*How common are sexual side effects with Zoloft? Anyone have issues? Anyone NOT have issues? Please feel free to move this to appropriate location. I just really wanted this to be visible.
Hello all,
I will try to keep this short and easy. I found out 6 weeks ago that my wife has had emotional affairs (a few) online, messages, texts, photos, and phone for 2+ years. I am devastated. We have been married almost 22 years. I have only been with 2 women in my entire life. I am the only guy she has ever even kissed (I think). I found out because she was acting very differently and shutting me out for months... Finally, I checked the phone records and found a few anomalies. She would never have told me if not caught. She did a good job ending contact with him and owning her wrongs. The next few weeks brought us closer, although it took that long for the full truth to come out. Then, when our marriage counselor advised that total transparency of her whereabouts, devices, passwords, etc. would be necessary to rebuild trust... She began to shut down. We always shared everything for 20 years. I never snooped. Secrecy and password changes only became necessary once her cheating got out of hand.
She has refused to give any passwords... each time I mention it, we move closer to divorce.
She was also hiding some cash, and calling domestic abuse hotlines. I have never used a swear word at her in our entire relationship (even after the disclosure). I have never hit, kicked, grabbed, pushed, detained, restricted financial access... nothing abusive. We don't agree on some things regarding parenting (4 kids) and life in general. She tends to shut down and disregard me. Then I keep talking to get some sort of acknowlegement. If I am upset or follow her into the next room to continue a discussion... she considers it emotional abuse.
Having said all of this... I do not believe she ever slept with anyone else. I am 98% sure. These guys were thousands of miles away, and she just enjoyed the attention. They started innocently on quora.com, and then friendships got out of hand. The special trust we have had since we were basically kids has been shattered. Not sure if she is even the same person anymore. It scares the hell out of me that she had over 1,000 posts... over 3,000 followers... and had done this and lied for a couple of years... and was never going to tell. I had no idea what quora was... or that she was on it constantly. Reading her bible until late at night, then avoiding me... thinking that was the way to recover. Talking to girlfriends (mutual friends) about how bad I was. Talking to her online boyfriend about how bad I am. It's all so hard to accept from the girl I thought was the sweetest, most loyal, and most honest on earth.
I will say I handled things badly for some years... When we were homeschooling and she would disregard my opinions, I dealt with it poorly. I was critical. I did not give her the right kind of love, compliments etc. for years. There were many other life stresses involved as well. The kids became too much of a focus. Very few date nights for years....
So my counselor referred me to a psychiatrist... I have been prone to depression my entire life. But recent events have made it bad. I was prescribed a low dose of Zoloft. How common are sexual side effects with Zoloft? Anyone have issues? Anyone NOT have issues? I took my first pill this morning. I have never taken an anti-depressant before. BTW- we have ruled out ADHD, Bipolar 1&2, Hypomania, schizophrenia, and other major issues (with me).
I do PE for both myself and my partner... not because we have bedroom problems. I always put my woman first in bed. I take my time. She usually finishes twice, but our record is 5 times. I feel good about it. I kind of need the drug right now... but I cannot bear a loss of drive or function in this area. If that's the deal... I will refuse to take it and try anything else... more exercise, yoga, playing music, hanging upside down, hypnosis, whatever.... More PE?
I would really appreciate your experience or insight.
Hello all,
I will try to keep this short and easy. I found out 6 weeks ago that my wife has had emotional affairs (a few) online, messages, texts, photos, and phone for 2+ years. I am devastated. We have been married almost 22 years. I have only been with 2 women in my entire life. I am the only guy she has ever even kissed (I think). I found out because she was acting very differently and shutting me out for months... Finally, I checked the phone records and found a few anomalies. She would never have told me if not caught. She did a good job ending contact with him and owning her wrongs. The next few weeks brought us closer, although it took that long for the full truth to come out. Then, when our marriage counselor advised that total transparency of her whereabouts, devices, passwords, etc. would be necessary to rebuild trust... She began to shut down. We always shared everything for 20 years. I never snooped. Secrecy and password changes only became necessary once her cheating got out of hand.
She has refused to give any passwords... each time I mention it, we move closer to divorce.
She was also hiding some cash, and calling domestic abuse hotlines. I have never used a swear word at her in our entire relationship (even after the disclosure). I have never hit, kicked, grabbed, pushed, detained, restricted financial access... nothing abusive. We don't agree on some things regarding parenting (4 kids) and life in general. She tends to shut down and disregard me. Then I keep talking to get some sort of acknowlegement. If I am upset or follow her into the next room to continue a discussion... she considers it emotional abuse.
Having said all of this... I do not believe she ever slept with anyone else. I am 98% sure. These guys were thousands of miles away, and she just enjoyed the attention. They started innocently on quora.com, and then friendships got out of hand. The special trust we have had since we were basically kids has been shattered. Not sure if she is even the same person anymore. It scares the hell out of me that she had over 1,000 posts... over 3,000 followers... and had done this and lied for a couple of years... and was never going to tell. I had no idea what quora was... or that she was on it constantly. Reading her bible until late at night, then avoiding me... thinking that was the way to recover. Talking to girlfriends (mutual friends) about how bad I was. Talking to her online boyfriend about how bad I am. It's all so hard to accept from the girl I thought was the sweetest, most loyal, and most honest on earth.
I will say I handled things badly for some years... When we were homeschooling and she would disregard my opinions, I dealt with it poorly. I was critical. I did not give her the right kind of love, compliments etc. for years. There were many other life stresses involved as well. The kids became too much of a focus. Very few date nights for years....
So my counselor referred me to a psychiatrist... I have been prone to depression my entire life. But recent events have made it bad. I was prescribed a low dose of Zoloft. How common are sexual side effects with Zoloft? Anyone have issues? Anyone NOT have issues? I took my first pill this morning. I have never taken an anti-depressant before. BTW- we have ruled out ADHD, Bipolar 1&2, Hypomania, schizophrenia, and other major issues (with me).
I do PE for both myself and my partner... not because we have bedroom problems. I always put my woman first in bed. I take my time. She usually finishes twice, but our record is 5 times. I feel good about it. I kind of need the drug right now... but I cannot bear a loss of drive or function in this area. If that's the deal... I will refuse to take it and try anything else... more exercise, yoga, playing music, hanging upside down, hypnosis, whatever.... More PE?
I would really appreciate your experience or insight.
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