Its an honest question. Well first here's a little history: https://www.pegym.com/forums/relatio...criticism.html
If you're lazy to read that, basically since that big fight(not having sex anymore, selfish issues) we had half a year ago, we didn't break up. We said our sorry's, tried to improve on what our problems were in the relationship. 2 or 3 more fights of the same magnitude, we're here. The last fight was some time before christmas. She was saying I didn't have time for her, even though I was with her the night before. I have to mention that I'm taking up graduate studies, juggling that with being with my family once a week and her. Old issues were brought up and she mentioned that she's not happy with me anymore, that I don't turn her on anymore. I said that if that's the way she feels about me, then maybe we're just wasting each other's time. I decided to break it off with her. We were both hurting. Few days later, I realized it was a bit premature (may have been a mistake) to break it off with her so I decided to get back with her. THings were going good until the new year. Except that the last time we saw each other was before christmas because we both wen't home to our families for the holidays.
Next thing I find out(this is 2 days ago), is that she doesn't want to talk to me first till she gets back(indefinitely). Now before she stopped talking to me, I thought she was just busy being with family and all that. Then bad things got into my head like "what if she ended up cheating on me intentional or not?" That's when I was a bit aggressive to her asking why she didn't even let me feel about her presence. Apparently, she turned her holiday into a soul searching break. She says she was thinking about our relationship. I may have been too hasty in asking her "so we shouldn't have gotten back together?". She says she's still thinking about it.
For 2 days now, I've been tellling myself that the relationship is over. That whatever decision she makes when we meet, is that I'm going to tell her that its not really working anymore and that we're on the last thread of the relationship. I don't know if this is the right thing to do. I still love her but the more time I have not having contact with her, I start to realize that she may be a bit unstable. I'm not saying I don't have my own faults but I've been reading around and her attributes are that of someone with Borderline Personality Disorder and maybe some of Narcissistic Pesonality Disorder. She can also be an emotional bully sometimes. I thought it was just girls being girls (especially during PMS)
My question, is my head on the right track? I ask if she's crazy or just an artist is because she does have a lot of artistic abilities. Or does this go hand in hand? She's a very eccentric person.
I'm really confused about all this. I'm not looking forward to getting this relationship back to normal anymore. I'm starting to see other girls as someone I should have been with instead. Nice normal girls. Or is it just because I haven't had sex or a fulfilling relationship so I have those "goggles"? I've been feeling really lonely too this whole week. I'm not the suicidal type so I know I'll get through this. I just don't know if my mind is healthy right now what with all the stress I'm getting from this relationship and other important things in life.
Sorry for the long post and thanks for reading.
If you're lazy to read that, basically since that big fight(not having sex anymore, selfish issues) we had half a year ago, we didn't break up. We said our sorry's, tried to improve on what our problems were in the relationship. 2 or 3 more fights of the same magnitude, we're here. The last fight was some time before christmas. She was saying I didn't have time for her, even though I was with her the night before. I have to mention that I'm taking up graduate studies, juggling that with being with my family once a week and her. Old issues were brought up and she mentioned that she's not happy with me anymore, that I don't turn her on anymore. I said that if that's the way she feels about me, then maybe we're just wasting each other's time. I decided to break it off with her. We were both hurting. Few days later, I realized it was a bit premature (may have been a mistake) to break it off with her so I decided to get back with her. THings were going good until the new year. Except that the last time we saw each other was before christmas because we both wen't home to our families for the holidays.
Next thing I find out(this is 2 days ago), is that she doesn't want to talk to me first till she gets back(indefinitely). Now before she stopped talking to me, I thought she was just busy being with family and all that. Then bad things got into my head like "what if she ended up cheating on me intentional or not?" That's when I was a bit aggressive to her asking why she didn't even let me feel about her presence. Apparently, she turned her holiday into a soul searching break. She says she was thinking about our relationship. I may have been too hasty in asking her "so we shouldn't have gotten back together?". She says she's still thinking about it.
For 2 days now, I've been tellling myself that the relationship is over. That whatever decision she makes when we meet, is that I'm going to tell her that its not really working anymore and that we're on the last thread of the relationship. I don't know if this is the right thing to do. I still love her but the more time I have not having contact with her, I start to realize that she may be a bit unstable. I'm not saying I don't have my own faults but I've been reading around and her attributes are that of someone with Borderline Personality Disorder and maybe some of Narcissistic Pesonality Disorder. She can also be an emotional bully sometimes. I thought it was just girls being girls (especially during PMS)
My question, is my head on the right track? I ask if she's crazy or just an artist is because she does have a lot of artistic abilities. Or does this go hand in hand? She's a very eccentric person.
I'm really confused about all this. I'm not looking forward to getting this relationship back to normal anymore. I'm starting to see other girls as someone I should have been with instead. Nice normal girls. Or is it just because I haven't had sex or a fulfilling relationship so I have those "goggles"? I've been feeling really lonely too this whole week. I'm not the suicidal type so I know I'll get through this. I just don't know if my mind is healthy right now what with all the stress I'm getting from this relationship and other important things in life.
Sorry for the long post and thanks for reading.
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