Hello members. I have been a casual PE-er and member here for awhile, and find myself in a situation desperately needing advice.
I have been with my GF and now fiance for 2 years now. She is far more sexually experienced and adventurous than I am. I have only been with her, and my ex-wife sexually.
Initially, the sex was very intense and, I thought, very satisfying for both of us. She would often squirt multiple times during an encounter. What I did not know, or realize, is that squirting is not the same thing as orgasming, according to her. That is my own ignorance and lack of experience I guess. She says she has not had an actual orgasm since we have been together. Needless to say, it is very frustrating for her (and me) and she has been clear she is not certain if it will work out between us because of this.
Often, after kissing and making out for awhile, she will go down on me (not until orgasm) and then I will do the same on her. I truly LOVE doing it and she seems to really be enjoying it to, but no matter what, she just cannot cum or I am not able to make her cum. She will often be soaking wet and have squirted and then usually rides me until I orgasm, but she is left without one and resentful. And I don't blame her.
She has said it has nothing to do with my penis size, and has had both larger and smaller lovers than me. Part of it may be psychological on her part; her adult daughter passed away a few years ago and the man she was dating at the time hurt her and she says she is afraid to be vulnerable with someone again, which may be impacting her orgasm ability. She can orgasm by herself from masturbation. Recently she has said if I can't make her cum soon, she wants an open relationship.
So with this long-winded backtory on my part, I could really use any tips or advice on both improving my sexual performance and getting her to relax and trust enough to cum with me.
I am truly at my wit's end here. I know I am not as experienced or skilled as some of her other lovers, but I am really working my ass off trying. Especially giving oral.
Open to all suggestions and help.
Thank you for reading,
Nate
I have been with my GF and now fiance for 2 years now. She is far more sexually experienced and adventurous than I am. I have only been with her, and my ex-wife sexually.
Initially, the sex was very intense and, I thought, very satisfying for both of us. She would often squirt multiple times during an encounter. What I did not know, or realize, is that squirting is not the same thing as orgasming, according to her. That is my own ignorance and lack of experience I guess. She says she has not had an actual orgasm since we have been together. Needless to say, it is very frustrating for her (and me) and she has been clear she is not certain if it will work out between us because of this.
Often, after kissing and making out for awhile, she will go down on me (not until orgasm) and then I will do the same on her. I truly LOVE doing it and she seems to really be enjoying it to, but no matter what, she just cannot cum or I am not able to make her cum. She will often be soaking wet and have squirted and then usually rides me until I orgasm, but she is left without one and resentful. And I don't blame her.
She has said it has nothing to do with my penis size, and has had both larger and smaller lovers than me. Part of it may be psychological on her part; her adult daughter passed away a few years ago and the man she was dating at the time hurt her and she says she is afraid to be vulnerable with someone again, which may be impacting her orgasm ability. She can orgasm by herself from masturbation. Recently she has said if I can't make her cum soon, she wants an open relationship.
So with this long-winded backtory on my part, I could really use any tips or advice on both improving my sexual performance and getting her to relax and trust enough to cum with me.
I am truly at my wit's end here. I know I am not as experienced or skilled as some of her other lovers, but I am really working my ass off trying. Especially giving oral.
Open to all suggestions and help.
Thank you for reading,
Nate
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