Being Hot isn't enough? Your thoughts...

**Ultimate Burrito** · 05-12-2020

Originally Posted by madyogi

Great analogy. We recently had a Blue Apron meal, some kind of "barley bowl" with kale and mushrooms. I'm typically not a big gnarly mushroom fan, and the thing looked like a mess, but OMG it tasted fantastic. We definitely kept that recipe for future reference.

Another question for you, Burrito ... Have you ever had a girl ask you if you could teach their new b/f how to do these "exercises of yours"?

Actually I have! I referred them to this website, give the name of a few routines and showed my equipment. They were particularly fascinated with the penis extender. One of them was married, hubby gave permission for her to have fun, and they ended up getting an extender. One other person told current bf about it all and he got an extender as well. Not sure if any of the guys joined the gym here but I'm sure several have at least checked it out.

I've found that if you give them mind blowing sex and they are still in the, "OMG that was amazing" state of mind, it's really easy to talk about PE. I usually start off with, "You know, I used to be much smaller..." They usually go, "Wait.. What!? Explain!" with a look of curiosity on their face. The rest is easy from there.

**Party** · 05-12-2020

Originally Posted by Ultimate Burrito

Actually I have! I referred them to this website, give the name of a few routines and showed my equipment. They were particularly fascinated with the penis extender. One of them was married, hubby gave permission for her to have fun, and they ended up getting an extender. One other person told current bf about it all and he got an extender as well. Not sure if any of the guys joined the gym here but I'm sure several have at least checked it out.

I've found that if you give them mind blowing sex and they are still in the, "OMG that was amazing" state of mind, it's really easy to talk about PE. I usually start off with, "You know, I used to be much smaller..." They usually go, "Wait.. What!? Explain!" with a look of curiosity on their face. The rest is easy from there.

LOL, I’ve had this conversation afewtimes myself, not for the reason you have, unfortunately. But just dick conversations after a couple beers loosen our tongues. I wouldn’t doubt my Son is a member, or at least lurks. He’s naturally about your size Burrito, having walked in on him jerking off two handed with dick to spare. Don’t know how he wouldn’t know about PE when he was living with us, I did not hide anything. My pumps left around the house, Phallosan too, as well as our many vibraters on chargers. Now that we are empty nesters, only gotten worse. Yesterday his girl stopped by and we chatted awhile with my pumps and vibes in plain view. I of course didn’t even think about it, and didn’t understand why she was uneasy at first. The initial shock wore off I guess and we had a nice two hour visit.

**PEispossible** · 05-12-2020

how do you feel about texting potential fwb?

do you get to know them via a good amount of texts before meeting up ?

what about an ex you were committed to, have you ever hooked up with them a time or two or even a regular fwb?

after you hook up do you think its okay to text back and forth during the day for a while or keep it short and sweet, and text them

when its time to make plans?

theres so many rules I see online with fwb and I understand if you have no committed relationship or want one, or looking, its so

much better than nothing obviously

do you think sowing these wild oats now will effect your relationship in the future if you want to stay committed and theres a fight?

When I m comiited sure i see hot girls and want to have sex with them and I turn that part of my brain off and acknowledge it, and relize that if i dont want to see her getting fucked , I dont want to be fucking another. Sometimes it doesn't work that way because sometimes clues make me think a couple of my exes cheated, including this last one, as it comes down to habits, people revert back to their old habits unthinkingly I think, so i wonder if you can stay faithful if you decide one day to be committed

**VirgilD5to6** · 05-15-2020

I've seen this thread went beyond the topic. I'd rather if you don't praise yourself having girls and f buddies and fwb, comparing sizes etc.
My guess is you are american. I am not "racist" and have nothing against you, but everyone is different and it depends on the environment where you at. I've seen that in the US it is wild and lots of girls had big ones and are size queens, but here in Europe I still haven't seen that. I been always asking girls, and being open-minded if for them size matters - 9 times out of 10 it was a NO, even for hook ups or fwb - every girl doesn't look the same thing in a hookup , as you said "big dick and long lasting". I am speaking of experience, and in my case FWBs and hooking up is to release pressure, to have fun and explore (the guy MUST be fun and dominant) - where feelings don't really matter.
I've had hookups and fwbs, even with my small pp size and the preE. I am hot in a way, and a nice person so, to share my thoughts about the real topic here, being hot has different implication on women. Just by going out and being a "jerk" not trying to have a good conversation and being social, won't get you nowhere.
I am impressed by the Mystery Method - the real way how to build connections, and not just being a normal PUA like others.
The obvious answer will be NO, being hot is not enough.
HOT + caring + sweet + understandable + confident + openminded = the real deal. -which is like 10% of the hot guys , no disrespect.

