup which kind of left her confused and hurt but I stand by it. I wouldn't have wanted to scar her in any way by saying she couldn't perform to my standards. They've bought a house together now and are living happily ever after. Very cute couple.

On the flip side. If she has all the qualities you seek in a woman you have to really dig deep and ask yourself if this 'dirty' side of you can be put in the trash. Literally thrown out. If not, as NSYNC would say... Bye Bye Bye!

[closed299 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close closed299]

I know how you feel as im the exact same but my reasons are purely sexual

16 years and 2 beautiful children but i crave other women. The sex is just normal, but thats the sacrifice you make for a long term relationship. Honeymoon period doesnt last forever

[NOWHARD Banned Find all posts View Profile Close NOWHARD]

I know how you feel as im the exact same but my reasons are purely sexual

16 years and 2 beautiful children but i crave other women. The sex is just normal, but thats the sacrifice you make for a long term relationship. Honeymoon period doesnt last forever

Then its time to sit down with your wife and talk about moving on your sexual side of life, oral sex, anal sex, toys, going off in the car and making love in it or in the country side open air, buy some books or mags, try Dr David Delvin's book Love Play its all about foreplay your find it cheap o ABE books.com this is really worth getting and keep at your bed side, I have one, it kind of kicks the brain back into gear, if push comes to shove ask if she would like to watch some porn? find some good amateur stuff on xhampster.

Me I've been married 47 years and still have sex, so it needs to be done and you just keep going, but think you walk out what makes you think sex is going to be better?

NOWHARD

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I really like my GF, love her even. But I don't know if it's the right kind of love. I find myself yearning after other women more and more. Even when I am out with my GF sometimes I have to try really hard not to stare at other girls. I am more confident now about approaching women than ever before and just want to "play the field" before I am too old. I am 34 now and still have the ability to pull hot young ladies.

I feel that there is not a huge "spark" with my gf. We get along really well and I like her but I feel there is something missing possibly. Other times I am very grateful I have her and I am in a stable relationship. I guess she is not the same when it comes to sex, I am more kinky. Also I wish she was on a similar path to me in life. I wish maybe I had a GF who was also creative and sexy and passionate. But in all honesty she ticks nearly every box.

I hope it is not simply "the grass is greener" syndrome. I know I will miss her as she is an amazing person. But there are so many women out there I know I will find someone probably better for me.

Anyone have any advice?

I feel a bit lost sometimes. And I do not want to waste time in a relationship if I feel it will never fully satisfy me. Or will no relationship fully satisfy me?

Thanks.

If she is amazing for you, keep her you wont find another one, in the future if you leave her you always going to think back, then it will be to late, marry her now.

NOWHARD