cant get over this size thing

[nagual65 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close nagual65]

ok, so I have asked this question in the forum some years ago and it did not end in a nice manner. since I havent gotten over it I'll ask for advice again.

My first two attempts in having sex ended up with me getting laughed at by two girls when I was a teenager and since then I have never approached a woman. That was more than a decade ago and I can still hear their laughter very clearly in my head as if it was yesterday.

Whenever I find someone attractive I either completely ignore that person or I move away from em and try to not be in their vicinity ever again.

I find the possibility of getting laughed at or not being able to satisfy a woman due to not being well endowed extremely disheartening.

I can not convince my self just with random motivational rhetorics to get over this mental block, no matter from what angle I try to look at this situation I always end up thinking well my dick is probably not good enough for this person or she will end up laughing at me and that's it. That's the end point of all my mental conversations with myself whenever I try to persuade myself to approach a girl.

I thought the PE thing would help my confidence but I didnt have any gains in the first six months of trying it which I assume is because of my ED and the ED is due to the fact that I am on shit tons of antidepressants (I'm already seeing a therapist, I've been seeing tens of em in all my adult life so stop suggesting it please). so I quit PE or rather postponed it to the time that I wouldnt be on antidepressants.

Here's my question: how much of my assumption regarding my size not being good enough to satisfy women is correct?

you see, I wonder if my perception regarding this issue has been shaped to protect myself without me really realizing it (which I hope is the case) or has been affected by watching porn all these years and thinking with myself: "If these dudes with giant dicks are giving women orgasms left and right then I probably cant do it cuz my dick is like half their size or even less than that"

PLEASE dont tell me "what about character, love, affection or communication and so on, or that I can give someone orgasms with just my mouth and my fingers" ..THOSE THINGS ARE NOT MY ISSUES. My issue is the very thing that I'm asking about.

[Pegasus AdministratorPE Gym EditorPEGym Hero ☺ Admin of the Month Mar 2015 Find all posts View Profile Close Pegasus]

Your penis is average size. So none of it .

A therapist might be the sort of help to get , I don't know why you think we can offer more helpful advice on a head issue than a pro ? or perhaps you just want to vent?

[nagual65 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close nagual65]

I am not venting. how did this come off as venting?
I wonder how much of what my therapist has said regarding this is to make me feel better and not based on reality of sex which I have no experience in.
That's why I'm asking other ppl.

So I can make women orgasm with my size?

[Jay1983 Senior MemberMember of the Month Apr 2014, Sept 2016 Find all posts View Profile Close Jay1983]

All my life I worried about size. Then I got older and realized, size isn't everything; it's just the plate under the cake.

Who needs the plate?

[nagual65 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close nagual65]

All my life I worried about size. Then I got older and realized, size isn't everything; it's just the plate under the cake.

Who needs the plate?

I dont understand your analogy dude. isnt it the case that if my dick was bigger sex would be more pleasurable for the chick?

[Jay1983 Senior MemberMember of the Month Apr 2014, Sept 2016 Find all posts View Profile Close Jay1983]

Vaginas come in different sizes, just like dicks.

With that being said... You could have a large dick, but have ED, or you could have DE, or even pre-e. Imagine having a large dick, but sex just didn't feel good, like it should, because said dick is desensitized.

It doesn't matter how big your dick is. If your EQ is good, and you're enjoying the sex, she will enjoy it just as much.

[Party Senior Member Member of the Month August 2016 Find all posts View Profile Close Party]

I started ay your size. Was more than enough to get my gal of 42 years off. I’ll admit she likes the bigger me. So what? Obviously what ever you were doing to get bigger wasn’t working. Clue us in on your efforts please.

but actually. It’s a head issue with you. I understand. We. Understand

[nagual65 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close nagual65]

I started ay your size. Was more than enough to get my gal of 42 years off. I’ll admit she likes the bigger me. So what? Obviously what ever you were doing to get bigger wasn’t working. Clue us in on your efforts please.

but actually. It’s a head issue with you. I understand. We. Understand

I used to do stretching and jelking for 20-30 minutes and then extender for 4 hours for about 6 months. didnt get any results. at the time, guys here told me that it was because of my ED that I didnt get results.

[madyogi Moderator Member of the Month April 2020PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close madyogi]

You asked, "how much of my assumption regarding my size not being good enough to satisfy women is correct?" Then you told us you didn't want to hear about how you can satisfy women with personality, foreplay, etc. I would argue no size is good enough to satisfy a woman without other elements, at least not in any meaningful way.

My wife can give herself an orgasm with a lipstick vibrator no larger than 4.5" x 2.5". I can give her an orgasm with clitoral stimulation and no more than the head of my penis teasing the inside of her vagina.

So, my answer to your question is the same as Pegasus, virtually none of your "assumption regarding [your] size not being good enough to satisfy women is correct".

That said, I hate that you had the experiences you had earlier, and I hope you can work your way out of the head games you're in.

[Jay1983 Senior MemberMember of the Month Apr 2014, Sept 2016 Find all posts View Profile Close Jay1983]

OP you can't ignore women any longer. Make friends, have fun, go fishing..

God what am I saying?? Women are crazy!!!! Lmao

[Pegasus AdministratorPE Gym EditorPEGym Hero ☺ Admin of the Month Mar 2015 Find all posts View Profile Close Pegasus]

Ummm your penis is average size what part of that is hard to understand ?

[not2big Senior Super ModeratorPEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close not2big]

I was 4.5” NBPEL and 5.5 BPEL anD as a result waited 26 years before loosing my virginity to a “professional“ On her day off who said she enjoyed my dick. I subsequently met my wife and kept her satisfied for over 40 years.

Get over your insecurity and practice using your dick on a real loving person.

[nagual65 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close nagual65]

Ummm your penis is average size what part of that is hard to understand ?

There is no reason for you to answer the question in this manner. you could have just said yes. jezuz..

[Pegasus AdministratorPE Gym EditorPEGym Hero ☺ Admin of the Month Mar 2015 Find all posts View Profile Close Pegasus]

I don't like repeating myself and this has been asked and answered .

Look up the stats any study with any cred will come out around those numbers roughly .

[nagual65 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close nagual65]

I don't like repeating myself and this has been asked and answered .

Look up the stats any study with any cred will come out around those numbers roughly .

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