Getting better and better...kind of...

**Kryodragyn** · 03-28-2011

Hey guys, I'm pretty new here. I've been lurking these forums for about 5 months now, but this is my first post ever. I'm hoping maybe I can get some great feedback from you guys.

So, my g/f and I have been going out for quite some time, about 7 months now. There is a long, complicated story involving the past between the 2 of us. I'm not gonna bother explaining that part, since it's not important. But her and I have known each other for about 4 years now, we actually have been working together since we've met. We decided to start dating 7 months back, after I made the first move and kissed her. Now her and I aren't really in a relationship, more or less VERY close friends. We both would like to be in one but there is an underlying issue (she's waiting for this govt. job to get back to her to confirm if she will be accepted or not, if she does, then she has to move away from here) hence the reason we aren't taking it to relationship status until we get things settled out.

Anyway, I'd like to get that part out of the way and get to the good stuff. So I'm 25 coming to 26 mid April, and I officially lost my virginity to her back in February. Now, the first time was actually incredible! Well, let me put it this way, I knew just by being a virgin I wasn't going to last long my first time, so I had her relax and I went down on her for a good 5-10 minutes. She was extremely surprised as to how good I was with my tongue and fingers. I knew I did at least one thing great, because my hand was soaked. After that, we kissed and had sex...for about 30 seconds >_>

Well, second time came along, about a couple weeks later, and she had me sit in a chair, while she settled down on me and we had sex. This time I actually lasted a good minute and some change. Well, tonight I came over to her house and we went at it, for my third official time. We had a great make out session, I had her relax and went down on her again for a good 10 minutes, then we went for more sex. Well, this time she wanted me to fuck her while she laid on her stomach on the bed. Unfortunately I only lasted a good 20-30 seconds this time around. I think this position was TOO advanced for me for my third time.

My main question about all of this is, am I going to improve on the longevity? I mean, everyone says yes, but I just get mad at myself when I can't last longer than a minute, and feel like I'm really disappointing my g/f. She even tells me to not worry and that over time I'll get better at this. I'm glad she supports me and everything, but if any of y'all knew me, you'd know I'm the BIGGEST perfectionist. I just hate seeing myself do so badly with sex. I know going down on her, she DEFINITELY likes, because of how wet she gets. I guess maybe I may be too hard on myself, I mean this was only my third time. I'm thinking next time missionary position, since that could actually be a much easier way to improve.

TL;DR: I've only had sex three times, and am beating myself up for not lasting longer than a minute. Any advice? Am I being too hard on myself?

**Qarzan** · 03-28-2011

I'd say, practice ballooning, which is edging without the ejaculation at the end. Edging is bringing yourself to the "point of no return" (right before you're about to cum) and then backing off. After ballooning, I increased my stamina from 10 mins to 30 mins. Plus it feels pretty good.

Check out this thread: https://www.pegym.com/forums/beginne...ing-101-a.html

**Kryodragyn** · 03-28-2011

Oh awesome! Thank you for the quick, late night response Qarzan! I'll try it out for sure. Any other feedback from anyone is also welcome. I guess for me it just feels so damn good when we start having sex, I kinda pull the trigger a bit too soon, lmao. I guess being a new comer to sex is a tough journey to overcome.

I'm hoping I get better. I actually recently started doing kegels as well. I'll try out the ballooing technique alongside with kegels.

**MrBigDick** · 03-28-2011

You can also try edging for longevity. Yes, I do believe you are being too hard on yourself. Give yourself a break. You'll be fine man.

**GTO** · 03-28-2011

Consider yourself fortunate and just relax. Along with the ballooning and edging exercises, during actual intercourse, concentrate of breathing an don't be afraid to stop and/or change positions when you find yourself getting close.

**Kryodragyn** · 03-28-2011

Hey thanks a lot for the support and tips guys! I'm definitely going to try those techniques! You guys have been EXTREMELY helpful and am glad we have forums like this. Thanks again!

**BuffaloSoldier03** · 03-28-2011

Make sure you are on top so you can control the action. Every time you feel yourself getting close, slow down, and makeout with her a little bit. More kissing during sex is great! It really makes things a lot more passionate. Do not attempt doggy style! That 30 seconds will turn into 10 seconds! lol. Also dont trying using those "ejaculation control" condoms or creams, they just make everything feel numb and you will have a hard time keeping it up.

**WhatAwanker** · 03-28-2011

https://www.pegym.com/forums/prematu...ease-read.html

good post here on subject

**Kryodragyn** · 03-28-2011

Thanks for more tips and the link guys. Gonna try some things out and report back on a new topic if everything goes better. I'd at least like to last 5 minutes (but if I could do more than that, that's all the better!)

**RockstarParkingDude** · 03-29-2011

something that we as young men dont realize is that we are never good at something the first time we do it. everything in life worth doing takes much time and effort to become a master of. sex is no different. try try try try and try some more. seriously give it 100 times before you expect to be really good at it. try to screw 3 times a day dude.

you can do what i used to do... you can have her go down on you first. its really for her benefit. come in her mouth first, and you'll be last longer when you fuck her - if you need recovery time, go down on her. just because you came, doesn't mean it has to be over. just smile, touch her naughty bits, and say 'i'm not done with you yet'. you can come two or three times in an hour of playtime, especially if you're highly sensitive down there.