Why do people rebuke face to face and go right to social media?

[TheZZMan Moderator Member of the Month Sept 2018PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close TheZZMan]

There has been such a cultural shift that today's singles are no longer making attempts to meet others through normal face to face encounters. Instead, they are relying on social media, the written word (which can be interpreted multiple ways) and have taken to putting up a false front in an attempt to win over the opposite sex. You guys have created your own problem, by giving complete control over who dates you over to the women who simply can ignore and move on. So much tougher to reject someone in person, but you guys seem happy to get slapped around on apps all day long. The more you fail, the more desperate you seem to be and most likely come across like that.

Should there be a movement to squash social media, take texting to a minimum, actually use your phone to call and talk to someone, etc. I see it all the time, people driving and can't put their f*cking phones down. Who the heck is that important that you can't wait the 15 minutes till you get to your destination before answering. I call them out all the time for their poor driving, I say before I even pass - "Get off your Damn Phone" and as I pass, sure enough, they are texting while driving.

Is your self worth based on how quickly we respond to a message. Have we forgotten how to write a letter, make a phone call and talk to someone face to face? If I was back on the market, I would try everything to stand out as different and not follow these current practices. But that is just me.

[Pegasus AdministratorPE Gym EditorPEGym Hero ☺ Admin of the Month Mar 2015 Find all posts View Profile Close Pegasus]

MY experience and that of many other guys of the now mature generation was that women had no trouble at all rejecting us face to face . i seem to remember a lot of false fronts back in the day also.

Well the rest of it I see the point . Mind you phone while driving is illegal here.

[stang.jack Member Find all posts View Profile Close stang.jack]

Vehicles? Those arent vehicles, they are mobile phone boths.
Uh..... whats a phone both?

[CUSP82 Administrator Admin of the Month Dec 2014PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close CUSP82]

There has been such a cultural shift that today's singles are no longer making attempts to meet others through normal face to face encounters. Instead, they are relying on social media, the written word (which can be interpreted multiple ways) and have taken to putting up a false front in an attempt to win over the opposite sex. You guys have created your own problem, by giving complete control over who dates you over to the women who simply can ignore and move on. So much tougher to reject someone in person, but you guys seem happy to get slapped around on apps all day long. The more you fail, the more desperate you seem to be and most likely come across like that.

Should there be a movement to squash social media, take texting to a minimum, actually use your phone to call and talk to someone, etc. I see it all the time, people driving and can't put their f*cking phones down. Who the heck is that important that you can't wait the 15 minutes till you get to your destination before answering. I call them out all the time for their poor driving, I say before I even pass - "Get off your Damn Phone" and as I pass, sure enough, they are texting while driving.

Is your self worth based on how quickly we respond to a message. Have we forgotten how to write a letter, make a phone call and talk to someone face to face? If I was back on the market, I would try everything to stand out as different and not follow these current practices. But that is just me.

You should be burned at the stake for even writing this.

[Swimbarracuda Senior Member Member of the Month Dec 2018 Find all posts View Profile Close Swimbarracuda]

Great post! I agree. I live in a small town and also in a more conservative area of the state. Its more difficult for me to date other guys here because of that. I'm tired of all the damn apps and games that people play all the time. It's so silly. Trying to date through mobile apps is super discouraging and sometimes there's people on there that are just looking for "fun" or ego boosts.

I'm moving to a bigger and more liberal area where it will be WAY easier to date guys and there's just a ton more to do. Dating is actually one of the many reasons (but not the main one) why I would like to move down there. It seems so much more natural to meet someone in person, ask them if they wanna hang out, go get something to eat sometime, grab coffee, etc. vs. swiping right or left on a stupid phone, messaging the person and hoping you just might get something back. You absolutely cannot get to know someone through instant messaging and a few photos.

[Jay1983 Senior MemberMember of the Month Apr 2014, Sept 2016 Find all posts View Profile Close Jay1983]

Social media sucks.

And they wonder why I don't socialise.

[TheZZMan Moderator Member of the Month Sept 2018PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close TheZZMan]

Great post! I agree. I live in a small town and also in a more conservative area of the state. Its more difficult for me to date other guys here because of that. I'm tired of all the damn apps and games that people play all the time. It's so silly. Trying to date through mobile apps is super discouraging and sometimes there's people on there that are just looking for "fun" or ego boosts.

I'm moving to a bigger and more liberal area where it will be WAY easier to date guys and there's just a ton more to do. Dating is actually one of the many reasons (but not the main one) why I would like to move down there. It seems so much more natural to meet someone in person, ask them if they wanna hang out, go get something to eat sometime, grab coffee, etc. vs. swiping right or left on a stupid phone, messaging the person and hoping you just might get something back. You absolutely cannot get to know someone through instant messaging and a few photos.

My point exactly Barracuda. Seems like the plebs have decided that if one person is using an app, then everyone should. The girls, my god, why bother when you have a gaggle of guys busting down their doorstep to get an opportunity to meet them. What a total ego stroke for the ladies - sit back, do nothing, and they will come. Doesn't build strong social skills on either end of the app.

