Bit dissapointed about the importance of LOOKS, I`m absolutely intrigued /brotalk

[Davis Carter]

Davis Carter, I'm going to be brutally honest.

I started loosing my hair at 16. Yes you read that right. I'm also 175cm's short.

Girls/Young women (below age 30) - it's probably 90-95% looks and if you're bald/balding, obese, short, intellectually awkward, then find yourself at the back of the bus. Of the women that marry for looks, I'll say 75% are either divorced, separated, or have horrible relationships. Which leads me to the next group.

Women 30+ have "been there; done that; have the membership card". They know it's not at all about looks and many are jealous of their friends that have positive relationships based on more than looks. This group will be looking for chemistry and emotional connections.

Now the bad news:

1. There will NEVER be a cure for baldness. NEVER. Why? It's not in anyone's interest to cure this condition, as its a multi-billion dollar industry. Big pharma makes billions of billions flogging Propecia and Menoxidil. If someone came up with a cure, then that's multi-billions not going to big pharma. Big pharma has buried research that I'm aware of on numerous physical disorders as they only want to treat the symptoms as there's no money for them in a cure. I'm personally aware of big pharma killing a cure for several cancers as I'm close friends with the geneticists. I honestly wonder why the public hasn't gotten so fed up with the big pharma industry that terrorist groups don't take them out. They're 1000x worse than bad governments and religion.

2. Being a bald man in the workforce is the equivalent of being an overweight ugly woman. People will pass you over for the pretty boy time and again. You'll have to work twice as hard to prove yourself. The pretty boy can just be a dog fucker and get away with it all based on looks. There's also a huge double standard - a guy gets fired for having a swimsuit calendar at his desk, but women can have half naked fireman calendars. Women will gawk and stare at the pretty boy as meat, but if you look at a woman, you're fucked. Society has gotten so warped.

3. All your life you will look at people talking to you and they'll keep looking up at your baldness. This is the same effect as you looking at a woman's breasts while she's talking to you. Again you'd be fired or slapped, but it's totally acceptable for people to do this to bald guys.

4. Your close sets friends and family will make fun of your baldness. There's nowhere to hide. I'd tell you some suicide stats related to baldness and the ridicule men suffer, but I don't want to depress you more.

Just remember, it's not OK to make fun of women and not ok to make fun of someone with a medical condition, and it's not ok to make fun of someone because of their skin colour, but if you're bald it's game on for everyone to poke fun of you.

Now the good news:

1. The best way to deal with baldness is to be confident. Work on being confident in and out of the bedroom. I found my 'skills' in the bedroom spoke for themselves, as I overheard women talking about me after a woman I was with was gossiping about me being the best ever and having mind blowing orgasims.

2. Get a sense of humour. I learned that if I could make fun of my own baldness and be the first person to do so, nobody else could really say much.

3. If it's not baldness, it'll be another challenge life throws you. It's how you deal with the lot you were dealt that makes the difference. Being able to overcome this challenge (and it's a lifelong one), will better prepare for future challenges down the road.

Thanks brother.

The first honest male advice here, this is what I was looking for. Someone with guts.

I knew it it's all looks, I don't understand how people still can`t admit it. "OH NAH IT S YOUR PERSONALITY, IT'S YOUR CHARISMA" SHUT UP. It's all about looks in this society and feminism destroyed it. People are turned upside down and girls are getting "boyfriends" from dating websites and dumping someone for any reason. This was never before. It is insane. I see good looking guys getting refused for various silly reasons.

And regarding big pharma, I know and I knew all of this. Any intelligent person with iq above 110 knows it. That we are being treated like sheep and that medicine is mostly a joke. Finasteride ? oh keep your hair but bye dick. Antidepressants ? same. Roaccutane ? same. Of course modern day medicine is designed to do this. So far for baldness we can get hair transplants but ! they are temporary as the rest of hair falls out. I don`t know man.

I just can't get how everything changed for me from balding, absolutely insane.

[Davis Carter]

With a mere 50 years on the planet this is my understanding:
If you put out negative - I'm not attractive attitude - it is what you get back in spades.
If you put out positive - I am engaging, understand rapport (IN DETAIL) - get every thing they want back.
-- engage and win / put off and lose - simple as that.

question: Would you go into the perfect job interview without studying the top 20 questions.
Practice the answers outloud until you have a smooth delivery to stop the umms/ahhhs/rambling on.
Would you not dress up and engage / build a rapport with the hiring manager.. boss.
---whats the difference in meeting a woman?
Leaning in, mimicking the style, actual interest in what is being said.
Stopping 80percent of your 'stories' and dig deeper into hers..
etc. etc. etc..
research young man.. its your friend.
The more you talk back, the less you are actually investing in yourself.

Tell you what. You talk about body language and what you express / show. But I trained my confidence after balding to get that hardcore attitude. Nothing changed. NOTHING. Absolutely nothing. When I was shy and insecure and full of hair, I GOT THEM GIRLS.

