Wanted to hear you guy's view points on this.
Been with this girl a month and a half and I really like her. There have been no trust issues or other problems. It's really been great. The other night I was at the bar playing pool and chilling and she left early not feeling well. A girl that I've slept with twice before I met her wanted to go home with me. She's a really nice girl and no complaints, we causally talk on snap chat almost daily and she's a good friend. I told her that I could drop her off at her place because I needed to take my pool buddy home also. She was like, "You're not getting what I'm saying..." I ignored the comment and offered to take her home again and she went with us. Shortly after the messaged me and said, "I totally was going to go home with you." I finally said, "I know but I'm with someone else right now." She was fine with that and understood.
I really felt good about myself. It's the first time I've ever turned down an opportunity and I proved to myself my commitment to the person I'm with. Now I'm contemplating whether or not to tell her about what happened. Part of me wants to just to show her my level of commitment and strengthen trust. I did the right thing, after all. But another part of me worries if this will somehow back fire.
First, I've never told her that I've slept with this girl (I don't think it's good to share past women, it's in the past anyways). Second, she knows that me and her are friends and snap chat. I know I can handle myself and not cross any lines and I'd hate to risk tension over the friendship. Now my girl is very cool about things and has said multiple times that having fun at the bar is fine, just know who you come home to. Basically have fun just don't screw.
I personally am leaning to just not say anything, no need to toot my horn to her. After all, it's a matter of integrity, not character. What do you guys think? What would you do?
Been with this girl a month and a half and I really like her. There have been no trust issues or other problems. It's really been great. The other night I was at the bar playing pool and chilling and she left early not feeling well. A girl that I've slept with twice before I met her wanted to go home with me. She's a really nice girl and no complaints, we causally talk on snap chat almost daily and she's a good friend. I told her that I could drop her off at her place because I needed to take my pool buddy home also. She was like, "You're not getting what I'm saying..." I ignored the comment and offered to take her home again and she went with us. Shortly after the messaged me and said, "I totally was going to go home with you." I finally said, "I know but I'm with someone else right now." She was fine with that and understood.
I really felt good about myself. It's the first time I've ever turned down an opportunity and I proved to myself my commitment to the person I'm with. Now I'm contemplating whether or not to tell her about what happened. Part of me wants to just to show her my level of commitment and strengthen trust. I did the right thing, after all. But another part of me worries if this will somehow back fire.
First, I've never told her that I've slept with this girl (I don't think it's good to share past women, it's in the past anyways). Second, she knows that me and her are friends and snap chat. I know I can handle myself and not cross any lines and I'd hate to risk tension over the friendship. Now my girl is very cool about things and has said multiple times that having fun at the bar is fine, just know who you come home to. Basically have fun just don't screw.
I personally am leaning to just not say anything, no need to toot my horn to her. After all, it's a matter of integrity, not character. What do you guys think? What would you do?
Comment