So, a challenge so to speak... Wouldn't any one of you guys consider it a total conquest of you landed a gal without the use of social media in any way? This goes to my primal instinct that most of the fun is in the hunt for your quest. Matching with a 1000 girls in the hopes of tagging one is not much of a hunt.

[Pegasus AdministratorPE Gym EditorPEGym Hero ☺ Admin of the Month Mar 2015 Find all posts View Profile Close Pegasus]

Hmm the hunt I don't think that is a good argument at all . For 2 reasons guys who use that terminology usually have a tendancy to use methods of hunting i find morally objectionable and second making something harder for it;s own sake does not appeal to many.

[BigRooster Senior Member Member of the Month Apr 2018PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close BigRooster]

About cell phones and driving.

Sat in traffic for about 45 minutes yesterday. East and West bound lanes closed due to an accident on a four lane highway. Well as soon as traffic started to roll. A woman next to me in an SUV is on her phone texting and coming into my lane. I hit the air horn, startle her then I see the middle finger in my mirror.

Stupid woman! There was just an accident and the state police are still hanging around. How would it look if there was another accident because you were texting while driving?

[TheZZMan Moderator Member of the Month Sept 2018PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close TheZZMan]

Hmm the hunt I don't think that is a good argument at all . For 2 reasons guys who use that terminology usually have a tendancy to use methods of hunting i find morally objectionable and second making something harder for it;s own sake does not appeal to many.

Peg, you took my meaning of the word "hunt" in the wrong context. I simply meant that perusing a girl without help, getting her attention and then beginning a conversation that could lead to something further. This goes back to 1987, but my wife thought that something was wrong with her when I didn't make an advance on the first date. Turns out, I'm a gentlemen, and I waited until we had a second date. All things being equal, I think I forged a stronger bond early on than any of these rubes who rely on social media for a date.

[closed251 Senior Member Member of the Month Nov 2016 Find all posts View Profile Close closed251]

I would never go on a dating app. I would be too worried who I would meet.

Ive always dated men that someone in my circle (friends, work colleagues etc) knew well.

[Cavalier Retired Super Moderator Member of the Month Feb 2015PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close Cavalier]

I'm old school and quite frankly found my soulmate back in high school so all of this is very foreign to me. However from my daughters standpoint I would like to add my 2 cents. She has had terrible luck with guys guys and most of them I didn't like from the beginning(yeah...it's a Dad thing). In her early 30's she was about to give up hope but thought she would try something different. She certainly din't want to put herself out there on tinder, or other similar sites, to throw herself out there to every guy that would like to get into her pants. She tried match.com and it ended up the best thing that ever happened to her. The first guy that contacted her took it slow and they just hung out over coffee or dinner in the beginning but they soon realized that they had a lot in common and the relationship began to grow. Fast forward...it's been 6 years, he's the best thing that ever happened to her, they have brought us an new grand daughter(who has been spending the day with us as I'm typing this) and I'm proud to have him as a member of our family. Some of this social meet up crap is just that and it's all superficial and impersonal in my mind. On the other hand there are sites where you can find a true relationship with the right person for you.

[Pegasus AdministratorPE Gym EditorPEGym Hero ☺ Admin of the Month Mar 2015 Find all posts View Profile Close Pegasus]

I'm old school and quite frankly found my soulmate back in high school so all of this is very foreign to me. However from my daughters standpoint I would like to add my 2 cents. She has had terrible luck with guys guys and most of them I didn't like from the beginning(yeah...it's a Dad thing). In her early 30's she was about to give up hope but thought she would try something different. She certainly din't want to put herself out there on tinder, or other similar sites, to throw herself out there to every guy that would like to get into her pants. She tried match.com and it ended up the best thing that ever happened to her. The first guy that contacted her took it slow and they just hung out over coffee or dinner in the beginning but they soon realized that they had a lot in common and the relationship began to grow. Fast forward...it's been 6 years, he's the best thing that ever happened to her, they have brought us an new grand daughter(who has been spending the day with us as I'm typing this) and I'm proud to have him as a member of our family. Some of this social meet up crap is just that and it's all superficial and impersonal in my mind. On the other hand there are sites where you can find a true relationship with the right person for you.

My wife and i met on rsvp.

[kickinthemebs Senior Member Member of the Month Feb 2014 Find all posts View Profile Close kickinthemebs]

Yeah,I take your point ZZMan and agree with you. I met two girlfriends from online dating, but have also went on a lot of dates from online apps. It's a pretty cringey experience. It's the same as most things nowadays though, and people try to look for the most convenient and easiest option, and in this case it's swiping to find your partner while you're on the can at 7 in the morning (crewd image to reflect the real life weirdness of it). If I'm single again in the future, I'd like to say I won't go on them again, but I doubt I could keep that promise...

I also agree with Peg's point of women having no difficulty with rejecting guys to their faces.

[Norwaydude Senior Member Member of the Month Oct. 2018 Find all posts View Profile Close Norwaydude]

Im doing both, met my ex on tinder. And my current date(s) in real life. Both works fine but i usually Get better looking girls in real life, where i can display my devilish irresistable charm! 😜