Again, these opinions is from my perspective since I am in Europe, and haven't really met many size queens who crave for big dicks. Those opt for the black guys always.
Cheers.

**PEispossible** · 05-17-2020

Originally Posted by VirgilD5to6

I've seen this thread went beyond the topic. I'd rather if you don't praise yourself having girls and f buddies and fwb, comparing sizes etc.
My guess is you are american. I am not "racist" and have nothing against you, but everyone is different and it depends on the environment where you at. I've seen that in the US it is wild and lots of girls had big ones and are size queens, but here in Europe I still haven't seen that. I been always asking girls, and being open-minded if for them size matters - 9 times out of 10 it was a NO, even for hook ups or fwb - every girl doesn't look the same thing in a hookup , as you said "big dick and long lasting". I am speaking of experience, and in my case FWBs and hooking up is to release pressure, to have fun and explore (the guy MUST be fun and dominant) - where feelings don't really matter.
I've had hookups and fwbs, even with my small pp size and the preE. I am hot in a way, and a nice person so, to share my thoughts about the real topic here, being hot has different implication on women. Just by going out and being a "jerk" not trying to have a good conversation and being social, won't get you nowhere.
I am impressed by the Mystery Method - the real way how to build connections, and not just being a normal PUA like others.
The obvious answer will be NO, being hot is not enough.
HOT + caring + sweet + understandable + confident + openminded = the real deal. -which is like 10% of the hot guys , no disrespect.

Again, these opinions is from my perspective since I am in Europe, and haven't really met many size queens who crave for big dicks. Those opt for the black guys always.
Cheers.

I saw this the other day and found it interesting, talking about pickup, its really no different than going out socially ,going up to a girl youre interested in and talking to her. This guy has a video I agree with , except he says do it while your young. Theres been times I was in a long relationship and of course I saw hot girls and wanted to have sex with them, but ex of mine and I were committed , I wasnt comfortable with her getting dick elsewhere so I wasnt going to get pussy elsewhere

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zkdGsOKaDY4&t=928s

I recently broke up with an ex, and took her picture off facebook and this previous ex hit me up and has been texting me. Anyways, what I disagree with is this dating, for lack of a better term, lets call it fwb for now, datings like doing stuff together, like going out to eat or a bike ride, and in the middle of fwb and a relationship, but fwb or dating , hanging out with multiple girls, is fine anytime in your life, not just in your twenties like more plates more dates mentions. I think anytime youre single its a good time for this; provided that youre over the breakup, giving you some time to heal

Lets be honest , girls do like a penis that can give them greater pleasure. For the most part a girl would prefer a 7.5 in length and a 5.5 in girth than a 5.5 length and 5 inch girth, unless she has a small vagina and it hurts her

There was a study in England if I remember right where men stayed with the same partner over a year or so and enlarged their penis. They questionaired the females, and females said size didnt matter. The men gained I forget like half an inch or maybe an inch and the girls were given another questionair and they reported feeling better, and closer to their lovers, due to more intense sex. I forget the name of the study, maybe some can link it, this study was done in the seventies and was the first penis enlargement study ive heard of

I dont think penis size is everything by any means, with success with women. Like looks it does matter, and of course many other factors play into it, like how well your seem to be accepted by your peers socially, your ability to be a cool, chill guy, validation from others, women care far more socially whats going on then men. This is for social game , when you go out

for guys using online dating or social media to talk with girls, to text some of this doesn't apply but id say looks matter more meeting girls from your phone, and the video mentions that guys who have this do well

**VirgilD5to6** · 05-17-2020

Originally Posted by PEispossible

I saw this the other day and found it interesting, talking about pickup, its really no different than going out socially ,going up to a girl youre interested in and talking to her. This guy has a video I agree with , except he says do it while your young. Theres been times I was in a long relationship and of course I saw hot girls and wanted to have sex with them, but ex of mine and I were committed , I wasnt comfortable with her getting dick elsewhere so I wasnt going to get pussy elsewhere