Sorry but it's all bs, women jump into the good looking dude no matter what einstein don juan tricks you do.

[TheZZMan]

Hey Davis - Stop shitting on members offering advice. And why you are at it, stop giving us the woe about loosing your hair. Many of us have experienced it, many are going through hair loss and like myself, chose to take the bull by the horn and do something about it. 6 years ago, I got tired of my receding hair and chose to shave my head as a result. Nothing but confidence since. I also at the same time chose to grow a beard - a look that is currently in fashion. Yes, some can rock it and some not so, but stop your whining about how life has given you a short hand. Learn from it, deal with it, figure out what next move and go on. But what I won't stand for is you bashing other members for their suggestions.

So, as a warning, please stop bad mouthing others comments. Try to see the positives in their messages and try to start a conversation with others rather than your one sided trash talk of others trying to help. I remind you that everyone here is a volunteer, the advice is offered to help - time you started to appreciate that others have actually take their own time to respond to your rather personal and petty rants. Show your maturity please, we are a respectful forum and anyone offering advice deserves that respect in return.

[newbeginning]

media plays a big part in what we find attractive. We as men have a tendancy to have our taste in women and vice-versa. You said you were getting women at 165cm tall, which is according to charts way below women's preference, but you proved that wrong. Being bald is also not found to be attractive to some women, let alone a guy opposite me on my road has stunning women monthly and he's bald. He's proved them wrong. I don't know how women work. They have their taste, but what's the chances of them meeting a lean muscular 6 foot guy who still has all his hair and doesn't have any grey hair by the age of 30? They have to lower their standards the way we do, and also a women can't help who she falls in love with as it's a chemical reaction to the brain.

[Johnny D]

I ask again. How can you say that "my looks ain't the issue" , since when my looks changed, I could not get dates anymore ?

Please explain me, how ain`t this the issue.

Well... When I was your age - literally, exactly at the age you are now - I shaved my head completely. I wore it shaved bald for about 5 years and experienced no decline in attention from women (or from men, for that matter) and, from all the evidence around me, seemed to have very strong sex appeal. I'm 5'-9, 160 lb so not exactly a towering hunk of a god, either.

So you tell us... How is it that when my looks changed it had no effect on my ability to attract women but somehow for you it's the single culprit?

BTW... Your idea of "honest advice" is from the one guy who agrees with you. Confirmation bias, much?

[Ethanjed23]

If all your wanting is anonymous partners and hookups,shave it slick,start dressing different, save up for a Camaro or some shit,but an expensive watch you dont need

[UglyBoy]

What the fuck is going on here?

This is a dick growing website, imagine if you had spent all the time you used to type up useless ranting, making your dick a bit bigger instead.

Trust me, it's what you should have done, I've been there, seriously.

[CrouchetyOldMan]

Tell you what. You talk about body language and what you express / show. But I trained my confidence after balding to get that hardcore attitude. Nothing changed. NOTHING. Absolutely nothing. When I was shy and insecure and full of hair, I GOT THEM GIRLS.

Sorry but it's all bs, women jump into the good looking dude no matter what einstein don juan tricks you do.

You're talking about "girls", I'm talking about women.
Once you start looking over the age of 17... the answers you received make more sense

[CUSP82]

Son you are so far out of reality and into your own reality it's scary. Oh when I was young and had hair I had girls. Yup they were just girls. You see time went by and they matured; no more little kiddie games.They're looking for men and nice responsible ones at that. Your mind is still back in high school.

Now you may think you're the nicest guy on the planet and you may very well be but you don't come off like that. In reading your responses to guys that have tried to help you really come of like a jerk. Hey you may not be a jerk but you come off like that. Maybe they see the same thing that I'm reading here. Time to be honest with yourself and maybe change a bit.

[CptnD]

Hey Davis - Stop shitting on members offering advice. And why you are at it, stop giving us the woe about loosing your hair.

Seriously man....put on a damn hat and fake it til you make it. I was popular in high school, played sports until the end, threw countless parties, stayed shredded, and was short. I made it work though, and you know what? Nothing comes easy in life. I still hooked up with girls a foot taller than me because I had confidence and was fun to be around. If you want something, take it. Work your ass off to make it happen. You're sick man; you've got what's called Excuse-itis. Stop making excuses and start coming up with solutions. Don't talk shi* about women either. Feminism is evolution. If you don't move with the times, the times are gonna leave your as* behind. If you want proof, here it is; History repeats itself. Go get a book and start reading. From Adam and Eve to the Dark Ages to Christopher Columbus all the way to Rock N' Roll. Survival of the fittest. Evolve and adapt, accept what is, and it will make you a better person. I promise you will see the world differently in a more positive light if you embrace it. Because remember, you will be left behind if you don't. No choice, just action, do it and stop bloody whimpering!