Wife not impressed

[GettingOverIt]

So thanks for all the responses and kicks in the head, I appreciate it much.

I know you've all heard it before. But guys do go through these issues with spouses exes etc. And sometimes we just need to get it out, and any feedback helps... But I apologize if I annoyed you all.

Thanks.

[Jay1983]

Step one, ask a MOD to change your username. You don't need a constant reminder of the bullshit.
Step two, PE for you, not anybody else. This is not a competition; when it's treated as one, that's when people get hurt. Take care of yourself.

Bro she's married to you. Build yourself up. You're better than this. Sex is not about dick size, it's about arousal. Do this, get in her head in ways you never have. You want her to orgasm like she never has? That's how you do it. Arousal is in the brain, not just the genitals.

Confidence knocking? Build yourself up and strut your stuff and show her within actions that shit can't break you down. They love that shit.

And bro, stop talking to her about dick size yada yada yada. I know us men are OCD when it comes to that, but that's for us, not them. Decon break bro.

You got this.

[GettingOverIt]

Did you feel insecure about your penis before meeting your wife, or did it occur since you got with her?

Felt insecure from my first wife and not only penis wise...

[GettingOverIt]

Step one, ask a MOD to change your username. You don't need a constant reminder of the bullshit.
Step two, PE for you, not anybody else. This is not a competition; when it's treated as one, that's when people get hurt. Take care of yourself.

Bro she's married to you. Build yourself up. You're better than this. Sex is not about dick size, it's about arousal. Do this, get in her head in ways you never have. You want her to orgasm like she never has? That's how you do it. Arousal is in the brain, not just the genitals.

Confidence knocking? Build yourself up and strut your stuff and show her within actions that shit can't break you down. They love that shit.

And bro, stop talking to her about dick size yada yada yada. I know us men are OCD when it comes to that, but that's for us, not them. Decon break bro.

You got this.

Good advice. I'll work on that too. Positive note is that I know I can turn her on. You're also right that I shouldn't talk about it and deal with it like a man. But we should be allowed to whine about it here on pegym... if the need arises.

[Jay1983]

Good advice. I'll work on that too. Positive note is that I know I can turn her on. You're also right that I shouldn't talk about it and deal with it like a man. But we should be allowed to whine about it here on pegym... if the need arises.

I get it, but whining about it just breaks you down. The less you break yourself down, the less you need to be built up. Stay up.

[BigO]

I apologize. It's just very frustrating. I'm trying to get over it. This has really knocked my confidence.

I understand brother.

You just gotta stop beating your self down. At 7 inches and you being on of only 2 or 3 men shes ever been with, the odds of her having a 7 and one supposedly much bigger are statistically highly improbable.

Based on what you have been posting, I think she's using it as a weapon, may be time to think about counseling or an exit plan.

[southernprince]

Felt insecure from my first wife and not only penis wise...

So you acknowledge that the problem started before your current wife mentioned her bigger ex. The real issue is not that your current wife wants bigger dicks but that you were traumatized by your ex wife. Try to focus on healing, either through a therapist or on your own. Maybe there are guided meditation programmes for body dysmorphia or stuff like that, the internet is full of options.

[Himura]

I apologize. It's just very frustrating. I'm trying to get over it. This has really knocked my confidence.

You don't have to apologize, its a thing that sounds foolish but really shake us in our bases, measuring with a straight ruler im close to your size and i still hella insecure and started PE because of it, to feel better about myself.
Just keep trying to knock it off even if its hard, we gonna eventually accept ourselves and be happier bro.
Wish you the best!

[southernprince]

You're also right that I shouldn't talk about it and deal with it like a man. But we should be allowed to whine about it here on pegym... if the need arises.

I get it, but whining about it just breaks you down. The less you break yourself down, the less you need to be built up. Stay up.

Better whine here than to your wife so if that's the case it's understandable. But Jay1983 is right, we internalize what we say about ourselves.

[Jay1983]

Stay positive in your head bro, you'll get farther and be happier. Trust me, I know.