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zkdGsOKaDY4&t=928s

I recently broke up with an ex, and took her picture off facebook and this previous ex hit me up and has been texting me. Anyways, what I disagree with is this dating, for lack of a better term, lets call it fwb for now, datings like doing stuff together, like going out to eat or a bike ride, and in the middle of fwb and a relationship, but fwb or dating , hanging out with multiple girls, is fine anytime in your life, not just in your twenties like more plates more dates mentions. I think anytime youre single its a good time for this; provided that youre over the breakup, giving you some time to heal

Lets be honest , girls do like a penis that can give them greater pleasure. For the most part a girl would prefer a 7.5 in length and a 5.5 in girth than a 5.5 length and 5 inch girth, unless she has a small vagina and it hurts her

There was a study in England if I remember right where men stayed with the same partner over a year or so and enlarged their penis. They questionaired the females, and females said size didnt matter. The men gained I forget like half an inch or maybe an inch and the girls were given another questionair and they reported feeling better, and closer to their lovers, due to more intense sex. I forget the name of the study, maybe some can link it, this study was done in the seventies and was the first penis enlargement study ive heard of

I dont think penis size is everything by any means, with success with women. Like looks it does matter, and of course many other factors play into it, like how well your seem to be accepted by your peers socially, your ability to be a cool, chill guy, validation from others, women care far more socially whats going on then men. This is for social game , when you go out

for guys using online dating or social media to talk with girls, to text some of this doesn't apply but id say looks matter more meeting girls from your phone, and the video mentions that guys who have this do well

Every study that is done, it differs because of the people being studied. Maybe for those girls size matters or simply the guys got more confidence in their sex life with a bigger dick. Also,the preferred size is 7 with 4.7 by most of the girls based on a study where the girls were given dildos. Now pls enough with size. As for pickup, it depends which method you are using. Being a fuckboy best is always in ur twenties. As for pickup age doesn't matter. Mystery, the godfather of pickup is into his 50s and is still picking up girls. I only approve of his method if u want to build relationships, have a social life. He doesn't promote being a fuckboy. He exclusively said if u wanna get laid, then thats not for u and jts not gonna help. You can watch the reality show - the pick up artist and is all real and fun and will see for yourself. Beibg hot wont get u anywhere. Ugly guys there got laid too and have gfs now. Since pua evolved with misconception...mystery changed the name to being a Venusian Artist.
There are a lot of guys who are hot and still virgins in their twenties and thirties too.
Once again, nothing matters ( mystery said in sarcastic way if size mattered with a yes thus it doesn't since he been with hundreds of women) look him up.
Cheers! And pls stick to the topic.

**Ultimate Burrito** · 05-17-2020

Originally Posted by PEispossible

how do you feel about texting potential fwb?
Texting is fine. FWB is just that, friends with benefits. Friendship requires communication of some sort and that includes texting.

do you get to know them via a good amount of texts before meeting up ?
It varies upon the situation. Some girls jump right on in the sack, others need some time to be convinced you aren't a serial killer. Both should text enough to feel comfortable about meeting each other.

what about an ex you were committed to, have you ever hooked up with them a time or two or even a regular fwb?
Yes, one time it even led to a threesome.

after you hook up do you think its okay to text back and forth during the day for a while or keep it short and sweet, and text them?
Really depends on how much you like the person and how many other girls you are talking to at the time. If she's the only one, keep some solid communication going. If you have plenty then you can be more lax about it.

when its time to make plans?
No real answer for that one. Case by case.

theres so many rules I see online with fwb and I understand if you have no committed relationship or want one, or looking, its so much better than nothing obviously
Just be honest about your intentions from the start, make sure they know were you stand and don't be misleading.

do you think sowing these wild oats now will effect your relationship in the future if you want to stay committed and theres a fight?
If you want to stay committed, you will stay committed if there is a fight. That's just a part of relationships.

When I m comiited sure i see hot girls and want to have sex with them and I turn that part of my brain off and acknowledge it, and relize that if i dont want to see her getting fucked , I dont want to be fucking another. Sometimes it doesn't work that way because sometimes clues make me think a couple of my exes cheated, including this last one, as it comes down to habits, people revert back to their old habits unthinkingly I think, so i wonder if you can stay faithful if you decide one day to be committed
If you find the right person and take your commitments seriously you should have more than enough reason to say no to everyone else.

