Wifes past

[Thickone99]

Hi guys I am new here. Been looking for a place to talk to people about this. Here goes. So my wife and I have been married for 21 years together 25. Before we got married we told each other about our past sex experiences. To me I just needed to know. She told me there was 7 guys and I was bigger soft then any of them were hard. Said I was way longer and thicker then any of them. Almost a year ago we were laying in bed and I asked are you sure there was no one else. I always though she slept with this one guy she told me she didn’t. Well she told me now that she slept with him. She said she didn’t consider it sex because he kept falling out as he was so small. So I said okay so their still all smaller then me when I’m soft. Here’s where it changes. She says yes except one. I was kinda of confused. I said one why. She said it hurt he was big. I said bigger then my size soft she said yes. I said was he actually bigger then me she said yes I think so he was really fat. This really pushed me off as she has lied to me our whole life. I asked why she never told me and she said she forgot. Bullshit. She slept with him two months before we met. This has been bothering me ever since. She use to tell me in bed I was her biggest and so on. Now I find out she even lied during sex. I’m having a really hard time with this. Anyone else ever experience anything like this.

[Ultimate Burrito]

I'm just gonna go right out and say that you brought this on yourself. Why was it so important to know that? She could have said that on purpose or maybe she was protecting you the whole time. Now you gotta suck it up and keep on going. Don't let something that might have happened in the past ruin everything for you now. Don't pout or display your insecurities, you got what you were asking for on this one, now handle it like a man and stop asking her questions about who's the biggest. It's not attractive to the ladies anyways. Questions like that can ruin marriages. Dude it happened 20 years ago if I read your story right. The past should stay in the past.

[Dangler]

Hi there Thickone99,


Surprisingly, we see this type of thing, were party A wants to compare himself to party B, while I'm no head specialist, I'll spill a few thoughts with you.

Some things in memory, are best left there, and if revisited, simply laugh a bit, and put them back into 'deep freeze storage'. If you that obsessed with them, share or explain them to another or seek counseling. You just don't want to be pestered by them.

Self doubts/insecurities, can pop up under different disguises, and can effect your life, and for some, their Erection Quality.

If your partners not complaining, your relationship is solid, give yourself a 'good job' pat on the back !

Hey, whats for lunch ?

[CUSP82]

We all get wings but the OP gets a beating!

[Trapezius]

I have had something like that bothering my mind badly. No one can remember some exact dick size from quarter century apart and she does not think about other men and their dicks god damn quarter century ago.

Nothing has changed. It is your ego fucking with you and you are feeling miserable for nothing. Been there done that for 3 fucking years! Just stop that. I have stopped it and could not care less.

[Dangler]

Sharing about it in the forum, can be helpful.
Ego caused problems , fear being discovered.

[tank0909]

"...This really pushed me off as she has lied to me our whole life..."

Think of it this way... she didn't lie to you your whole lives. She said one thing that wasn't true a long time ago, and never thought of it again... because she isn't thinking about those other guys - she's thinking about you. When you brought it up again, all this time later, she didn't hide anything from you. She gave you candid answers to the questions you asked. Women know that size, in the eyes of most guys, equates to how much of a man they are and all that crap. Maybe she wanted to prevent this exact thing happening back then... and you both would have missed out on those 25 years together due to an insecurity. Not to bash you: you need to realize that this sort of thing is a self-destructive act. Communicate with her (and control your emotions while you do) how it upsets you that she lied to you back then, listen to her response, and believe it. Find a way to get this resolved and move on so you can enjoy the next 25 years together.

By they way, welcome to the forum!

[TeoDeles]

I never asked but she told me

You are the best sex of my life. My ex shucked in sex and I was avoiding it but he had a fat dick.
After some months of jelqing....
Oh my God It doesn't fit in my mouth anymore and my mouth joints are getting tired when I lick you.
Really? You said you had a fat dick before
Yes but not so fat!

End of story.

[Thickone99]

Thanks for the replies

[Pegasus]

Hi guys I am new here. Been looking for a place to talk to people about this. Here goes. So my wife and I have been married for 21 years together 25. Before we got married we told each other about our past sex experiences. To me I just needed to know. She told me there was 7 guys and I was bigger soft then any of them were hard. Said I was way longer and thicker then any of them. Almost a year ago we were laying in bed and I asked are you sure there was no one else. I always though she slept with this one guy she told me she didn’t. Well she told me now that she slept with him. She said she didn’t consider it sex because he kept falling out as he was so small. So I said okay so their still all smaller then me when I’m soft. Here’s where it changes. She says yes except one. I was kinda of confused. I said one why. She said it hurt he was big. I said bigger then my size soft she said yes. I said was he actually bigger then me she said yes I think so he was really fat. This really pushed me off as she has lied to me our whole life. I asked why she never told me and she said she forgot. Bullshit. She slept with him two months before we met. This has been bothering me ever since. She use to tell me in bed I was her biggest and so on. Now I find out she even lied during sex. I’m having a really hard time with this. Anyone else ever experience anything like this.

Women lie about sex related stuff all the time you can never be sure you are geting an authentic experience .