How to find a quality girlfriend/wife

[CLOSEDNymphGamerAddict]

That's quite simple on paper, most most Uni's will have these.

What do you mean by self control? It's very subjective in my opinion.

Also you mention that either you get attached or she does. What's wrong if she gets attached? Isn't that the point?

[Justalittlemoreplz]

Self control = doesn't sleep with every guy she meets.

Anyways best advice is quit looking. Live your life and figure out who you are and what you want. Then the right one will find you. Be honest about who you are with her and expect the same from her no matter how brutal. Then you will have a quality relationship.

[bbbonbon]

I don't know how you can tell much about a person in one meeting

[Ultimate Burrito]

You decide what quality is to you. The more people you date the more you can fine tune what the ideal person is for you. We all value different things above others and the ideal person will share those same values and priorities. I see ideal in three categories:

1. Logical/emotional
2. Sexual chemistry
3. Physically

[Pegasus]

I think the Op has head issues and that will make relationships difficult.

[CLOSEDNymphGamerAddict]

Self control = doesn't sleep with every guy she meets.

FYI there's waaaaay more guys out there that do this than girls do.

[Pegasus]

FYI there's waaaaay more guys out there that do this than girls do.

Yep and waaaay more double standard than there should be.

[tara123]

The qualities you find desirable in your 20s, wont be the same as in your 30s, 40s, 50s....

We forever change so my advice would be this:

Find someone with similar views as yourself on the big things like money, religion, politics etc
Find someone you want to hang out with once the lustful first few years are over with
Find someone who believes choosing to love someone is a daily choice

[Pegasus]

The qualities you find desirable in your 20s, wont be the same as in your 30s, 40s, 50s....

We forever change so my advice would be this:

Find someone with similar views as yourself on the big things like money, religion, politics etc
Find someone you want to hang out with once the lustful first few years are over with
Find someone who believes choosing to love someone is a daily choice

Yep but remember they might lie.

[neobne]

I actually understand the OP, in that if the person you're dating spews one of your deal breakers, how much more do you need to know about that person?

OP is clearly looking to be a little conservative, and less promiscuous personality. For him, bragging on about meaningless sex might me unacceptable.

Can we not just respect him, and try not force our individual values on him?