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    Plain and simple, next time I go playing at AC, take advantage of a hooker there? It is not what I would usually do and I don't know how comfortable I would be with it. But there are some beautiful women and protection is always a priority, etc.

    I don't really know where else to go at this point. And what troubles me is that I feel so far away from it...As I did at 15 and 20. Now mentally, it seems like such a high and mighty task that I feel no hope in getting it done. I know it is as simple as going out to a bar or club and perhaps bringing someone home, but that is not really my style, and I don't drink anyways. So it would be hard to accomplish.

    This keeps me up at times and is very frustrating as I am wasting away the best yrs of my life in that regard- in terms of peak sexual health. Although 4/11 gives us all hope that we will be going strong for quite a while, thank god- haha.

    Anyways, what would you all suggest. I can see some positives and negatives myself. Right now I have the "pussy on a pedastol" and perhaps this will alliviate that whole shtick for me. It may just kind of open up my mind and make me a lot more comfortable going forward talking to girls and not being worried or putting them at such a distant option.

    If I am very nervous though, I can imagine having performance issues and then I am worst off than when I began. I would probably have a bad vibe afterwards too, knowing that is how I had to get it done.

    Truth be told, I am more so against it, but as time goes by it seems like the main option out there.

  • #2
    dude dont loose your virginity to a hooker...jeez. Meet a nice girl...fall in love and then have sex. I know this sounds gay but its way better with someone you love.
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    • #3
      Originally posted by Hockey_NY View Post
      Plain and simple, next time I go playing at AC, take advantage of a hooker there? It is not what I would usually do and I don't know how comfortable I would be with it. But there are some beautiful women and protection is always a priority, etc.

      I don't really know where else to go at this point. And what troubles me is that I feel so far away from it...As I did at 15 and 20. Now mentally, it seems like such a high and mighty task that I feel no hope in getting it done. I know it is as simple as going out to a bar or club and perhaps bringing someone home, but that is not really my style, and I don't drink anyways. So it would be hard to accomplish.

      This keeps me up at times and is very frustrating as I am wasting away the best yrs of my life in that regard- in terms of peak sexual health. Although 4/11 gives us all hope that we will be going strong for quite a while, thank god- haha.

      Anyways, what would you all suggest. I can see some positives and negatives myself. Right now I have the "pussy on a pedastol" and perhaps this will alliviate that whole shtick for me. It may just kind of open up my mind and make me a lot more comfortable going forward talking to girls and not being worried or putting them at such a distant option.

      If I am very nervous though, I can imagine having performance issues and then I am worst off than when I began. I would probably have a bad vibe afterwards too, knowing that is how I had to get it done.

      Truth be told, I am more so against it, but as time goes by it seems like the main option out there.
      Dude, you're in shape, You've got a huge peen, and you seem to be a genuinely nice guy. Your confidence should be through the roof... The only thing you gotta do with women is show them that confidence and tell them they'll have a ball if they come home with you. I don't know if I would mention they'd actually end up taking two balls and a bat before they enter the house, though.

      Also, if you refuse to pay for it, there's adult websites out there, with real women who just want to have sex. If it comes to that, you can try that option too... Just on my principles alone, I refuse to pay for chocha.

      That said, just to get it out the way, those are options. If you're willing to wait for someone who you really do care for, then that would be a better option. Honestly, sex is just hyped up masturbation that takes more energy unless it's with someone you care about.
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      Last edited by somebodyelse; 02-24-2011, 10:03 AM.

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      • #4
        Every guy that loses his virginity to a random slut regrets it. That's how I lost mine, it felt good and I was in a good mood the rest of the day, but honestly it was really underwhelming. It wasn't until I had sex with a girl I actually cared about that I got what all the fuss was about. I know it's hard to believe it, but sex really isn't that big of a deal. Once you find a girl where you both really care about each other, you won't care at all how many times you got laid before her.
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        • #5
          Get the hooker. Pay big money. Get an escort and do it right. Do not wait to fall in love lol. You can even tell them your situation, or better yet, phone in as a "friend" tell them "i have younger brother or friend who hasnt lost his virginity yet and we need to get him started".

          This way you will get a girl able to handle the situation. It will be worth it in the end. And yes once you have gotten your dick wet once it really changes and makes it much easier to do so again.

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          • #6
            The thing is that you're not going to overcome your main stumbling block and obtain your true desire - having a satisfying sex life and relationship. That'll remain even if you take a hooker and if worrying about it now makes you feel bad you'll be left with regrets afterwards in exchange for a few moments of physical pleasure.

            Rather try make the 'hard yards' (so to speak) and try interact with women more often. It's the far harder and slower option but you can only gain the confidence and experience you need gradually. To do that you need to interact with the ladies even when you fall on your face. Lots of us have been there and you can only turn that dial of confidence gradually through said experiences - good and bad.

            I understand it must be frustrating with your hormones raging and given the fact that you've tried so hard in life but if you can work on this final piece everything will start to fall in place. Maybe direct that testosterone towards focussing on overcoming this last barrier.

