I dont know if my gf enjoys sex with me.

[pencilman12]

Hello there. Is been quite some time since Ive last been here. Ok, here we go.

Ive been with my girlfriend for 3 years now. Im 26yo, and she is the only girl ive had, I even lost virginity with her. (Thats a whole other point that is bothering me sometimes) you can comment your thought on that subject too.

When we first started dating, and I started to get good at having sex things were awesome. We had sex most days of the week. But then after like 6 months things started to change. Sex got less frequent, she seemed disinterested. I knew she had problems at work and I respected that, I wansnt all caveman and demanding it.
But this one time she said something to me that has traumatized me to some extent. She was going down on me and When I came in her mouth, she spat it out and told me in a quite a rude tone that she is not going to swallow my disgusting cum anymore. She realized what she had said, apologized and explained herself, but that was the last time she did that. After that i feel like going down on me or giving a handjob is more like a chore for her rather that she wants me to feel good.

I go down on her, oh boy do I love going down on her, eating her ass and so on, she loves it, atleast I hope she does, I mean body doesnt lie, when she is twiching and shivering with her eyes rolled back I know she is having a good time.

But its the little things that really makes me question if shes really in to me anymore. We could have a shower with the plan to have sex afterwards, I come out of the shower, get in to bed, but she is more interested in playing her phone for extra 20 more minutes, in that time ive already lost the mood since I see that she has more important things to do, and when we finally start making out she wonders why im not getting hard. Well because all those little things that have been said and done play out in my head.

What I want your advice on, is , do I talk to her about it? How I feel?

[Party]

Of course talk to her. I think all guys have stories like this. Like you I lost my virginity to my now wife of 32 years and I could write a book the number of times she did not meet my expectations of how should react to my hard penis. I’ve left the bed a couple of time in the middle of sex.

Yes, I wonder what it would be like with another lady but that’s risky business. So I’ve refrained other’s advances. I guess for me it’s a question of whether I could bring another woman to orgasm(s). Vanity. I know.

[Physdoc]

Yes, you should talk to her about it rather than harboring it inside. But don't expect her to say something like, "my gosh I didn't that's how you felt, I'll be more horny for you from now on." What she might say is her side of the story, which might be her expressing her own dissatisfaction with you. Be prepared. If she says nothing, discounts your feelings, or is disinterested in you sharing your feelings, that's not a good omen for the future of your relationship.

[pencilman12]

Thank you for your replies! I will talk to her about this next time I see her, because of covid she cant go to office, and has to work from home, since our apartment is rather dark and depressive even on a bright sunny day, she went to stay with her parents for a while. Its about 170km away. And she has expressed that she is worried about ''what im doing all alone'' Meaning if Im cheating on her. It does get me a bit angry since she told me that she had drunk after nightclub sex with her fuckboy after we started seeing each other. I dont exactly see it as cheating since we went out only two times when It happened, But still something that bothers me. Even more the fact that she knew that the guy cheated on his GF with her and she was ok with it. Its just something that I think I did not need to know at all.

[GettingOverIt]

Sounds like a very moody person. If she knew her f boy cheated on his gf, then she also cheated. You can talk to her... but don't expect a good outcome. You said she was getting disinterested in sex after six months and you're together three years. That's not good. What happens after many years after today.
She might also just need a different atmosphere. Your place sounds boring and it should be more spontaneous rather than planned. You're living together and sounding like you guys are growing old together already.
Get a new apartment, or furniture or bedding, or something to change things up.

[BigO]

She said that's the last time she's swallowing your nasty cum....oooof.

I'd refuse her the dick for a week.

And yes, that does work for guys too, I may refuse it to her until she swallows that dong like a starving snake.

[Pegasus]

Have you thought of a new gf ? This does not sound promising.