See my answers in red.

So bringing things back into topic and also adding more to what I've said in my responses in red...

There was a girl I met very recently that was not hot but had a great personality. Now there were some other things besides her not being my type "physically" that kept her in the "friend zone". She didn't have the type of career I was looking for in a partner, she also eluded to wanting kids possibly and that's a NO for me. I made sure it was clear that we were just something casual and nothing serious. She understood and still decided to see me.

A few days later I happened to meet a girl that was very very pretty, had a great career and a fun personality and as a bonus she was a Cali girl (which I've always found to be hot). She came over and spent 4 days with me after only talking less than 2 days over texts and a phone call. She kept getting better and better and we have so many common interests. We even went kayaking together this weekend on a 4 hour trip. As our time together was drawing to an end (she lives about an hour away) I told her that I was getting off of Tinder and solely focusing on her to she how things play out. She also indicated that she was looking for something serious and had been done with just having fun.

Now this story would have played out completely different if she was only hot. I probably would have kept my options open still afterwards. To me if a girl is only hot and interacting with her is always awkward it just kills the mood. Those need to only be the wham, bam, thank you ma'ams because the longer you are around them the more you start becoming turned off by their behavior and mannerisms. However, if the girl isn't hot but has an awesome personality, it is so much easier to overlook the lack of physical luster because you are attracted to who they are as a person and not the outward appearances as much.

Taking this point and running with it now...

I think the same honestly goes for girls. If the girl is attracted to who you are as a person, things like penis size become of less importance. However, if you have a big dick and act like an even bigger dick, you can get away with it if it's just wham, bam but the more they are around you the more they see your flaws inwardly and the more they become turned off. So just some food for thought guys.

**madyogi** · 05-17-2020

^^^^

Word!

Good luck with the Kayaker from Cali, bro!

**Anewlife** · 12-04-2020

Originally Posted by Ultimate Burrito

If you've been on the forums long enough you've likely come across a one of my detailed encounters with the ladies. Well I'm sharing this one to show that even I have flops and also get you guys's opinion.

There is this one girl that we have been friends with benefits since the beginning of this year. Her body would be a perfect 10 aside from her hair (it's very short and curly but still cute). She's mixed and has creamy skin, the perkiest tits I've ever seen, very fit and tone, no excess body fat, perfect ass and bout 5'4". She is also a straight freak! I've been teaching her some things about being in control and being dominant because I like to take turns and switch roles. She's even approached me about putting my cock in a cage, HARD PASS lol.

In spite of all that, her personality sucks. She can really make me feel like poop with some of the passive comments she makes, she fakes orgasms sometimes and then tells me she really didn't get off after I mention that I'm glad she was able to get her's, etc. So physically she is very attractive but inner qualities are not at all to me.

So here's what happened.

We had sex last Wednesday and I didn't cum through Sunday (still haven't at the time I'm typing this lol). We get together and she was supposed to have her way with me, tie me up and tease and get me off. It was horrible, I just wasn't into her enough to keep things going. Like if it's just fucking, no problem but something that requires more, no bueno. By the end I just wanted her to leave, it was so awkward and she was acting all pissy and getting mad that things weren't working well. We finally called it and cancelled any future plans.

I will admit, it really hasn't been fun with her anytime we met. I mean I enjoy how her body looks but there is no connection at all between us and it's just, meh.

So guys, have you ever met someone that was incredibly hot but things sucked because there was no connection at all besides the physical one?

Yes ive been there and it sucks

also the other way around real good connection but NO sexual chemisry at all

sucks too

somethimes i think to myself WHY are we going through all of this shit with women

but then i find myself few weeks later in the arms of another women putting up with her bullshit just to get laid

haha the irony

**Liam Strong** · 12-10-2020

I don't get what all this commotion is. You're a guy with testosterone, she is hot. Your brain doesn't rationalize making babies. It just looks for the most attractive and physically fit woman you can get.

It's only afterwards that you start asking questions. The hotter the girl, the more lenient we are when it comes to character flaws.

Just don't be stupid enough to marry those or make any dumb tattoos, and you will be fine