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            • #7
              Originally posted by phil88 View Post
              Get the hooker. Pay big money. Get an escort and do it right. Do not wait to fall in love lol. You can even tell them your situation, or better yet, phone in as a "friend" tell them "i have younger brother or friend who hasnt lost his virginity yet and we need to get him started".

              This way you will get a girl able to handle the situation. It will be worth it in the end. And yes once you have gotten your dick wet once it really changes and makes it much easier to do so again.
              No offense but I disagree with all of this. Paying for a hooker won't make you better with ladies.


              Originally posted by Shambok View Post
              The thing is that you're not going to overcome your main stumbling block and obtain your true desire - having a satisfying sex life and relationship. That'll remain even if you take a hooker and if worrying about it now makes you feel bad you'll be left with regrets afterwards in exchange for a few moments of physical pleasure.
              This on the other hand is perfect.

              The best thing you can do is stop trying so hard, girls can tell and its a big turn off for them. I don't know how old you are, but I'm guessing early to mid 20s? At that age girls tend to be more forward if they're into a guy. All you have to do is be able to tell when a girl's attracted to you, go up and talk to her and the rest works itself out.
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              • #8
                I don't think a hooker would solve your problems and if you put pussy on a pedestal then their is a chance that after you are with a hooker you will have some fall out with in yourself, i don't think paying for sex will help your sexual esteem or make you feel any more 'normal' or like the other guys your age..
                there is nothing wrong with the fact you don't go out drink and hook up.. there is nothing wrong with being a nice guy...
                it sounds like you are shy and a little awkward and just need to work on your social confidence...the sexual peek of your life occurs when you want it too.. for some it happens a little later in life ..there is nothing wrong with that.
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                • #9
                  Originally posted by phil88 View Post
                  Get the hooker. Pay big money. Get an escort and do it right. Do not wait to fall in love lol. You can even tell them your situation, or better yet, phone in as a "friend" tell them "i have younger brother or friend who hasnt lost his virginity yet and we need to get him started".

                  This way you will get a girl able to handle the situation. It will be worth it in the end. And yes once you have gotten your dick wet once it really changes and makes it much easier to do so again.

                  Horny much phil?!?! at the moment you are completely thinking with your cock..its so obvious with all of your posts lately and its quite sad to be honest.
                  sex with a hooker rarely builds sexual confidence...unless the man already is sexually defined in himself and he manages to hook up with a hooker and not pay for it...then that does stroke the sexual ego..
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                  • #10
                    lol are you trying to appeal to the better man in me? Shame me into being a better person, because I know better I am expected to be better? You find it sad? Yet you make no attempt to find out why. You assume its just me wanting to get laid. Well thank you for the pity, it is good to know I have failed to meet yet another persons standards.

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                    • #11
                      What do you mean i make no attempt to find out why .. i have spent plenty of time chatting with you on the subject of you and the subject of females... and no you can't emotionally manipulate me to feel guilt about what i have said .. I stand by it.
                      I don't want this thread to be hijacked talking about you .. you can PM me privately if you wish to discuss it further.
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                      • #12
                        I would like to thank you guys for the encouragement and good thoughts...much appreciated.

                        You have all given me something to think about and it definitely seems there is a popular opinion.

                        As noted, the main problem is that I am pretty shy and that stems from a lack of confidence. I am not much at small talk either and I know that is important when first meeting someone. I'm not one of those "bad boys" that a lot of women find sexy, but I would definitely treat my GF well and make her happy. I have descent interests, etc.

                        It is just hard because I rarely get hit on, although I guess since I don't get out much into 'the scene' that is to be expected.

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                        • #13
                          Don't lose your virginity to a hooker. It won't accomplish anything imo.
                          I didn't lose my virginity before 21 either and it was more due to luck than anything, but oh well.

                          If you're really keen on it, go out more and practice talking to girls. Or do some activities where there are girls: taken dancing lessons before? tried language exchange partners before?
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                          • #14
                            Not a bad idea...It is true, most of my hobbies are generally men team type things or more so independent.

                            I actually think yoga is great for the body, but it would definitely put me out of my comfort zone...

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                            • #15
                              Originally posted by Hockey_NY View Post
                              I would like to thank you guys for the encouragement and good thoughts...much appreciated.

                              You have all given me something to think about and it definitely seems there is a popular opinion.

                              As noted, the main problem is that I am pretty shy and that stems from a lack of confidence. I am not much at small talk either and I know that is important when first meeting someone. I'm not one of those "bad boys" that a lot of women find sexy, but I would definitely treat my GF well and make her happy. I have descent interests, etc.

                              It is just hard because I rarely get hit on, although I guess since I don't get out much into 'the scene' that is to be expected.
                              Hey don't worry about being shy, you can be shy and confident at the same time, besides a lot of girls think the shy/awkward thing is cute as long as you have other redeeming qualities. It seems like you have these preconceived notions that no woman would want a guy like you, but unless you're a complete tool that's just not true.
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